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Mom of 3 (Mist)

December 4, 2013

Almost 32 years old
Children: almost 13, 9,7

My weight has fluctuated over the years but I’ve always been slim. I am proud of what my body has done. And I believe all women can love their bodies after pregnancy. Hard work and a good attitude mixed with the right support system are very important. I am happy with how I look!

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15 Responses to “Mom of 3 (Mist)”

  1. Kristi Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 8:36 am

    You look great! I’m 20 and don’t even look that good, but I had my baby 2 1/2 months ago. I weighed 120lbs before pregnancy and weigh 149 now):

  2. Teri Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 9:55 am

    Indeed, you do look great! I would be happy too if I looked like you. Unfortunately I do not.

  3. Kim Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 10:05 am

    You look fabulous!

  4. Suzie Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 11:25 am

    I agree to a certain extent…. However there are some things that happen to your body that you have NO say in…. Loose skin, saggy empty breasts that has absolutely nothing to do with diet and exercise I have had 4 kids still feeding the youngest and my boobs will never look like that…. I work out almost every day & did through all my pregnancies, never put on too much weight & frankly I have great abs but they are hidden under saggy skin! It’s not fair to assume that a positive attitude and hard work are all it takes. That may have worked for you but it doesn’t for everyone
    You look amazing btw!

  5. ani Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 5:15 pm

    U ar great!
    is better of me… And i have 18 years old..

  6. Stacy Says:
    December 4th, 2013 at 8:45 pm

    Yeah, breast feeding 7 kiddos for 7 months isn’t going to leave you with those breasts. But whatever your choices and genetics were did leave you with that body. It should be celebrated but so should all women, all choices and all genetics.

  7. Anna Says:
    December 5th, 2013 at 12:16 am

    You look wonderful. You look a lot of what the mainstream standard of health and beauty is: slender, young, toned, unblemished. I believe you earned it through hard work, but I also think genes play a role and we should remember and embrace the fact that not every equally hard working mom will get the same results.

  8. I. G. Says:
    December 6th, 2013 at 8:15 am

    The above text is rather short. With no word did she say that, given you work hard and your attitude is right, you can look like her. Instead, she says that every woman can love her body which is a beautiful message and that hard work and the right attitude are important, not that they guarantee a specific outcome. It clearly refers to the self-love aspect. There seems a trend establishing on this side that woman who bounced back fairly well are considered offensive regardless what they say which is not okay. Oh, and concerning the comment involving breastfeeding: She didn’t say a word if she did or didn’t so you have no reason to talk about “different choices“.

  9. Lannette Says:
    December 6th, 2013 at 10:46 am

    Well said I.G
    This mom (Mist) spoke of self love and yet it seems everyone is ignoring what she did say and adding their own thoughts based on their own insecurities.
    I am a mother of 2 and though my body is forever changed I did “bounce back” rather quickly after each birth through hard work before, during and after pregnancy. But because I am not left with a “normal” post pregnancy body I am not allowed to be proud of my appearance because then I am bullying the “average” woman/mother. This is not fair.
    Women we need to stop judging one another and more importantly we need to stop judging ourselves.
    We get angry when society sets double standards for us but what we do not realize is that we actually do it to ourselves. We are all complaining that we wish that we looked “perfect” after giving birth but when there is a mother who does look nice we bash her and accuse her of saying that you will look like her if only you worked out (she never said any such thing).
    Shame on us, shame on all of us. These double standards will not go away until we love ourselves just as Mist stated in the original post.

  10. Michele Says:
    December 7th, 2013 at 10:02 am

    I agree with the last two women who posted here, I am not enjoying this site as much as I once did, it seems as if there is a lot of bashing against women who bounce back or those who do not bounce right back, but work out to get where they want to be. Who cares what is considered mainstream beautiful? I want to look in the mirror myself and see a flat belly and toned legs, to be as fit and beautiful as I can be for me when I look in the mirror, I tell you it does make you less insecure in and out of the bedroom and it does make you healthier to work out and more energetic for your children. Now stretch marks, that is another story all together, I have a few after my third child on my hips and ol well with being toned and fit guess what? they dont bother me one bit. Just an aftereffect of having children, happens to women who never even had children, are my breasts as perky as before three kids, no but they are still beautiful and I wouldnt consider any type of surgery. I love ME before my three kids and after. I work hard four days a week for an hour and I let dad keep our children or take them with me if must be. We have to love ourselves enough to do for ourselves. I dont party, watch tv shows, etc, I find enjoyment in working out. Saying all this is to say that she is right, self love gets us to a place of happiness with our bodies. If she didn’t work out and just bounced back, good for her, if it takes you working out to get yourself back,then so be it just do what makes you happy!

  11. Maria Says:
    December 12th, 2013 at 11:32 am

    You look stunning and I so wish you where right! I worked out through both my pregnancies and my weightgain was quite small, but already at 22 weeks with my first I could tell that my belly was going to be a wreck with stretchmarks. Now, after breastfeeding two kids for one and one and a half year, my boobs are at my ankles (or it feels that way) and the lose skin on my tummy is down at my knees. No way eating right and working out can help everyone look like that, however your message is a really good on I think. It would be a beautiful day when woman (including myself) would be able to love ourselves no mater what we look like after a birth. I can’t even look in a mirror so I have a long way to go…

  12. Maria Says:
    December 12th, 2013 at 1:15 pm

    Sorry for the bad typing. The older of my two has eaten all over the keyboard ;)

  13. mist Says:
    December 15th, 2013 at 11:25 pm

    Thanks to the ladies with compliments and those willing to stand up for what my message is. I never said working hard, having a right attitude, and support system would make you look like me… I said it would help women to live themselves.I breastfed my first child til 4 months, my second was a preemie born by c section and I pumped for her for 4 months, my third was also a section, bottle fed. I gained 28-30 pounds with each pregnancy, did not eat 100% healthy but did not over eat either and I walked 3 times a week. I currently workout at a gym 3 days a week and I eat a diet based on quantity… I do not deny myself any food I crave but I eat one cookie instead of 6. I am sorry if seeing the way I look on the outside upset any of you or caused you to feel worse about your own situation. I want more than anything for ladies to see my heart and my heart feels all women are beautiful and amazing creatures and what makes a woman even more beautiful is loving herself enough to work hard being the best “her” she can be and his will allow her the confidence to show her revue beauty. It’s a total person makeover: mind, body, and soul. I truly wish all of you the very best in your journeys. You are all amazing and worthy and have the ability to love yourselves in a marvelous way.

  14. mist Says:
    December 15th, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    Sorry for the typos… my phone is being a pain :)

  15. Suzie Says:
    December 16th, 2013 at 12:04 pm

    Hi Mist
    As I said before you look amazing!!
    I guess I misunderstood what you meant about the right attitude & hard work being what it takes I was not in any way bashing you or any other woman who looks great after kids! I guess following on from the “what’s your excuse” debacle :)
    Sometimes I just get pissed off when I’ve worked so hard eaten right etc that things don’t just bounce back unless you are lucky
    I am unsure why people are wanting to start a fight about this, you look great as I said before!!

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