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My belly used to be happy, now it’s sad. (Claire)

May 15, 2012

AGE 24
Pregnancies 2
Little boys 3YRS AND 2YRS
Natural births

As a 24 year old woman i have never really remembered a time when i looked in the mirror and thought i look really good and been 100% happy with my body. I remember being 16 years old at school and hating my weight of 130lb 5ft 4 . I look back now and think i would kill to have that body back. After a 7 year happy relationship and marriage the lbs have caught up on me as when your happy you don’t really care as much.

My first pregnancy was great everything was fine and the natural birth wasn’t bad either i didn’t need any stitch’s or anything . The worst thing was my belly afterwards it was just a saggy bag of nothing and i remember looking in the mirror at my stretch marks and thinking this will go back please please go back and fade away. Now when you have a newborn the last thing you want to do is work out and yes i will admit i did get lazy and i expected my tummy back with no work at all.

10 months later i got pregnant again and this time around it wasn’t that easy i was very ill and went to 42 weeks. My poor tummy was awful i wish i had toned up before.

I weight myself the day before i gave birth and i was 200lb now i was 2 weeks over and i thought my god this has just got to be the water and baby.

lol i remember the first thing i did when i arrived home with the baby is run upstairs to the bathroom to weigh myself hehe. I was 180lb I had an operation when i was 17 so now my stomach was hanging over my scar just like a c section.

This self hate of my body had to stop.

I was in denial really just got on with being a good mum to my two little munchkins but on October of last year i decided i want to weigh 130lb again i want to feel like i did at 16 and this time not beat myself up as i now know it was a healthy weight. I started healthy eating and no carbs mixed with Zumba and running.

I am now 138 lb and feel great still have to tone now i want to try and sculpt my stomach back naturally as much as i can. The picture is my sad tummy now i am trying to make her smile again lol.

I am hoping my new skin care routine will help my scars and my 100 sit ups a day with more cardio will help. I do know accept i will never be confident enough to wear a 2 piece swimsuit and have thrown all my old ones away but i have replaced them with lots of sexy one pieces and actually feel a little better.

I do accept my body more now as i know i have worked to help it out and i know i have two little darlings that are happy and healthy there are more important things in life all natural mummies have wobbly bits its just more to cuddle i suppose

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5 Responses to “My belly used to be happy, now it’s sad. (Claire)”

  1. Jennifer Says:
    May 15th, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    You look beautiful! My tummy looks similar. :)
    Don’t feel bad about not feeling you can wear a 2 piece swim suit… you can be just as beautiful in a more modest swim suit! I will never wear a bikini (I actually never have, even with a “perfect” tummy) and I don’t need to wear one to prove I’m beautiful. My husband and children telling me I’m beautiful and loving me the way I am is all I need! :)
    God bless you in your journey!

  2. Marie Says:
    May 15th, 2012 at 7:29 pm

    Oh Hun, thanks so much for posting this, recently my husband has been involved heavily with porn and I’ve had 3 children with him, never before did he ever complain about my nipples being larger from breast feeding or my stretchmsrks from being his 10lb children, I’m only 5’2 so yeah they are massive big babies until now, I’ve told him I won’t be compared to any woman who has had surgery in almost all parts of her body and has not yet had children and that he’s a low life and unappreciative jerk because of the sacrifices I’ve had to make with my body and image to bring our lovely children into the world! Seeing you pic let’s me know that I’m 100% all mother and all woman and there is nothing wrong at all with my body the way it is! Once again thanks so much it’s made me realise that our stretchmsrks, our saggy boobs saggy tummies weight gain etc make us all apart of being a real woman cos if we weren’t then none of these things would have happened within our bodies to begin with after bearing children! And the media and porn sites need to stop distorting the look of a real woman and that of a mother which I believe is the greatest accomplishment of womanhood!

  3. Bekah Says:
    May 17th, 2012 at 12:09 pm

    I have felt quite a bit like you and I think it’s great that you are working out! My stomach looks about the same as yours and I have realized that doing planks works so much better for me than just sit ups. Honestly, I felt no change when I was doing a hundred sit ups a day, but when I switched to three one minute planks per day, I started seeing big changes.

  4. KLC Says:
    May 20th, 2012 at 11:56 am

    I laughed out loud at the title before I even looked at the pics. I know exactly how you feel! I used to use those words about my tummy and my boobs. I am so glad it wasn’t just me. Great work getting healthy and making yourself feel better about YOU!!

  5. Rachel Says:
    May 23rd, 2012 at 9:23 pm

    You sound so positive in your post–I love it! Wearing a bikini doesn’t need to be your goal. It is better just to work towards feeling happy, healthy, and confidant as you are. Great job, and thanks for sharing your story. And for what it’s worth, I think you are looking good!

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