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(Misty)

September 23, 2011

Age: 29
# of pregnancies: 3
Age of children: 10, 6, 4

There are a few things I have learned these past 10 years about motherhood:
#1. Creating life is the one experience that brings us the closest to God yet can make a women feel the most disconnected from herself.
#2. Things don’t always go the way we hope or plan.
#3. What bothers you at 20 will change when your 25.
#4. There is attraction in flaws and beauty from ashes, intrigue in scars.

I have 3 wonderful children, my 1st pregnancy 10 years ago was EASY! I was 18 going on 19 and felt great, my birth went quick and smooth, it was a vaginal birth, 7 hours of labor and done, lost the weight fast and absolutely no signs on my body (other than being bustier) that I had given birth… I have always been a scrawny girl, small hips and breasts and super thin waist. After my 1st I went back to exactly that. My 2nd pregnancy was tougher, it was 4 years later… I had my little girl 9 weeks early by csection and felt like a failure! Not only did I feel like I let her down for having her early, but I had to have her cut out surgically- needless to say my birth plan went out the window…this pregnancy I got some stretch marks on my hips and breasts and one on my right abdomen… But again I bounced back quick, the marks faded, you couldn’t even hardly see my c/s scar… Then came #3, he was not planned, but perfect! And he was such a great pregnancy, I went to term without any intervention, 2nd c section… I did not breast feed my 3rd, gained the most with him… Took me about a year to get down to my goal weight, but I managed to hang onto bigger breasts :) which was a plus, I have some loose skin on my abdomen, my abs are no longer “defined”, I have a small hernia in my belly button, previous stretch marks etched a little deeper, my nipples are more oval than circles, I have a “Lip” above my c/s scar which I HATE but it won’t go away no matter what I try, I am still petite but I have some curvier breasts and hips (which I happen to like and my husband says my curves drive him crazy)… Some days I feel super confident and sexy and others I feel insecure and wish I could change some things… But no matter what, those three little people were worth it… Every line, every soft spot, every dimple, every sag connects to a place in my heart :) each day I love myself more and more, I am in better shape than before I ever had kids, I eat healthy, workout 5 days a week and love how my body feels womanly :) bring on my 30s I am ready!!

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4 Responses to “(Misty)”

  1. Dave Says:
    September 23rd, 2011 at 9:49 am

    Hey, you look fantastic after three kids. You’ve obviously worked very hard and it’s paid off! Your husband is very lucky…and he’s right…curves ARE sexy :)

  2. Misty Says:
    September 23rd, 2011 at 10:14 pm

    I’m 21 and have one child always been around 120 pounds still am!! Just my breast I cant stand! I always had nice breast and now they look like deflated balloons! Stretch marks on my butt and breast! Luckily not on my tummy! Your body looks great! Just wish mine did

  3. misty Says:
    September 26th, 2011 at 6:51 am

    Thanks guys! Misty, focus on your positives:) so many women get stretch marks on their tummies, lucky you… You didn’t! My husband always says that you could take a beautiful, perfect unflawed women who had no confidence and put her in the room with a women who had flaws or something that would be considered imperfect in today’s dociety and give her a killaer personality and the one that people will remeber is the gal with the great perdonality… Eventually EVERYONE’s outer beauty and youth fades but our inner self is there til our end.

  4. Jen Says:
    February 19th, 2012 at 4:12 pm

    You look hot mama!!!

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