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No Longer a Size 0 (Anonymous)

March 31, 2009

I’m a 17 year old mother and have barely came to terms with my new body. Before becoming pregnant I was a size 0 and I weighed only 100lbs It has been 9 months after having my daughter and it has been a very depressing long road. I have done many things to help me loose weight, although I have lost some I’m still unsatisfied with my body. I always had been known as the skinny girl with big boobs. I automatically thought I would go back to my size after having my baby. Little did i know I was wrong. Upon having my daughter I gained nearly 50 lbs!Now, I weigh about 130 and although I’m still unhappy with my body i have come to terms with the fact that I will no longer be able to wear a size 0 pair of jeans. I’m only 17 years old and I have stretch marks that cover my stomach. I will no longer be able to wear shirts that show my stomach or a bikini maybe in a couple of years once they fade a little bit. I’m determined to loose that extra weight and get my stomach back to being flat and not flabby. This website helped me realize that I’m not the only person out there going through this.

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13 Responses to “No Longer a Size 0 (Anonymous)”

  1. annon Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    i know exactly how you feel, im literally like your double. i think cz we so young makes it harder and the fact that we were skinny befre.going out makes me really depressed and i just cry ecspecially as my friends can wear what they want.my stretchmarks r my biggest worry ive spent hundreds on laser surgery and still i see no difference.just the thought of summer and not being able to show my body on the beach or just even wear a pair of shorts depresses me. im that depressed about the way i look i wont leave my bf so much as look at me in underwear. just try and realise you look fantastic your belly is nothing. keep moisturising them stretch marks, self tan also helps and apparantly a real tan is even better.

  2. tamara Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 2:00 pm

    i know too know exactly how u feel!!! i was 19 when i had my son and i was known as the girl that should be a playboy centerfold lol!!!! now i am far far far far from that….i have stretch marks from my boobs to my ankles!!! literally…i will never be able to wear shorts or even a cute one piece cz of all the ones i have on my legs…i hate it! i really do…but im 16 months pp and i have come to accept them…plus i use moisturizers on them daily…and they fade…i know in time they will only get better…as for the weight its really depressing also…i am actually down to 120 now but am still not too happy with the way my body looks… my tummy skin is still very much loose….so i took on doing pilates…u can see the results on this site actually under UPDATE 14 MONTH PP (TAMARA) i really wish u all the best…just know ur not the only one…and remember confidence is everything…ur still beautiful! take care

  3. Mary Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 4:08 pm

    Having your body change so much when your young is hard, it can make you feel like you didnt have time to enjoy it. ThewayI see it, you might not look like other 17 year olds, but when your in your 30′s and your body has had all that time to recover (while others are usually recently recovering from having children), your going to be the hot amazing 30 something! Be patient, the confidence will come back! And you dont have a lot to improve on, you look really good!

  4. Ann Marie Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    I am in the same boat as you. I got pregnant at 18 and was a size 3, not a 0 but close. I was 119 pounds before I got pregnant and I gained 75 pounds at the end of my pregnancy due to being on bedrest!!! My son is now almost a year old and I still have to lose about 20 more pounds as I fluctuate between 138-141 lbs. now. I havent been very faithful though to dieting and exercizing. I will go to the gym 3-4x a week and do weight watchers and then the next month I am there eating double my portions and not doing any physical exercise. I told myself that I am going to stop yo yo dieting and start working out and not quit doing it anymore! I am determined to lose my weight and I do know that I will never look the same. Our side pics look almost identical, you have that little mama pooch like I do at the bottom of our tummies :) We just need to wear it proudly knowing we are now mommies and not hot little teenagers anymore :/ We need to just be proud, I am right there with you, it is hard to “just be proud of our bodies” but I think with time it will become much easier. I also have been going tanning a lot now and my stretchmarks are looking a lot better and less noticeable. It helps me to feel a lot better of myself even though it isnt good for you. You can view my post if you search ” young 20 year old mother and wife”. Good luck and hang in there you will eventually lose it!

  5. kay Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 6:55 pm

    i know exactly how you feel because I had a baby really young too and was always too self-conscious to have anyone see my marks. What i came to realize is that other people don’t care about it as much as you might think.
    You look really good by the way! All the best in reaching your goal weight!

