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My Story (Anonymous)

December 10, 2010

My 1st child
I am 26 yrs old
I had a c section due to my baby heart rate dropping. I am not proud of my body at all. I had a really good doctor deliver my daughter. You cant see my incision. I am 2 1/2 months postpartum but my daughter will be 3 months nov. 15th 2010. I want a flat belly again but I dont know if I ever will because of the c section. Its like the incision is a shelf for fat. I am back to my pre pregnancy weight which is 123lbs. I just want to lose the stomach and the nasty stretch marks. I feel disgusting. I was already suicidal and now this is the icing. But I want to be with my daughter. I am married but my husband says im being foolish so I keep my feelings to myself now. I dont know what to do.

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19 Responses to “My Story (Anonymous)”

  1. Shannon Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 7:47 am

    You are beautiful, you are beautiful, you are beautiful…I will keep saying it until you see it! You look great. You had MAJOR surgery just weeks ago. People always forget that a cesarean is major surgery, give your body time to recover. You already look amazing! Mo overhang, I can’t see any stretch marks, and your tummy is practically flat. Your husband is right, you are being silly. Your body grew an entire person in only 9 months…we always expect to be back to our pre baby bodies too fast….as if we don’t want any reminder of the gift our bodies gave us. It is silly! Anyway…you are BEAUTIFUL :)

  2. Shannon Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 7:48 am

    I meant no overhang…not mo overhang!

  3. Ana Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 9:11 am

    You look great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am 4 month postpartum and still have stomach bigger than yours, and I am also 123 lbs:))) Give it some time, it will go away. But seriously you look really good after only 2 1/2 months!!! U look pretty athletic too, so you will get in there for sure!!! Good luck!!!!!!

  4. lisa Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 12:30 pm

    talk to your dr about your depression and suicidal thoughts. do NOT take a chance. i had post partum depression after i delivered my twins at 23 weeks, one was stillborn, and my dr put me on zoloft – safe to nurse/pump on and it did make a world of difference. i was able to just think clearly and make better decisions and heal.you don not have to be on it forever, and can wean off when you are more stable. also remember you are not very far from having the baby! give yourself time. you really do look good and you will look even better in time!

  5. Amy Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 12:32 pm

    You look great. Congratulations on your little girl. I had a c-section and got all the streatch marks too. They do fade – and your belly can be flat again (mind you you dont look far off. Best of luck in the future :)

  6. Sarah P. Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 1:33 pm

    Sweetie, I just really want to encourage you to talk to a counselor about these things and talk to your doctor about postpartum depression. I think that needs to be taken care of TODAY.

    I also want to encourage you in your self-image. You aren’t seeing what we’re all seeing. That’s a warped view of reality. You’re a beautiful woman and it’s kind of hard to believe you’ve had two kids and you’re ONLY 2 months postpartum because you look unbelievable!

    Please take action now. Postpartum depression strikes the best of us – especially those with a history of depression. I know you can make it through this. You need a support system, though. Whether it’s an online support group, a group that meets in your area, or a counselor at the local counseling building – it doesn’t matter.

    I hope you will make it through this. *hugs*

  7. Sarah P. Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 1:35 pm

    I apologize. ONE child. I thought you said you had another daughter. My eyes jumped around. Irregardless, you still look unbelievable. With my first, I didn’t look that good until four or five months postpartum. Chin up, sweetie.

  8. Susy Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 2:54 pm

    You look great! Your body is NOT a failure. It grew your daughter!

  9. Antwanette Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 3:13 pm

    Congratulations on your blessing!!! You look great. I have three children ages 4,2 and 1.. I am back down to my prepregnancy weight.. I tummy is not flat but I do think Zumba (dance exercise) class really helped me to lose the fat in my mid section. Look into it. Its tons of fun!! Good Luck. You are doing great!!!! Be encouraged!

  10. lamina Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 10:18 pm

    U looked good trust me I felt the same way about my body my story is up here 5 weeks pp (almost there) I had an c section and I recoverd great the key to it is to get the skin to retacch to the muscle my working out your transverse abs buy a dvd or look up to excersie read my story and sucidal for what? You have a beautiful baby and enjoy motherhood your body will come back it just takes work!

  11. Stephanie Says:
    December 10th, 2010 at 10:42 pm

    Hi, I’m 27, 26 when i delivered my little girl via c-section, she will be 6 months on the 22nd.
    I totally understand where your coming from! I’m not really used to the new me yet either, but EVERYONE keeps telling me to wait a year before i start worrying, i believe them because my stomach looks a hell of a lot better than it did right after the surgery, even at 2, 3 and 4 months pp…. I’m writing you to let you know it WILL look better just give it time.
    Your stomach WILL go down, and from what i see you look FABULOUS!! you just created life, your baby took 9 months to create, give your body at least 9 months to recover.

