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Not What I Expected! (Roo)

January 7, 2010

Age: 22
Number of Preg. and Births: 1
4 months postpartum

I’m going to try and make this as short as possible. I became pregnant in November of 08. Whoo was I surprised!!! I was so scared and happy at the same time. I had a very hard pregnancy, not because of health…but because my boyfriend was not happy. It still upsets me that I wasn’t able to share my happiness and excitement with him, talk about our future son, shop for baby things etc. We stayed together…which is still unbelievable to me. I didn’t know until the day I had our son if he was going to be around or not. I’m still not sure what made him decide to stick around, but I’m glad he did. He loves our little boy more than anything : ) Anyway, before I had our little boy I modeled. Most of what I modeled was swimsuits for Tease Um bikini. I thought my pre-pregnancy body would snap right back. Boy was I wrong! I have some stretch marks and loose skin. I feel so gross. I’m not really dealing with this very well. I don’t think my bf finds me very attractive anymore. I don’t know, I guess I’ll get used to it. All I know is that my baby was and is worth every imperfection I have now.

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13 Responses to “Not What I Expected! (Roo)”

  1. Deb Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 2:32 pm

    I hear you. I don’t know what’s worse, hearing my husband say “you look great” knowing he’s lying, or him just not saying anything anymore. He used to get on my nerves he was so into me, but now he keeps a safe distance- like he’s afraid I’ll squirt milk at him or pop a stitch or something (i’m a month pp).

    I don’t know- it’s hard to blame them. My husband’s not a jerk, he’s a great dad and he makes me pancakes when i’m hungry, and he’s awesome :) I can’t expect that he’ll not respond in some different way to how I’ve changed. If the tables were turned- if he were the one with all the changes, I can’t say I’d react any differently than he is. After my first child, my husband started being normal with me again after about 7 or 8 months pp- when I was relatively back to my normal self. Chin up. If your boyfriend is a decent dude, he’ll show it now more than ever, and he’ll need some room to just react to your changes. YOU need some room to react to your own changes- allow it all to run its course. Try real hard not to take it personally. The majority of women who’ve had babies say the same thing- 9 months to put it on, and 9 months to get it off- makes sense doesn’t it? Be patient and hang in there. And most importantly, congratulations!

  2. Kerry Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 2:36 pm

    You look terrific! And your little one is pretty darn cute :) Your belly looks very tight. I have wrinkles at my button cause my skin is loose. You look very fit!

  3. Bryana Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 4:02 pm

    You look FANTASTIC!!
    Who cares if your body isn’t the same as before. Quite frankly, I think it’s even more gorgeous now than before. You have the body of a very healthy and fit mama! If your boyfriend isn’t “pleased” with your body, then screw him, because huney, you look amazing. I am sure 99% of the moms on this site would give anything to look as amazing as you do at 4 months pp!
    Please look in the mirror and realize how beautiful and amazing your body is!

  4. Samantha Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 5:18 pm

    You look great, esp. for only being 4 months PP! Congrats hun!

  5. Lauren Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 7:01 pm

    If your bf doesn’t find you sexy now than he is CRAZY! You look hot!

  6. mrs. petunia Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 7:57 pm

    OK, I’m not even joking, are there any after pictures on here? Is the one with the jeans/ animal print bra or the little blue lace up dress supposed to be an after? I’m confused. Anyway, from what I can tell from the pic of you holding your son you are incredibly beautiful. If your boyfriend can’t see that he’s dim witted.

  7. Roo Says:
    January 7th, 2010 at 10:02 pm

    The first 3 pictures are a year before I had my baby. The second row is the day I had my baby. The last 5 pictures are me 3 months postpartum.

  8. Brittany Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 6:37 am

    Im a big girl. I have no problems saying that. You have nothing to worry about at all. You look gorgeous and just think even if you are a little flabby…you could work that off quicker than I could. Your Beautiful…you should know that.

  9. Patty Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 7:12 am

    omg momma, you’re beautiful!! I assume the pix after the ones with your baby are post-partum and you still look amazing!! & WOW did your boobs get huge lol. anyway you should be proud of how you look n I think any guy that wouldn’t want you is just nuts! maybe your man is a lil spoiled? lol

  10. shannon Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 7:19 am

    It is ALL in your head…you have no stretch marks/lose skin/fat/anything. Some day, if you have more kids, or when you are older, you will look back a realize how silly you are being…bc you do not look like you have had ANY kids, let alone had a kid just a few months ago.

  11. TracyKM Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 7:24 am

    Please give yourself more time!!! Your body stretched and grew larger for 9 1/2 months; of course it’s going to take more than 4 months to reverse that. It takes 6 weeks (and sometimes more) just for the uterus to return to it’s pre-pregnancy size! You’re not imperfect! Just impatient :) (and your boyfriend is shallow and why build a relationship on looks?).

  12. Anna Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 8:27 am

    Your little boy is insanely adorable!! So are you! I’d bet money your boyfriend still finds you as attractive as before. If not, he has problems that have nothing to do with you. Hold your head high, be happy. and live a great life!

  13. shannon Says:
    January 8th, 2010 at 8:33 pm

    I am laughing! I thought you were going to look horrible and you look better than before! You are a woman now, not a kid anymore-tell bf to get over it or get out the door!

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