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Is There Any Hope For Me? (Anonymous)

July 14, 2014

Age : 24
Number of pregnancies : 1
Child’s age : 3 months old

I am a first time mom.
I do not know anything about pregnancy as I am far away from my family.
I was depressed the whole time and I felt so lonely.
From 120 pounds I went to a whooping 193 pounds.
I am 3 months post partum and now 154 pounds.
I’ve got tons of stretch marks on my hips.
I said to myself it was ok because they will surely fade in time and I thought it was normal. However, weeks after childbirth I have noticed so many on my legs. On top of my thighs, back of my thighs, right inner thigh, back of my knees, and both calves.
I am devastated and I feel so hopeless. I cannot sleep and eat well.
I have been on Google for remedies and such because I really do not have knowledge about it. I just thought that it would only be on the tummy area. And you’ll only get them if you scratch. Luckily, I found this site. Its a relief to realize that I am not alone with this but still I feel so hopeless.
I am very happy with my baby but it hurts to look at myself. I feel so wrecked and damaged.
Do I still have any hopes?
Will I ever be able to wear shorts or dresses in time?
I have so many things on my mind to say here but I am so down because of what happened to my once flawless legs.
Thank you for reading my submission.

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14 Responses to “Is There Any Hope For Me? (Anonymous)”

  1. Kat Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 8:28 am

    I, too, have stretches on my legs. I went from 160 to 240 (10 lb baby) during my first pregnancy. I have stretch marks on my arm pits, boobs, lower stomach, hips, legs, knees, calves, etc.. I have since had 3 more children ranging from 8 to 11 lbs. My new husband loves my body, I wear bikinis, shorts, dresses, whatever and he says that my legs are one of my best features. I am 140 now and the stretch marks have faded so much, the only person who has noticed it unless I point it out is my chiropractor. But not until months after he started seeing me. I know you feel strange about it, I have yet to meet anyone with stretchies on their legs, but your not alone. Your body is beautiful and nobody will notice, trust me. The secret is not to tan for the first year post partum so they don’t discolor. Then they fade to skin color and become a beautiful part of your motherhood. I know its tough not to have family around (I don’t either) but with a site like this and your baby, you will begin to enjoy your new life and things like leg stretchies will fade into the back ground. Hang in there! ((hugs))

  2. Amy Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 11:22 am

    I also got these on my first pregnancy I went from an irish size 6/8 to a 14 when leaving the hospital after giving birth!

    I felt so insecure. I used a product called Sally Hansen on my legs when they were in show. It’s make for your legs but stays on much better then foundation for your face would. My first born is now 5 and they have faded so much I barley see them myself!

    Keep your head up and enjoy your baby x

  3. MJ Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 11:35 am

    I too am 24 (with two kids) and I have stretch marks all up and down my legs, some days I don’t like them and others I don’t notice them. What actually bothers me more are my veins showing, but I have found one of the things that helps is for me to just wear skirts and dresses and to not care (or at least to appear to not care, which leads to not caring ;) ). There is no magic cream, or food, or exercise to make them go away, so I just stare at them and like them… Sometimes love them, I have some really cool ones on my hips that actually criss cross each other and looks kind of pretty. Just remember you aren’t wrecked or damaged, you are exactly the way you’re supposed to be… Which may take some time to accept (took me three + years), but before you know it you’ll be rocking those cute shorts and dresses like it’s nobody’s business!

  4. autumn Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 11:36 am

    Your stretchmarks aren’t nearly as noticable and you may think, but if it helps I have them everywhere. My tummy is covered, from my pelvis up to my ribs as well as sagging wrinkled skin. I have them on my hips, the backs of my arms, my inner thighs the backs of my knees and down my calves. I also have them on my breasts but they aren’t noticeable and that was from puberty, not pregnancy. If you go to the search engine on this site and search “Autumn” you can see my posts. I am the teen mom with a stretch marked tummy and one of my posts should link to my other posts. I did post my legs… hopefully it helps you feel a little better

  5. JM Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 11:53 am

    I have stretch marks on my legs too as Well as almost the whole rest of my body. My youngest is 7 and I can’t say mine look any better now but my boyfriend of 3 years says he loves my legs (along with the rest of me Lol) I know exactly how you feel. I still have very bad days too. But I still wear shorts and skirts. If people don’t like it then they don’t have to look.

  6. amanda Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 11:59 am

    First off, don’t hate them or yourself. You cannot change them so acceptance is you’re only hope. Your pregnancy weight gain was very similar to my own first and I also ended up with stretchmarks almost everywhere…the worst for me being my legs. I have spent the last 8 years hating my body…I am now 27 and am making a change. So what if we have stretchmarks. And who cares where! You are no less beautiful for them. Please, I personally know how hard it is, but do not spend anymore time thinking about them, hating them, or thinking negatively about your body. I have missed out on so many things because of something as simple, and natural, as stretchmarks! There is no miracle “fix” to make you “better”. Just as there is no preventative for them either. You are beautiful and so are your legs. Be happy pretty mama!

  7. Renee Says:
    July 14th, 2014 at 12:20 pm

    I gained 50lbs with each of my two pregnancies–and got stretch marks just about everywhere. They will continue to fade! It might take a year, and you’ll always notice them, but other people won’t. It’s hard after the baby is born–there are SO many changes in your body! Give yourself some more time, I’m sure with time you will regain your confidence!

