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Misty

September 6, 2006

Hello mammas ^_^ My name is Misty, I’m twenty-four. I have boy/girl twins. I have been married one year. ^_^ (this is the only site I have: http://nocuously.livejournal.com)

I really wish I knew the women on this forum in real life. I could use the strength in dealing with what is now my new body.

Here is my birth story. In April 2004,I became increasingly bloated until I could hardly bend my knees. Scared to go to the doctor, I put it off for over a month. On May 21st of 2004 I was diagnosed with Minimal Change Glomerulonephritis (a disease where my immune system was attacking my kidneys, for an unknown reason). After a week’s stay and biopsy in the hospital, I was told to rest and take dozens of medications. In the next year, my boyfriend stood by me. In May of 2005, after five attempts to control the disease, I was put on a round of chemo. I remissed at the end of June. Where does the baby come in? Here we go. ^_^

My boyfriend and I married on our seventh year anniversary, on September 1st. In August we started trying for a baby, having been told that I may be infertile due to the chemo. On my honeymoon, I didn’t get the period for which I was due. On the fourth, I took an at home test. It was positive. I took another one in the morning, before calling the doctor, that too was positive. How eerie, because, at the end of September at the OB, she said I was having twins!

I’ve been through alot. I have come to love myself and treasure every minute. My pregnancy went well. I never worried about having a baby until they tried to tell me I couldn’t. Then I was more than happy to prove that I could have TWO, let alone one! A part of me, is ashamed by the way I look, not for me, but ashamed that others may be offended. But honestly, for the chance to be a mother, it is well worth it. I have been given angels. My kidney doctor said that pregnancy could change my chemistry…and make my disease worse or…I would find it never comes back again. My aggressive disease hasn’t come back. I believe my babies saved my life. For that, they have claimed my tummy. If I could tighten the skin, I would still keep my stretch marks and c-section scar as badges of honor. The hanging skin I can do without, but the women in my family have faith that I can overcome that, either mentally and/or in actuality.

My twins are Adian Anthony (6lbs 7 1/4 oz) and Amelia Grace (4 lbs). They are angels. In the most real way.

I am trying to come to terms with my new body. I am amazed at the life I created and the fact that I can nurse them with my own body. As for the stomach, I try not to think about it, but my sexuality is lost to me. It seems I am a mother solely and I have such a hard time finding myself sexy this way. I am working on it though. One day, I want to go to a nude beach, just as I am, and embrace this body as my home, something to be honored.

Sorry this was so long. Thank you very much for reading. Here’s a small photo journey.

This is me, before it all (trying to be like Betty Page..heh).
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This is the ONLY picture I allowed taken of me when I was sick (May 8th 2004, my birthday) with my little sisters.
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This is my husband and I on our wedding day ^_^
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This is my tummy before (sorry such a small pic)
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This is my belly at 6 months (right before the stretch marks, I have other belly pictures on film that aren’t developed yet)
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This is my tummy 9-02-06 (post partum)
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These are my babies as newborns.

Aidan
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And Amelia
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Here are my babies and I (they are about three and a half months here)
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Thanks again. ^_^ Good luck mommies and mommies-to-be, it’s just amazing.

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12 Responses to “Misty”

  1. Anonymous Says:
    September 6th, 2006 at 10:03 pm

    As a fellow twin mom I can empathize with all you endured, and all you gained. Twins rock! Whatever the heck they may have done to our bods darn it! Your babies are so beautiful.

  2. Nikki Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 5:35 am

    I think you look wonderful, thank you so much for sharing your story! And you have beautiful children:)

  3. tjs Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 7:33 am

    Misty -You’re gorgeous – not only before you had your beautiful kids, but now, too!You’ve been through a lot in a short time, and I imagine you are still coming to grips with your new responsibilities as wife and mother, your scary illness, and your new physical self. All while probably being exhausted by the demands of two little people who can’t talk.I was sad to read this from you: “A part of me, is ashamed by the way I look, not for me, but ashamed that others may be offended.” If someone is offended by how you look, that’s their problem – not yours. Do not let others demean you for things beyond your control. Do not allow yourself to be controlled by anyone who is so narrow-minded that he/she make judgments about you based on your physical appearance.Finally, I recommend going to a nude beach (use sunscreen!) You would not believe the amazing and wonderful variety of body shapes of all types of people who are just out to enjoy the sun and surf.

  4. babydmama Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 11:22 am

    What an amazing and inspiring story! You are BEAUTIFUL!

  5. Anonymous Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 4:39 pm

    your pics are so beautiful. thanks for sharing your story. I wish I knew these mamas in real life too!!

  6. Anonymous Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 5:09 pm

    You look like I do, and I’m sure as many of us do.Your belly is a badge-it created life. How much better can it get?thordora

  7. Helen Says:
    September 7th, 2006 at 6:58 pm

    Beautiful babies, beautiful mama!

  8. Caren Says:
    September 9th, 2006 at 4:07 am

    such beautiful pictures. thank you for sharing.

  9. peppypilotgirl Says:
    September 13th, 2006 at 11:30 am

    Congratulations on your beautiful twins and please know that you are as beautiful as they are. I’m so glad you are in remission and wish you all the best.

  10. earthchick Says:
    September 13th, 2006 at 12:16 pm

    Oh my, your babies are beautiful – and so are you. Thank you for sharing your story and your pics. I am also a mother of twins (born 5/31/04) and my tummy looks *exactly* like yours. :)

  11. Manic Mom Says:
    September 13th, 2006 at 9:32 pm

    They are beautiful!

  12. Min Says:
    September 21st, 2006 at 10:51 am

    This is Misty. Thank you everyone. And thank you moderator for posting my entry. I figured it was a good story and I would love to be known as one of the gals here! Such powerful women and such wonderful hearts. Thanks for your compliments. I truly blushed. For all I have been through, it has made me a far better person and I am greatful more and more everyday. Thanks again…you are all very sweet! ^_^

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