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My Story (Anonymous)

October 27, 2011

Pregnancies : 1
Age:19.

I had a beautiful baby girl almost three months ago and I am so happy with my life besides one thing…my body. P re-pregnancy I weighed 130 pounds but it looked more like 120 and I am 5’3 I had very toned abs smaller hips and a 34 C bra size. I gained 30 pounds during my pregnancy so that put me at 160 and I was perfectly fine with that. My baby weighed 8lbs 4.4 oz so I was glad that she was healthy. When I said I was perfectly fine with that I mean that I felt good about it except for when it came to my husband. He hardly looked at me once my belly started getting big and if he did look at me it was only at my chest. After my baby I lost all of the weight I gained within 2 weeks and I think that was because of breast feeding. So, I am back down to actually 128 pounds and left with a bra size of in between a D and a DD and stretchmarks on my belly, boobs, butt, and upper thighs. I am so dissatisfied with my stretchmarks and I think it is because my husband doesn’t look at me the same…or is it all in my head? My hips also got wider throughout my pregnancy and haven’t gone down any. I know that some women say stretchmarks are your mommy badge but that’s not the way I feel which is weird because when I see other women with them I think nothing of it. I just hope that I can someday love my body again. Even if I don’t my daughter will always be worth it no matter what.

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5 Responses to “My Story (Anonymous)”

  1. Megan Says:
    October 27th, 2011 at 11:16 am

    You are SO SOON postpartum! It’s incredible that you have lost that much weight already :) Give everything else some time. It’s hard, believe me, but things will undo themselves a little more and a little more. It can take over a year to really notice a big difference. You hips will take some time to shrink, but don’t give away your postpartum jeans yet – the hips can take a year, sometimes more. And at only three months postpartum, you still have a lot of water weight. As much weight as you have lost, you will likely shed a little more in fluid in the next few months.

    don’t give up, but rest assured that you look beautiful, and really good at the moment! The stretch marks will fade and become much less visible with time.

  2. Kaitlyn Says:
    October 27th, 2011 at 12:20 pm

    You’re HAWT. Give your body more time to heal..the stretch marks should continue to fade. Your daughter will ALWAYS love you, regardless of how you may think you look. Focus on being the best mama you can be. I’m sorry I’m not of help with the husband thing..but I can tell you you’re body doesn’t define you as a person, but it is beautiful regardless. (:

  3. limiwa Says:
    October 28th, 2011 at 4:17 pm

    I also had my first child at 19 and my stretch marks look (or looked) a lot like yours. They do fade, but of course I can completely understand your dissatisfaction. You look absolutely amazing dispite any stretch marks though. Looking at just your pictures alone I would never have guessed it has only been 3 months since you delivered! Give it time :) My husband is not bothered at all by my stretch marks (even though I am!) and still thinks I’m sexy and beautiful. He was never very interested in my pregnant body, but he came around a couple months after our son was born, and with our second child it didn’t faze him.

  4. Kiks Says:
    October 29th, 2011 at 6:25 am

    You have beautiful, feminine body! It makes one want to touch you or hug you:) Don’t think about all this stupid stuff, like jeans etc. And I’m sure your husband wants you as much as before, but if you’re not satisfied with yourself, he may be affraid to bless you as well.

  5. mystory Says:
    October 31st, 2011 at 2:56 pm

    Thank you so much to all of you. It’s a great feeling having support from other women who have had children. I’m feeling better by the day about myself. Turns out those stretch marks do fade with time:) and now that I am more comfortable with myself my husband has came around more. I love my baby girl and i am glad that i am getting over these things so that she can learn a healthy body image from me.

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