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Lopsided Breasts! (Raiwyn)

May 4, 2007

Since my son was about 4 months, he’s refused my left breast. He’s now almost 20 months! I was a B cup before pregnancy. The small side is now a deflated A cup and the big side is at least a C, sometimes a D when it’s really full!





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28 Responses to “Lopsided Breasts! (Raiwyn)”

  1. autumn Says:
    May 4th, 2007 at 7:23 pm

    hahah how awesome!

  2. Alexandra Says:
    May 4th, 2007 at 8:04 pm

    I can’t tell you what a relief it is to see your photos. Thank you for posting! I have the exact same situation and I often feel self-conscious about it. My husband insists that it’s no big deal but I’m really horrified. Even when I’m wearing a padded bra, it’s totally noticeable. Oh well. Our children are healthy.

  3. Kitty Says:
    May 5th, 2007 at 4:28 am

    My first daughter preferred my left breast over my right and when she was six months old I lost the milk in my right, but she nursed only on the left until she was 17 months old. Then when I had my second daughter she didn’t want the right one either. I talked to my doctor when she was a few days old and he told me to always start with the right one, that way she would be the hungriest and probably use it. It worked, but she did always favor the left and the right always produced less milk and stayed a bit smaller. I just stopped nursing her at 21 months and both breasts are now back to roughly the same size (probably an A cup.) Isn’t that even a tiny baby has it’s own personality and can decide so young what they do and don’t like?!

  4. i-dra Says:
    May 5th, 2007 at 8:44 am

    MY breasts are lopsided too! i don’t know about you, but i’m really self-concious about it. since having my son, my right is maybe a small b cup & my left is a large c. mirror image of yours. how do you feel about them? does it bother you? i would be very interested i how you deal with it (clothing, attitude, etc). does the smaller one still produce?

  5. Tanya Says:
    May 5th, 2007 at 3:36 pm

    Its amazing how our bodies changed. But I can honestly say your not the only one. My one friend ended up the same exact way and she didn’t even breastfeed. Her one breast just grew more than the other during her first pregnancy, then got bigger during her second. No matter what your body is still beautiful and your are given your child the best.

  6. Kodis Mom Says:
    May 5th, 2007 at 9:50 pm

    AHH WHY DO THEY DO THAT! My son did the same thing about about three months the left breast showed him no interest, I was always lopsided by atleast a cupsize…I recently got pregnant again and my left breast has gotten larger and is now somewhat the same size as my right! No matter what you look beautiful… congrats on breastfeeding! And your body looks amazing!!!

  7. RockstarMom Says:
    May 5th, 2007 at 11:01 pm

    You look so beautiful, and your son looks so content at his beloved right breast! That is so precious.

  8. Corrina Says:
    May 7th, 2007 at 10:53 am

    My daughter will be celebrating her second birthday on Mother’s Day. She’s been exclusively nursing on my left side since she was ten months old. My left breast is about two cup sizes different from my right. The only time I really worry is when I’m in a bathing suit but at least is gives people something to focus on other than my thighs!!!! Oh, the things we endure for our beautiful babies!

  9. Diva Says:
    May 8th, 2007 at 2:16 am

    You look beautiful!!! I LOVE LOVE LOVE the picture of your baby feeding, it is so lovely!!!! For what it’s worth, sometimes refusal to feed on one side can be related to discomfort lying on that side. I was told (by my doctor and antenatal instructor) to get my baby checked out by a cranial osteopath in the first six weeks after birth, which is the norm where I live (in New Zealand). Apparently it is common for the journey down the birth canal, all the squeezing etc, to cause some things in the neck or spine to end up slightly out of place, causing discomfort or even pain in certain positions, often on one side, sometimes both. This can result in a very unsettled baby, a baby who refuses to feed on one side or who sleeps badly. I had both my girls checked in their first six weeks. My eldest had minor adjustments (which are extremely gentle by the way, they barely even touched her), my youngest had more than one visit and several adjustments which led to her feeding happily on both sides (she had also previously been somewhat unwilling to accept my left breast) and being a much more settled baby. Many of my friends and family have also had their babies checked and have had success in getting relief from reflux, refusal to feed on one side and sleeping issues. It is well worth getting your littlies checked out and resolving issues like this and any possible resulting future issues.

    Good luck!!! :)

    Tara :)

  10. tinifer Says:
    May 8th, 2007 at 9:59 pm

    With the commetn about positioning, that got me thinking. I have five kids, nursed all for a long time. One way I nursed, which I don’t see many women do, was to lie on my side with a pillow next to me. I’d put the baby on his/her side, facing me, atop the pillow, aligning them with the top breast. This might also work if your baby prefers being on one side. Just a thought. Also, one of my girlfriends recently went off the pill and her left breast grew quite a bit. I overheard a guy say, “well, it just adds variety”, that stuck with me…I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal. PS I love the nursing baby photo!!