  6. Jessica F. Says:
    March 31st, 2009 at 8:37 pm

    One day you will read this and think of it completely different hun. You look great! It’s not about the numbers (pant size, weight, etc). It’s about overall health physically and mentally and that beautiful baby you are raising. The average woman size is 12 and you are now a women. At 130 lbs you are most likely a 3,4,5,or 6 which puts you way under “average”. Hang in there! Acceptance comes with time and patience.

  7. anonymous Says:
    April 2nd, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    you look great! Stay positive. I have had three kids and it takes time for that weight to come off. I am now 12 months postpartum with my third baby and have been able to go back to my prepregnancy weight and back to a size zero. Yes your body has changed and may not be in the exact same shape, but if you work at it with a healthy diet and exercise you can get back into shape and look just as fit. The stretch marks will fade, it takes time.

  8. K Says:
    April 4th, 2009 at 5:29 pm

    The average woman is a 12?! Wow. I am a 12 (I’ve been everything from 0-13) and I feel huge.

    Anyway. You look amazing! I don’t see why you can’t wear a two piece. Stretch marks are not a reason to hide. They might not be apart of what you want to look like, but they ARE apart of you now. I was wearing a 2 piece the week after I had my third baby. I have stretch marks, on my sides and hips and legs and boobs, but I didn’t let them stop me from enjoying my life. I don’t have the extra skin with the stretch marks because it’s filled in…with FAT! Ha!

    I promise you, nobody will look at YOUR body and think “Ew. Gross. She should cover that up.” Confidence is everything, my dear. And you have a lot to be confident about!

  9. Pamela Says:
    April 5th, 2009 at 8:37 am

    I was a size 0/1 when before I got pregnant. I was 5’5 and my weight ranged from 110-113 pounds of so..Like you I was young (22) when I had my daughter. I come from thin family and have been curvy but thin all my life so I just assumed I would bounce back. Boy was I wrong!

    I changed my eating habits and have noticed results in my weight but my tummy is still like yours. DD just turned 2 and I am only a few pounds away from my pre pregnancy weight and I am happy with my body except for my stomach that looks like jello.Pregnancy gave me nicer curves and larger (but saggy)breast but my stomach is wriggly and I hate seeing myself naked. Me, the woman that looked gorgeous in bikinis has not worn one since DD was born..I hate not being able to rock bikinis like I use to. Hang in there hun, I am not going to tell you you will get a 6 pack because pregnancy stretches out your skin but it will go down eventually..no one tells you your body never does go back but its the price you pay for a miracle inside you.

  10. tara Says:
    April 10th, 2009 at 9:34 am

    you are freakin hot! i think you look great embrace your beautiful body! i was a size 5 before i got pregnant. i’m currently a size 11-13 so don’t feel bad about it. i embrace my stretchmarks and booty as much as i can.

  11. Mama Says:
    April 11th, 2009 at 1:18 am

    I was a size zero in high school, too. But if it helps you, I was in a size 5 before I had my daughter at age 22. You would’ve gained weight naturally just because you would have become a woman. Now as far as your body goes now? Womanly and beautiful. You should know how blessed you are. You are petite and lovely! Congratulations. Remember: Strength comes from within. If you want to be stronger, you have to be your own driving force. ;)

  12. Shannon Says:
    April 14th, 2009 at 10:15 am

    I just wanted to say that you HAVE to stop comparing yourself to “before you had the baby.” Put it behind you and work with what you have NOW. Size 0 isn’t what you should work towards but rather having good muscle tone and being happy with what you have now because no matter how much time you waste crying about your body you can’t go back-you can only focus on the future! I understand its hard-I had 2 children before I was 24 and still have stretch marks and loose skin…I work with what I have though! Keep your chin up girl and maybe you should hang out with some other moms instead of girls who haven’t had the joy of going through pregnancy and watching the amazing changes that take place.

  13. Lynne Says:
    May 11th, 2009 at 7:59 pm

    I wish you could see yourself through my eyes. You look very good, and I can see that it wouldn’t take that much effort to tone your abdominal area. You don’t need to lose weight, and your skin is in good shape. Walking with baby and doing crunches would tone you up in no time. Also, be kind to yourself, you’re beautiful!

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