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Loving mommyhood (Anonymous)

August 2, 2007

The day I found out I was pregnant is a day I’ll never forget. I was 20 at the time and scared out of my mind. Even though I knew my boyfriend at the time would be completely supportive and we were in love I was still scared. I knew I’d have to postpone finishing college and I would be responsible for another human’s life. I told my boyfriend and he was ecstatic. He is also 5 years older than me and was at that place in his life where kids just seemed like the next step. He asked me to marry him shortly after and I was worried that he only asked because I was pregnant. After many times of reassuring me that that was not the only reason we were married on October 10th. 3 months later he was deployed on a 6 month cruise in the Navy. He missed the 3rd trimester, the birth, and he wont be home until August where our daughter will then be 3 months old. Needless to say I am very scared that when he comes home and I’m not the same size 2 I was when he left he’s going to be dissapointed. I gained 45 pounds nearly by the end of the pregnancy and our daughter was 8 lb 8 oz. Now, I just need to get the courage back to be naked in front of him and our relationship can continue to grow. The wonderful gift I got in the form of our beautiful little girl is worth every pound I gained and every stretch mark I got.







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9 Responses to “Loving mommyhood (Anonymous)”

  1. Kris Says:
    August 2nd, 2007 at 2:28 pm

    You are a beautiful looking young mom and your little one is adorable. You need to give your body time to heal, and even now it looks just fine to me. Your body may never be “the same”, but in time you will get back into shape. Just spend these first few precious months concentrating on your baby. Believe me, the time goes by so fast, and you can never get it back…..as for your husband, he will also think your beautiful….and I find we are much more critical of ourselves than the men are. We obsess over things about ourselves that they don’t even notice, and if they do notice, they probably don’t care!!

  2. Sarah Says:
    August 2nd, 2007 at 3:24 pm

    Oh you are so gorgeous! Your body really bounced back!!! Be courageous and be proud of your body!

  3. mom of 2 boys Says:
    August 2nd, 2007 at 5:26 pm

    You look fantastic, and your post had me near tears. I can’t imagine my husband being away during such an emotional and special time, as having our first baby (or any baby!). Good for you for staying strong, and please know you look fabulous!! You don’t look like you gave birth three months ago, and in another 3 months you will look even better. You husband sounds like a total sweetheart who will cherish your few stretch marks, and marvel in what your body has created!

    God Bless

  4. Megan Says:
    August 2nd, 2007 at 6:00 pm

    Hey Girl i totally understand what you are going through!! hey.. YOU ARE MADE FOR MOTHERHOOD! you look Fantastic for someone who carried an 8.8 pound baby. and she is a gorgeous lil chub chub at that too. Let me just say that My partner and i are from different places he is Canadian and i am Australian and he missed the birth of his Daughter, the entire pregnancy and he Didn’t see our baby girl until she was 2 months old. But you know what when he came down here and saw me for the first time in 11 months- Like this is the happiest i have ever seen from him, He loves my body- my stretchmarks and most of all he is more in love with me then ever because he appreciates all the work that i did to bring our beautiful daughter into this world. Dont you worry about your what your husband might think because he is a good man and he will love you no matter what, in fact he will probably laugh and smile in response to your worries with your body. Because from what i can see you are still very much in shape. Take care girl your beautiful.

  5. Anna Says:
    August 3rd, 2007 at 6:05 am

    I give all military wives huge credit for what they endure. You look fantastic and that precious baby is girl is going to steal his heart!

    If marriage and children are the “next step” in his life- and he was completely thrilled that you were pregnant, you need not worry about how you look around him. He sounds like a very loving and supportive man. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder…

  6. Alexis Says:
    August 3rd, 2007 at 8:49 am

    I, too, am a Navy wife whose husband comes and goes.

    My husband didn’t see me from 36weeks till 7weeks PP, which means he also missed the birth of our first child, so I can definitely relate to how you are feeling about what your husband will think when he sees you again. You look amazing though! I’m sure your husband will feel the same way about you as he did when he left, and as he has since he’s been gone. I’m excited for you that he’s coming home soon!

  7. Cathy Says:
    August 3rd, 2007 at 8:51 am

    Since this is your first deployment as a Navy wife and mother, here’s some of what to expect.

    When you go to meet the ship, make sure you get a good spot on the pier. Since your baby was born while he was gone, he’ll be one of the first ones off. Expect a big hug and kiss, and probably a rose. He won’t care what you’re wearing or what you think you look like. He hasn’t seen you for 6 months, but he loves you and missed you. Baby will also get attention, but he may be afraid of holding her–a lot of men are especially if they haven’t had any experience with babies before (like nieces/nephews, or younger siblings). Wear something that makes you feel good, and (just in case) prepare for bad weather. For some odd reason, the hubby’s ship always seems to come back when it’s raining. He’ll be handsome in his whites, and you’ll get to run off for a while together (unless he has duty that day, but even if he does, he can probably trade it with someone who doesn’t have a baby to come home to).

    You’ll all be fine. Relax, it’ll be ok.

  8. Jen Says:
    August 3rd, 2007 at 10:44 pm

    Hi there, I noticed your photo and had to comment only because I had to take a double take. We look very much alike. Ya know how people will say you look like so and so and you don’t personally really see the resemblance? Well I can totally see the resemblance myself which made it wierd for me. My 10 year old thought it was me holding another baby, I showed my husband who assumed you must be a cousin he hadn’t met yet or something. He thought it was a birth announcement in my email or something. SO, I have to say you are a woman of absolute stunning beauty, lol. Seriously though, you do look great, and that little belly will continue to shrink for another month or two. Congrats!!

  9. Tara Says:
    January 8th, 2008 at 7:36 am

    Goodness girl, you are gorgeous! I’m 29 weeks pregnant right now and hope I look half as good as you do after I have my son. You look wonderful!

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