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My 4th belly!! (Iraiosc)

April 26, 2010

Hi again!! I wrote here twice before, you can see here and here.

I need to explain my feelings about what i’ve just did.

I’ve finally repaired my hernia and diastasis only 20 days ago!!
Family are contradicted, they wanted of course I get well quikly (sorry my mistakes please :) ) but I know they think about myself i’m egoist… dr. said that once you got repaired you can’t got more babies, so dangerous for myself… is our decission at least we think! A bit hard to still strong before with my strange belly and now with my new one…

Medically speaking I want to explain that everything seems to be ok for the moment, i feel a lot the mesh they put for the hernia and dr. says it’s normal the first months. The operation was sooo hard for me (3-4 hours: closing the abdomen, puting the mesh, repairing the skin and putting navel at correct place), but the recuperation for me wents a lot better than caesarean recuperation!!

But I still being a mother, a woman, a friend… doesn’t matter how i am if i feel good with myself, don’t you think? I needed this surgery! i hated to see my stomach moving (like baby movements on belly!!) when i have diastasis…

I loved the web, the people here write, and everyone comments: they are so lovely and respect everyone. Thank you for all i still recommend your web to new mummys than need this and everyone! Wish you all the best!! Kisses (besos!)

PD Now you can see my 4 bellys: 1.before being pregnant, 2.during pregnancy, 3.after baby and 4.after repair…
This time my pics show how i forget everything last summer and weared bikini and, of course, pics of repair, i still having adhesive tape on the scar.

~Age:
Now 28, i got baby at 26
~Number of pregnancies and births:
1 son of just 2 years old

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10 Responses to “My 4th belly!! (Iraiosc)”

  1. anon Says:
    April 26th, 2010 at 9:29 am

    How old were your children when you got the procedure? Was recovery difficult with kids? I have a 1 and 3 year old. How long did the recovery take? I actually posted a question about tummy tucks (that isn’t up yet) so I would love to hear you story! You are beautiful and so are all the other women on here. And the differences of all the women and different feelings and choices are just as beautiful.

  2. mrs. petunia Says:
    April 26th, 2010 at 6:29 pm

    I just love how you rocked the bikini, diastasis and all! And wow, you are so brave to undergo that long and involved surgery! I think you look beautiful. The surgery is a great success I would say. I don’t think you are an egoist at all to choose surgery. You have a beautiful child and you were ready to get your old body back. Period. No more explanations needed. If you want more kids there is always adoption. And if not, so be it. I wish you well on your recovery and don’t forget to update us when the scar has healed! Yippee for you and your new tummy! Oh, it does look like perhaps you have lost a bit of weight? I’m wondering if that was a result of all the stress of the surgery? Or maybe you didn’t lose weight and you just look thinner with your flatter belly? Just wondering :) Anyway, thanks for your post!

  3. Sarah Says:
    April 26th, 2010 at 8:58 pm

    Ow! That looks painful! I wish you all the best! I’m glad you got the surgery you wanted. :)

  4. Anonymous Says:
    April 27th, 2010 at 6:53 am

    I agree with the above poster, you rocked that bikini, diastasis and all! So glad to hear your surgery went well, good luck with the recovery..hope all goes smoothly. Keep us updated! Take Care!

  5. billie Says:
    April 27th, 2010 at 9:49 am

    hey there can you please get back to me….what did you mean by your stomach moving after the babies?

    I have had this lately and i think i have some muscle separation, but i have no idea…could i maybe have a hernia too? please get back to me..

    wizerthanthem@yahoo.com

  6. iraiosc Says:
    April 28th, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Hello everyone!! thanks for your comments and your comprehension with my option!!

    Anon, i was so afraid with the recuperation having a 2 years old baby. I leave him 1 long week with grandpas, the first week.
    Then he returned home and i couldn’t lift weights so my husband and my father helps and did all this job.
    I could walk the day after operation, and i could do relativelly normal life in a couple (2) weeks.
    So i can do everything at home (never weight lifting!) and i will return job next week (one month and a half after sur.; dr. said i could come back before, it depends of the job).

    My little boy said i have a “big strip” at belly (corset), hahaha, and take care of me!! xDD so cute now than he talk a lot hehehe

    Petunia, i lost a pair of kilos because the operation, also stress and vomit process i’ve passed with the anesthesia, like a bad stomacache, nothing else. The other is the belly, now is so tight (comparing my 3rd belly), i haven’t “holes”. Next time i have to send one pic where i show lying … i could put 4 fingers inside hole on my abdomen!! So when i was sitting i could see my stomach movements, was so horrible!!

    Of course we know this, we’ve just live the biological kids, i was bad luck with the hernia and diastasis, and was so afraid of having more babys and have to get operated during another pregnancy… We think about adopt of course if we want get big the family, time to time! :D

    I wish i would anwser to you all your doubts because i’ve just passed the same!!

  7. vanessa Says:
    May 15th, 2010 at 8:23 pm

    thats a high tummy tuck wow…

  8. iraiosc Says:
    May 18th, 2010 at 12:39 pm

    finally i have no trouble in accept my new belly, only 2 months ago… and i just forget my headache and confusion… all my live i thougth that phisic image is not the only… and i still think this, but i’m gratefull to medicine that can put well hernias and repair us. Thinking about it… a hundred years ago that was impossible… i’m lucky, lucky for felling tight, lucky for have stomach at its place, lucky for my little-big boy, and i think all has solution, now i know: if i accept myself i can live peacefully… if i don’t: i need help, i’m not talking only about little complex (i still having a lot hahaha, but i accepted them long time ago) psicologic help, family… and need take it easy quick to forget it and concentrate in authentic life, my family.
    you have always the last decission, i feel a bit bad my head after repair… bad feelings, contradictions,… but now… i feel so good, i forget the comments at first days (doubts of people: would you have more kids??? what about your weight?…).
    now i beggin to enjoy my belly: i am stronger, i beggin to forget my shoulder ill, i don’t note my digestions…. i’m so happy!!
    thanks for reading, i would try to send pics on future!!
    kisses

  9. aa Says:
    December 11th, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    i had the same procedure for the same reasons. I two had multiple bellies. 1)pre-preg, 2)after 1st baby (umbilical hernia repaired), 3)after baby #2 (severe diastasis recti & recurred umbilical hernia) & 4)post surgery. I had 4 inch muscle separation & my intestines would bulge through. I had a difficult time with my lower back as my abdominal wall was incredibly week. I too have sutures & mesh to keep my muscles in place. I am so thankful for the surgery. It was incredible painful but I survived. =)

  10. iraiosc Says:
    January 12th, 2011 at 5:15 am

    aa, i understand perfectly. on march it will made one year from my surg. Now i feel stronger, the scar every day gets lighter. The feeling on my skin isn’t the same than before… at first is strange, but with the time you feel normal. Be strong because you said it: we survive and now we feel better, subjected stomach, … take sane early!! kisses and sorry my mistakes!! ;)

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