I found the story of the mom who did not know she was pregnant very interesting. I have the same sort of story, but mine is a bit different.
It was mid February 2004 and my period had been missing for 3 months. I went back to the doctor, and of course she asked me if I was pregnant. “No” I said “I tested” so she decided to check and get a blood test done. Sure enough when I came back the beginning of May, it was negative, even though I told her I was exhausted and gaining weight, despite not changing my eating habits. She told me my hormones we so low that I couldn’t even GET pregnant. However, the hormone prolactin, usually only seen in nursing mothers, was very high. This could mean I had a certain type of brain tumor, so I had to go for an MRI.
I had been doing home pregnancy tests every couple of weeks for several months, simply because I wasn’t getting my period and thought it was best. They were always negative. My Mom said she wanted me to get an ultrasound before the MRI, since she had many problems in the past with ovarian cysts and other things. So I got one scheduled for Monday, May 31st, 2004.
The weekend before, my stomach had been bothering me. The oddest sensation- like I could feel myself getting fatter- I had stretch marks! Still, negative tests, and the doctor did say it wasn’t possible for me to be pregnant.
Monday came, and I went to the ultrasound- by myself, because everyone had to work… and no one expected what we found. I got really mad at the technician- she saw my belly and asked me right away if I was pregnant. I told her the story so far, and she just said “okay, get up on the table then”
I wasn’t even looking at the screen. Then I heard, “Um, Kerri? There IS a baby here- and it is about 21 weeks along” I quickly did the math in my head.. “What??….You mean.. I am over 5 months pregnant???” I said. “Yes, you are”
This is what he looked like that day. Also, a picture of him at exactly one week.
We only had 4 and half months to prepare. I was only 23 and completely not ready for all this. I had been on the pill.. I only went off the pill because my doctor had told me to (back in November), that the hormones were what was disrupting my period. I was worried because I had done so much heavy lifting- all these things you shouldn’t do when you are pregnant. Good thing I don’t drink or smoke, or have any really bad habits!
At first I was really angry and blamed the doctor. I missed almost my entire pregnancy- she told me I might have a brain tumor! What was I going to do? We were supposed to be moving across country in just a couple months. We couldn’t now, I would be nearly 8 months pregnant!
In the end, all my friends and family helped us get everything ready, and the parents of the kids I taught were amazing (I was teaching in a preschool) They brought me maternity clothes, baby clothes, baby seats, everything. I don’t know what I would have done otherwise.
Anyway, the point of my story is, when someone tells you “They didn’t know” Don’t look at them like they must have just been stupid. I ‘KNEW’ I was pregnant from almost the beginning- but I kept hearing it was impossible, over and over, and all those endless negative tests and blood tests. What would you REALLY have thought? You would probably assume it was impossible then, as I did.
My new doctor knows this story. If I ever miss a period for over a month, and if I even suspect, I will be going in for an ultrasound. I am glad that this doctor believes me. Some people still assume I was just in denial.. but they don’t take into consideration all that happened and how they would feel.