  8. Maria Says:
    July 15th, 2014 at 11:18 am

    They will fade and be much less noticeable. Only you will see them. Nobody else is looking for them, wear your shorts and dresses, be comfortable. Everybody has something they don’t like about themselves, they’ll be more concerned about their own “flaws” that they won’t see what you think of as your own.

  9. Pam Says:
    July 16th, 2014 at 8:02 pm

    I got lots of stretch marks with my first pregnancy. They are still there, but they have faded so much no-one sees them except me. Just remember that it all takes time. My husband loves my body and always encourages me to wear short dresses and bikinis, even though it makes me very self-conscious. Friends and others also make really nice comments on my body, completely unasked for, and none of them have noticed my faded stretch marks or the slightly saggy tummy skin. Just make sure you eat well and arrange to take some time out for yourself every day that involves enjoyable exercise. You will soon look great again, you’ll feel better about yourself and you’ll have more energy too. PS, all the celebrity photos in magazines have the advantage of flattering lighting and Photoshop, we all look just as good in real life.

  10. Isla Says:
    July 17th, 2014 at 7:54 am

    You are right, you aren’t alone. I am 24 years old and I have 2 children, ages 6 and 2. I went from 115 to 160 both pregnancies. I have stretch markes covering my hips, part of my back, the whole front of my stomach past my belly button, my upper inner thighs and also the backs of my calves. They do get better. But the ones on my thighs and calves look like yours and that never stopped me from wearing dresses/shorts. To be honest I didn’t even notice the ones on my calves until a few years after my first daughter! They will fade some with time but if they bother you that much I’ve bought a few DERMA rollers and they really do help a lot! I use them mostly for my belly since that’s the part I struggle with the most. But you can use them on your legs and thighs. I’ve tried it on my upper inner thighs bc I hate they way they look in a swimsuit and it has def helped :) after my son though I’ve learned to accept my body, and I’m a lot happier and at peace now. Of course I still try to do things to make them look better, but I do that for me, not anyone else. So i feel better about myself. they dont bother my husband at all. i can assure you, they bother you more than anyone else! no one prob even notices them. and if they do you shouldn’t care what other people think. You are a woman and a mother, don’t be ashamed. Enjoy your baby. I know I’ve asked myself ugh why do I have saggy boobs and stretch marks EVERYWHERE, when they have women who don’t even look like they have had babies. But we don’t need to compare ourselves to everyone else. You and I are unique and different, everyone has a different story and a different life. And you have people that love you, especially your sweet little baby. Don’t be down about your body, and don’t let it consume your thoughts everyday. That will make you miserable. I started eating healthier and doing 10 minutes of exercise a day. I know it’s not much but it makes me feel better about myself. Hope you learn to love your body and stay positive.

  11. Kerry Says:
    July 17th, 2014 at 6:08 pm

    My thighs are COVERED in stretchmarks, top, sides, back.. as well as my calves, belly, hips and thighs. I went from 130 to 200 in my first pregnancy. I felt the same as you, and refused to wear shorts the first summer after my son was born. I’ve had another child since, have gained and lost another 45lbs in that pregnancy, and now wear shorts and *gasp* even bikinis! I was on my honeymoon (one of the biggest changes from self loathing to self loving was getting out of my abusive relationship and years later into a loving one) a few weeks ago and was sitting in the hot tub. A woman who appeared to be in her 60s slowly walked over and stepped in. I saw her thighs, they looked just like mine. We had different color skin, were different ages, were probably from completely different areas, but I felt a kinship with her, and it made me smile.. assuming she shared the same journey of motherhood that I did and that she was bold enough to bare her body in order to enjoy life. I want to be that person to those around me! Ive yet to see another mom with as many stretchmarks as me in a bikini, and its my hope to change that! You are beautiful, and your legs are beautiful too!

  12. Crystal Nevins Says:
    July 20th, 2014 at 4:21 pm

    I have two children. One is almost six a day the younger one is 3 1/2 months old. I am covered in stretch marks. I got most of them from hitting puberty. I was a 34 c by 8th grade! They just multiplied with each child. At 25 I had made peace with my stretch marks I figured I would never rid of them. I have since discovered a product which I now sell that has worked wonders at fixing this issue! I love my body even more then before now.

  13. Tiffany Says:
    July 31st, 2014 at 12:02 pm

    Oh, honey, don’t be so hard on yourself. I was you- far away from my family, and body just covered in stretch marks. I have them from my boobs down to my calves. They’re accompanied by sagging skin, too, unfortunately. You’re still in the early days. Having a newborn is hard enough without being depressed about your new body, too. Breathe, eat well, and find time for a little movement every day. Nothing too intense, that will only deplete you. Just a walk in fresh air, yoga, etc. This time of having little babies is so fleeting. Go easy on yourself. You are beautiful and will look back on this time wishing you hadn’t focused so much on something that really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. XO

  14. Alicia Says:
    September 1st, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    I am 25, had 1 pregnancy, my daughter is 16 months old. I also got stretch marks all the way down my legs. They are no longer visible, just a little bit of an indent in my skin. In the early days I noticed that they looked more prominent if I got dehydrated. Take care of yourself, drink water, continue your prenatal vitamins. Whether or not they completely disappear you’ll be amazed by how well your skin has healed itself a year from now.

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