  11. Jessica Says:
    May 9th, 2007 at 1:39 am

    What i noticed from your pics is how beautiful, smooth and flat your belly is.
    Your body is gorgeous, whether or not your breasts are lopsided.

  12. Raiwyn Says:
    May 27th, 2007 at 3:49 am

    Ooh, thanks for the comments!

    i-dra- It doesn’t bother me at all, I think it’s funny! There are a few tops I can’t wear, it just doesn’t work, but mostly it’s no hassle. My mum kept offering (jokingly) to buy me some sort of implant thingo to tuck into my bra on the small side… but seriously, even tho there’s a major obvious difference with no bra, once I’m dressed, no one notices unless I point it out (which is usually when the topic comes up in breastfeeding discussions, I don’t just point it out to random people, LOL). And I can still get a drop of milk out, 17 months later, whereas the other one will squirt halfway across the room!

    Corrina: OMG it looks funny in swimmers! Hehe, I tried to find a photo of me in swimmers to add but the one I was thinking of was a real photo, not digital, and I don’t have a scanner.

    Diva: Yeah, I was feeding lying down alot around the time he started refusing, so I do think it was something to do with being more comfy on one side. I’ll look into the osteopathy for the next bub… I did have quite a long labour with Malachi, I’m sure he was stiff and sore afterwards.

  13. Seth Says:
    June 28th, 2007 at 6:30 pm

    In my personal opinion and some one on here is going to have to tell me if it matters or not but as a guy I think they look wonderful there’s nothing to be selfconcious about in my opinion.

  14. Linda Says:
    October 4th, 2007 at 6:06 pm

    Hi thanks so much for posting this i was online under google and typed in uneven breasts. I have been this way since my first child I had at 19 Iam now 25 and I was hopeing with my second child they would even out, but that wasnt the case. I was actully online looking to find away to solve my breats issues because like you guys said above swimwear, and I hate buying bras my left side is about a small b and right a full c my husband says he couldnt tell until i pointed it out but he has to say that right?lol no but he said im still beautiful and loves me just the way iam but yet here iam looking to fix the problem. Raiwyn I just want to thankyou for posting your pics and sharing this with us.Iam now second guessing myself if I should even fix this problem. I thought i was the only one Iam always so scared people can notice it, iam always careful on what i wear and it feels like a nightmare sometimes. But Raiwyn you inspire me to be different i know is to be your own beautiful. Thanks again:) Linda

  15. Andrea Says:
    November 11th, 2007 at 12:26 am

    I have always had one bigger than the other, but sence my little boy it has only gotten worse. My son decided that he only would latch on to the larger one, so it continued to grow. Now I am a B and DD, now thats a difference. Due to this and some other things I decided to stop nurcing. It makes me so sad, I miss it so much. It just caused so much back pain. If I could go back I would have keept nurcing. So I just want to say, Dont give up. It is also nice to know that other women have gone through this.

  16. Kashi Says:
    November 30th, 2007 at 3:52 am

    You shouldn’t be so worried about your breasts. At least you still have beautiful skin, my belly is COVERED in stretch marks. It’s the price we pay for our beautiful babies. (As if labor wasn’t enough) Hah.
    :)

  17. Tamara Meske Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 11:53 pm

    This is my favorite post so far. Thanks for sharing!

  18. Nini Says:
    May 7th, 2008 at 8:55 pm

    I, like Linda, was looking to solve the problem, and like many others, had been told it’s no big deal but was too self-conscious. I think we get so caught up in what people think that we forget to just love who we are. The people who love us and matter to us love us just so, so why don’t we do the same? (Easier said than done!)I’ve been battling with the decision for five years on whether to get my left breast fixed or not…Now, I think the choice has been made for me. Thank you all for sharing, especially you Raiwyn!

  19. John Says:
    May 29th, 2008 at 7:38 am

    I’m a dad and it is only just now, after two C-sections, that my wife has finally blossomed into a woman with the perfect body.

    My wife’s breasts have really taken a beating. They are no longer the perky, taut, cute little things they once were. They now sag badly, making them appear very long. Her right nipple points straight down and her left points slightly up and to the left. Her left breast is mildly larger and both are very stretch-marked from too many times of being away from baby for too long. Her hips are a little wider, she has the flabby “cottage-cheese” pudge that often comes with two C-sections, and her thighs now rub together where they never did before. The late nights have left their mark in the form of crow’s feet and seemingly permanent dark circles under her eyes, and she is now comfortable going to the store in sweat pants, a bra, and a sweat shirt where she’d have never even gone outside in that stuff before.

    See, you mothers have it all wrong. There is an order, a chronology if you will, for the stages of growth in a female’s life. The choices you make determine your path. There are little girls, teens, young women, and then there are women. From this point, a choice is made – to bear or not to bear. For those that choose not to bear, a life with a woman’s body awaits. But for those that do choose to bear children, a life with the body of a mother awaits.

