The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother

« | Home | »

It’s Not Really So Bad (Autumn)

June 26, 2009

Your Age: 29
Number of pregnancies and births: One pregnancy, one birth
The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 9 months

Today marks 281 days since my daughter was born. The same amount of time that she spent on the “inside”. I’ve been looking forward to this day, it feel momentous for some reason.

I look over the landscape of my changed body and I’m grateful that I’m not so changed that i don’t recognize myself but also thankful for the signs that my daughter once occupied my space. The day after her birth (by c-section, after 27 hours of hard labor) i saw my deflated belly in the mirror and thought “I have arrived”. My mind went back to all the mothers on this website and i knew that i was going to be
with the majority with my stretchy skin and mother’s “apron” and not one of the few who return to hard, flat bellies within a few weeks.

Silvery stretchmarks line my belly but they’re only visible in certain lights. In the blinding, brilliant sun they fade into the rest of my skin but in harsh overhead lighting they look like craters. But I’ve grown comfortable in the skin i’m in. I’m not saying that I’m about to get in a bikini and head down to the beach, but i also realize that I’m not in competition with 19 year old spring-breakers. I credit this website with the acceptance, and even love that i have for my new form. Before SOAM i hadn’t seen what a “real mother” looked like without her clothes off. My mom, through genes that somehow skipped me, had no stretchmarks and maintained a very svelte figure. So thank you to all of you for having the courage to post your photos and stories and for giving me the courage to love my jiggle and stretchmarks and even my c-section scar enough to do the same.

Photos-
1 – 40 weeks pregnant, I was HUUUUUGGEEE
2 – My 40 week belly, it was not a “pretty pregnant belly”
3 – Today, sucking in makes it look worse
4 – Today, letting it go makes it look smoother
5 – Today, in the right light everything looks pretty good
6 – My daughter, the reason for this post in the first place.

Post to Twitter Post to Facebook

7 Responses to “It’s Not Really So Bad (Autumn)”

  1. stepahnie Says:
    June 26th, 2009 at 11:02 am

    First off I’d like to say you look amazing and second your daughter is beautiful!

  2. taiyo Says:
    June 26th, 2009 at 2:47 pm

    You look great, and I love your attitude. I so know what you mean about the “right light”! Your daughter is beautiful and reminds me of mine. God, I love her so much!!! Congrats.

  3. Kris Says:
    June 27th, 2009 at 10:35 am

    Your belly looks kinda like mine, i think you look great, your daughter is beautiful just like her mommy

  4. billboardz360 Says:
    June 27th, 2009 at 2:17 pm

    what a refreshing story and pics. thanx for sharing. keep up the good work and may your attitude be infectious to all those who know you and read your story.

  5. Kim Says:
    June 28th, 2009 at 10:38 pm

    BEAUTIFUL!

  6. Sue Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 10:30 am

    your belly looks very much like mine. stretch marked extra skin hangs over my 6 pack of abs. sucking in makes it look much worse, as you describe. i just need the positive attitude that you appear to have over your motherly body!

  7. Kristine Says:
    July 22nd, 2009 at 1:19 am

    Your baby is sooo beautiful! I have a 8-month old daughter. They make it all worth it don’t they.

Comments


Support This Site