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Mom of 3 boys -1 set of twins (Anonymous)

May 17, 2010

I wanted to submit this picture as a way of affirming to myself that my body is fine and I don’t need to listen to what others think. I have been going through a difficult time with my husband (soon to be ex) and one of the things he told me as a reason for not wanting sex with me anymore was that he thought I needed to lose weight. I’ve never been stick thin but have been pretty happy with my body. Even after having 3 children, including a twin pregnancy, I was pleasantly surprised at how well I thought my body handled it. Then the one comment from my husband made me feel worthless and ugly. I found this website when I was pregnant with my twins and I always thought how wonderful it was that women were brave enough to share all of themselves. Women are beautiful no matter what shape, scar, stretch marks etc and I wanted to include myself in this mentality.

~Age: 35
~Number of pregnancies and births: 2 pregnancies, 3 births (1 set of twins)
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 5 yr old and 1 yr old twins

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23 Responses to “Mom of 3 boys -1 set of twins (Anonymous)”

  1. M Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:22 am

    Wow….you look fabulous. You look like you are a very healthy weight. That body deserves to be in a bikini after birthing twins and still looking so great. As for your husband, that is just a lie, it is an excuse so he doesn’t have to address the real reasons. He is the problem, he should be building you up after what your body has done……and you look radiant (except for the scar it is hard to tell you even had babies). I am sorry that he is going through something himself that does not allow him to see the true beauty in your body. These are not just words to make you feel better…….your body is banging, no need to feel worthless or ugly. You will find someone who appreciates you. Congrats on the healthy lil ones and good luck to you in the future!

  2. Megan Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:24 am

    Are you kidding me? What a worthless man he is! Your body is AMAZING!!!!!

  3. Suzanne Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:35 am

    Your husband is an idiot. No offence, i don’t no the man but.. you need to lose weight? seriously? you look FANTASTIC! you’ve had 3 children you aren’t supposed to be a stick insect, your body looks fabulous and i don’t see a single stretch mark, I wish you all the best in one day finding a decent man who loves how a REAL woman looks, trust me they are out there! ;)

  4. Brittany Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 8:10 am

    That’s ridiculous! You great. Seriously!!! Your skin is flawless and radiant and I don’t see any weight to be lost! And you had twins! Screw your ex. What a jerk. I think there was some other reason he said that. Maybe he just wanted to make you feel bad- which worked. Don’t let that untrue comment get to you anymore. He’s obviously not worth giving that kind of control.

    Good luck in the future and I know you will find a man that appreciates you and treats you right.

  5. Jessica Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 8:17 am

    You look great.

  6. Quinchela Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 8:17 am

    You look great! Just 1 year out from twins, OMG! You bounced back well!

  7. Maria Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 8:19 am

    I am sorry to tell you this, but your husband is a jerk!! And blind!! You look amazing, and NOT fat at all!!

  8. bc Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 9:17 am

    I am so sorry that you are going through a divorce. It is a painful process, especially with children. It sounds like a liberating one as well though. You deserve to be treated with so much more love and respect than your soon-to-be ex. is apparantly too selfish and stunted to provide.All my best to you and your children!

  9. Mary V Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 12:04 pm

    Your soon to be ex is crazy, one year old twins… I have a one year old (single pregnancy) and I wish my tummy looked as good as yours! You are a hot mama!

  10. Mina Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 2:49 pm

    You are very smart to focus on your own affirmation by posting your lovely photo on this site, rather than the negativity coming from your ex. I’m impressed by that – way to keep the power for yourself and not give in to self-loathing.

    Good job, and you really do look great!

  11. Tatiana Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 3:34 pm

    Is this man NUTS??!!! I’d never guess you had three babies already! Your alleged “weight” sounds to me like a lame-ass excuse on his part for wanting to split.

    Keep on beautiful girl! Letting go of this loser is a blessing :)

  12. Sheila Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 5:50 pm

    Wow! Your ex couldn’t be more wrong. You have a beautiful shape, great skin, terrific boobs… not fat at all. It has been my experience that people who try to bring you down are really just projecting their own self hate and trying to drag others down to their level. Don’t listen to him! Good for you for breaking free. I’m sure you’ll be much happier without him :)

  13. mrs. petunia Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 6:26 pm

    I agree with the other posters who said your husband was lying to you. Clearly he was, you look stunning! I think that he was simply trying to insult you and get under your skin. Don’t let him! Or maybe there were other reasons he didn’t want sex (cheating, impotence…who knows) and he made up an excuse to hide them. Either way, you look beautiful and don’t need to give his comments one more thought.

  14. Angela Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:21 pm

    Girl your body is awesome even for a woman with no kids it would look awesome! The fact that you have had twins, you would never ever know! Someday you will be with a man who will tell you how beautiful and sexy your body is. I know because I have been in your shoes and thank goodness I divorced the jack a$$. My boyfriend now tells me my body is super sexy and I ask even with it’s flaws and he answers, what flaws?

  15. Safire Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    You are an amazing woman, a fabulous mother and your husband is crazy. You are BEAUTIFUL!

  16. Sarah P. Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:52 pm

    My thoughts, without reading a word, were of how ridiculously beautiful this photograph is! After reading, I’m glad he’ll soon be your ex because he’s obviously an idiot.

    Blessings!

  17. Holly Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 7:53 pm

    Wow, you look fabulous. You have a beautiful body and I hope you have learned to love it.

  18. Sarah EP Says:
    May 17th, 2010 at 10:55 pm

    You look amazing! I have to agree with another poster that your husband is using your “weight” as an excuse. You not only don’t need to loose weight, but you can’t even tell that you’ve had children (aside from the c-sec scar)

    I know it’s hard to not let those kinds of comments get to you, but please try not to let it bother you. It’s clearly BS.

    Hang in there Mama!

  19. Mariah Says:
    May 19th, 2010 at 7:00 pm

    WOW! You look so beautiful! So much like a healthy, beautiful, well shaped mother. Very sexy too!

  20. Jane Says:
    May 21st, 2010 at 3:50 am

    wow, I had twins and I wish my tummy skin looked as amazing as yours- You have beautiful flawless skin that I am super jealous of!!! Thankyou for sharing. That first year with twins it so hard that statistically many couples break up, I hope that you can get through this next year and find happiness and joy. The sleepless nights and full on days can make us feel bad about everything, but know that your babies will get older and things will get easier. You look amazing!

  21. ashley Says:
    July 12th, 2010 at 7:44 am

    dearest fellow mama of twins:
    i went through a very similar experience with my now ex after having twins in december of 2009… 2 weeks post c-section, he accidentally walked in on me while changing, gaped at my saggy, deformed belly and said “i thought you’d get your body back sooner…”

    a short seven months and post-partum twin belly later, i can see that i am well rid of him. i grew two beautiful and amazing babies (a boy and a girl, weighing in at a whopping 8.7 and 8.2) and although i hate my belly, i love my body for the amazing babies that it grew.

    men who feel the need to tear women down after birthing their children are first to be pitied, and second to be discarded.

    move on. be strong. you are beautiful and amazing.

  22. Amanda Says:
    July 16th, 2010 at 9:18 am

    WOW, that’s amazing! No stretchmarks, perfectly smooth skin! You sure don’t look like you’ve had a baby, let alone one + twins! You’re so gorgeous :)

  23. Kim Says:
    May 17th, 2011 at 3:18 pm

    Screw ur ex cause ur twins r a yr old and wow you look great!!!!

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