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Love my 2 kids, hate my belly. (Anonymous)

September 4, 2012

The last time I posted on here was about 4 years ago..I had just had my first baby girl 5 months earlier. Before getting pregnant, I was a fit 5’5, 125 lbs. After she was born, my belly still looked like a small basketball. I had no stretchies, but I knew I wasn’t going anywhere without a blousy shirt. When I got pregnant with girl #2, I weighed about 140 lbs. I had her via c section (as I did with my first), and swore this time I would get my body back. No matter how hard I worked, it didn’t happen. I exercised, wore one of those stupid binders that some people swear by, ate healthy.. I felt (and still do feel) guilty that I have these amazing, healthy daughters that I love so very much, but I cannot come to terms with my belly. Saggy boobs, whatever..I can wear a better bra. Stretchies, got those during the second pregnancy, but who cares? Belly, like an even bigger basketball..horrendous! Even my belly button STILL sticks out, and my younger daughter just turned 1! I also still have a faint line all the way down my belly. I think I could live with a saggy baby belly…but mine is firm, has a HUGE diastasis separation, and has a deformed outie belly button. I wish we could afford a tummy tuck. I am glad my husband loves me just the same, but my self esteem sucks. I also worked SO hard to lose all my baby weight, and now that I’m back to 125 lbs I feel like I look worse that I did at 140..because the rest of me shrunk, but not my belly. Ugh. I just don’t get it. I have a good friend who gained like 90 lbs during her pregnancy, and lost it with NO effort whatsoever within a couple of months. It’s just depressing.

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3 Responses to “Love my 2 kids, hate my belly. (Anonymous)”

  1. Holly Says:
    September 4th, 2012 at 6:46 pm

    First off kudos to you momma! You have 2 beautiful kids and you dropped that weight. There are specific exercises that you can do to help with diastasis. I think that all moms have that one friend that lost all the weight with no problem. I know I do. She was a size 6 when she got pregnant and since we started running together I’ve lost 25 lbs and she’s down to a size 0
    But I don’t compare myself to her because I know that everyone is different!
    Good luck!!!!

  2. Leah Says:
    September 5th, 2012 at 11:19 am

    In the end justthink, there are probably tons of women who would kill to look like you!

  3. Stacia Says:
    September 5th, 2012 at 3:27 pm

    Check out transverse abdominal excerises, i had the same type of belly. Imwas never told i had diastasis but i looked up the excersises for it and started doing them regularly. My daughter is almost 15 months and just in the last 3 months my belly has decreased half its size. They help strenghten your core muscles, which after c sections and of course pregnancies can stretch out your muscles. Stomach crunches will make it worse. Congrats on the beautiful little ones! Hope this helps!

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