    And the body of a mother is something only the eye of a father can appreciate.

    My wife did not just fill out a form or stand in a line to “get” the body she now has. No… she earned every bit of it and she still turns me on.

    Embrace your lop-sided breasts and please don’t make the mistake of attempting to “repair” what is not broken. Besides, everytime you look at your breasts in the mirror, you still see your babies, nursing quietly and being close to you. Don’t be so quick to erase such a welcome and readily available memory. :-)

  20. K Says:
    June 11th, 2008 at 10:08 pm

    It is nice to know I am not the only mom who has one larger breast than the other. But, I would like to know if my breasts will return to the same size or close to the same size when I am done breastfeeding. Did your breasts return to the same size after you finished breastfeeding your son?

  21. Chloe Says:
    June 16th, 2008 at 2:52 pm

    Hey! I was really happy to find this site. I’m a 16 year old girl, i have never had children and yet my breats look just like Raiwyn’s breast. I am extremely aware of my situation and i hate it. My right breast is a D cup and the right one is a A cup :S. It doesn’t show when i have clothes on because i wear a special padding that makes them seem equal in size and shape. My boyfriend says that he doesn’t mind the difference in size but im really not comfortable with them, i can’t have him touch the small one or i start feeling like im not a good girlfriend because i don’t have normal breasts. I want to get them fixed up because im having problems just looking at myself in the mirror topless. Does anyone know what i could do to be more confident about it?

  22. kirsten Says:
    February 17th, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    mine look actcully the same and im 14 years old i never got children lol but why my breast do that???

    please help me, some one write back and tell me

    i have been very self concisious about it

  23. kirsten Says:
    February 17th, 2009 at 6:12 pm

    mine look actcully the same and im 14 years old i never got children lol but why my breast do that???

    please help me, some one write back and tell me

    i have been very self concisious about it

    hOw can i rEdUced the size and make them equal

  24. Raiwyn Says:
    April 24th, 2009 at 5:43 am

    I’m back again, just wanted to update in case anyone’s interested.

    During my second pregnancy (my son stopped feeding when I was about 6 months preg), they evened out. When my daughter was born, the previously bigger breast got milk about half a day before the other, and produced more milk with a faster let down. My daughter fed from both until 11 months, but always preferred the same one her brother did. Now she only feeds from that one, and I’m totally lopsided again.

    Kirsten, I don’t know if you’ll ever come back here and read this, but let go of the media images of ‘perfect’ bodies… even the people in those pictures don’t actually look like that. The people on this site are real people with real bodies :)

  25. ash.rock Says:
    June 21st, 2009 at 2:58 pm

    thank you so much for this posting and all who replied. you all are beauty-full and made my day.
    i have lop sided breasts, i have not yet had children but have been feeling self-conscious about the issue lately. i googled it and came across your site and now i feel warm and fuzzy. with the over-saturation of media in our culture highlighting the troubling pornographic trends in music, movies, tv, and advertising… i feel the pressure to look a certain way, when in my heart i know that’s not necessary. its so great to see a public dialogue about this and to read all the words of encouragement to accept your body as is with all the amazing changes it goes through. we are truly fascinating creatures!! us women!!

    much love to you all!

  26. Liva Says:
    July 18th, 2009 at 10:43 pm

    Thanks, thanks, thanks. I have the same experience and was beginning to become very self conscious about the whole thing. It makes me feel much better to hear that it is not so unusual. The photos are very generous of you.

  27. arek Says:
    November 21st, 2009 at 1:06 am

    hey there, I’m a guy in my mid twenties and my man bag is stretched really thin and lil uneven and looks funny like the rocks are too heavy or something. After hernia surgery the pouch filled up with a lot of fluid whenever I sat down and this stretched it all out. I’m really self concious of it. I don’t want girls to think something is wrong. I think that its kinda a special thing I have that other guys don’t. So I don’t think u should feel bad about uneven breasts, I think its attractive. Those pics of u above are beautiful! don’t be ashamed ladies… Things that make us different are the same things that make us humans beautiful. It does help me feel better knowing that a woman of this particular condition could relate to my situation in some sort.

  28. elyse Says:
    December 26th, 2009 at 10:08 pm

    to the younger women who have never been pregnant: growing up lopsided from puberty really is hard. i was probably a small b on the right side and a large c on my left. you are always thinking about it and conscious of it. it gives you really low self esteem. the one thing i can say is that you are definitely not the only one out there! i was lucky enough to have breast augmentation surgery. they still are scarred and not perfect, but they are so much better than before! i am not on here as a “vote” for plastic surgery. i think having the body of a mother is wonderful. but for those of you out there that have shattered self esteem, there are ways to make you feel so so so much better. i have never regretted my surgery. i feel more like myself. i feel more like a woman. it was a about $3500, and it was worth every penny :) good luck with any decision you make.

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