    And honestly, if your already your pre-pregnancy weight (in my opinion) you wont have to wait long. And if not work on it. I had to work my butt off for 5 months to get my pre-pregnancy weight in line.. feel blessed lol.

    Like i said, from what i see, you look great!! and the more time you give it the better you’ll look!! trust me! You ask ANY mother on this web site or any where else they will all tell you the same thing, it will get better just give it time :) and good luck to you beautiful!!

  12. Marz Says:
    December 11th, 2010 at 12:21 pm

    If you’re feeling suicidal, then definitely do NOT keep your feelings to yourself. Your husband, even though he says you’re being foolish, I’m sure he’d be far more alarmed if he knew the extent to what you were feeling.
    Talk to your doctor. My doc put me on Zoloft when I was 38 wks for anxiety and as a buffer for PPD- currently I’m 12 days postpartum.
    (I’ve been struggling with recovery from an eating disorder for over a decade, this is the first time I’ve been given meds and I really do feel amazing. Please talk to your doc; I was stubbornly against medication for my whole life, but I’ve gotta say it helps tremendously.)

  13. Victoria_This my story Says:
    December 12th, 2010 at 11:54 am

    I want to thank everyone for your support and encouragement. It made me feel a little better because I know that im not alone. As for my depression, its extremely hard to overcome. The only thing that is keeping me here is my daughter, and sometimes I still feel like life is not worth living for. I am embarrassed about my dwpression thats why no one in my family knows about it and my husband ignores it so, I keep everything bottled up. As for my stomach its getting better but I do not want anymore kids. Thats it, my daughter is enough. Again thank you all for your support. I really needed that. :)

  14. terri c Says:
    December 13th, 2010 at 12:12 am

    Please hang in there and at least tell your doc or midwife about the depression. The depression is what is making it hard for you to see how beautiful you are! Lots of people are pulling for you!

  15. elvira Says:
    December 14th, 2010 at 3:10 pm

    my belly looked the same after a csection and after my natural birth from my first baby. 15 mths down the track from my csection and my belly is flat – so hang in there honey – it will get better. i also have the same body proportions you have by the look of your pics.
    so please just have faith in time making the swelling go down and the scar will probably fade to almost invisable too.

  16. Cherie Says:
    December 14th, 2010 at 11:48 pm

    I am 28 yrs old, I just had a c-section as well. My baby will turn 2 months old in 2 days. I have the same belly as you do, and my upper body seems become a lot bigger than before. I gained 30 lbs during pregnancy and i still have 8-10 pounds to lose to go back to my original weight. Just give it some time, slowly start to exercise, i think it will get better. (that’s what I am telling myself to keep my spirit up)

  17. Angela Says:
    December 16th, 2010 at 10:21 am

    I love your little belly!!! I just wanted to share that I went into depression after the birth of my 2nd child – I didn’t do anything about it for a long time until I felt that I might lose everything I loved if I didn’t take action. It turns out all I needed was thyroid (that and a great therapist!). My life has changed so much that I wish I had taken action earlier, I just didn’t know. I missed so much joy because of the depression, but I am fully enjoying my life and my family now. It’s never too late! I send you my unconditional love and support, and I see you learning to love yourself and your body over time, just be kind and patient with yourself :)

  18. Stefanie Says:
    December 16th, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    You deserve to enjoy your baby, enjoy being a mother, and enjoy yourself, ESPECIALLY if you do not intend to have any more children. Babies grow and change so quickly – I would hate for you to miss out on the joy because of untreated postpartum depression. It is more common than people realize. It is NOT your fault, it is caused by a hormonal or neurochemical imbalance, not some character flaw or personal weakness, and there is no shame in asking for help when it is so bad it feels as if life may not be worth living. If you had a broken leg, would you ignore it and hope it goes away on its own? Would your husband say you are just being silly? Of course not! PP depression is just as debilitating – it is a broken spirit. For some reason, people don’t always take seriously injuries that are emotional or mental as much as ones that are physical. Therapy and / or medication can make an enormous difference in helping you heal. PLEASE talk to your doctor or midwife ASAP! I am praying for you.

  19. Steve Says:
    January 16th, 2011 at 1:21 am

    If you have not seen a dr. yet about postpartum depression you need to and dont go without your husband. You will need his loving support to get through this.

    My thoughts may mean little, but your a beautiful young woman and you have been blessed with a child. Your body shows that blessing and you have nothing to be disgusted about.

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