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My Body: 3 Years Postpartum (Anonymous)

I am a mother of 3, my last one was in July of 2013. I was obese at the time, and my son was a 10-pound baby, so my canvas was not the cleanest when I set myself to lose weight.

I went from an unknown weight (probably 180, 5ft2in) down to an average of 130lbs. I’m very athletic, run, cycle, and a good amount of strength training. My diet is dang-near impeccable, with occasional slips on date night, taco Tuesday, or a glass of wine after a long day.

What I’m getting at is: I am doing everything right…as best as I can! But my mommy belly will not go away. It’s like I have a thick shield of fat on top on my abdomen that doesn’t match the rest of me.
I’ve made peace with saggy, stretchy, stripey skin…but the belly fat is pretty unwelcome.
I have read all kinds of health columns, and have been patient, but it seems like there is no use.
Is there anything I need to know that the columns aren’t telling me about the realistic expectations I should have about my fat? Am I truely an exception to all of the advice out there on the WWW?
Please help give me hope or at least peace of mind. I’m tired of feeling like a failure.

Thank you for your time!

~Age: 30
~Number of pregnancies and births: 3
~The age of my children, and how far postpartum I am: 6, 4, and 3. Three years postpartum.

in Belly, Mom over 30, Postpartum, Submissions, Third Pregnancy

4 comments… add one

  • Jenny West Sunday, November 20, 2016, 11:08 am

    I have been told by a friend about an herbal tea supplement Mummy magic tea that helped her and later me to shed our pregnancy weight. I gained 33 pounds with my pregnancy and while bfing my LO I dropped those pounds off.

  • Jessica Jones Saturday, December 17, 2016, 9:31 pm

    Sometimes people’s suggestions only seem to imply that you aren’t doing enough, that you are doing something wrong. I was a healthy weight before and after all of my babies. I exercised before, after, and during pregnancy. I am a yoga instructor and I lift weights. My belly is saggy and my boobs are deflated(despite chest presses). You are enough and you are doing enough. This is part of growing old part of being a mother. Its hard to make peace with, I am struggling with it. Its not your fault

  • Melody Thursday, December 29, 2016, 6:56 am

    You are in great shape! I have a similar issue with my stomach. It’s not the fat necessarily, as the body does need to maintain a certain amount in order to be healthy. It’s the lose skin! The excess skin allows the fat to lay loosely, away from the muscle, making it look and feel like much more than it is. Excess skin can’t be helped or exercised away and it’s not something you could have prevented (especially with a 10lb baby and a petite mommy). It’s completely natural and a common result of pregnancy, despite what society tells us. You are beautiful and doing your body an amazing favor by staying healthy. Don’t let your tummy get you down.

  • Jenny Wednesday, January 4, 2017, 5:15 am

    You are not doing anything wrong! I am in the same exact boat, the layer of cushion that sits on top but won’t budge is truly maddening :( I work out, eat clean, still this jelly bowl of a belly! I I will say I noticed a real change when I cut out all alcohol & any simple carbs, I also started wearing a waist training belt most of the day for the last 6 months or so (it’s definitely better, not so protruding) but for the most part it remains, let me know If you find the “cure” ;)

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