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Irish twins and a body that will never be the same (Anonymous)

December 15, 2011

Age: 24
Number of Pregnancies: 2, Births 2

I have always been very skinny, being a gymnast I basically lived in a gym. I did gymnastics in college, which is were I met my husband. I got pregnant with my first child my jr year of college. She was a surprise as I had an IUD (copper), My body rejected it and I had to get it removed. I found out a month later I was 6 weeks pregnant with my peanut. I had a very stressful pregnancy, my husband was in the middle of a messy divorce, I was trying to finish school, and working. The pregnancy was very hard on my body, I was so sick the first three months I vowed to never have another child again. Before I got pregnant I was 118 pounds at 5’6 inches tall. I gained 54 pounds with my daughter most of which was water. I didn’t get a single stretch mark till after I had her, in a matter of a few days about 5 to be exact I lost 40 pounds my stomach shrank to quickly that I got shrink marks. ( as my husband calls them) After I had my daughter I was in love, I had never felt that instant love with someone before. I could hold her and stair at her for hours, she was my baby, and I loved her.

When she was three months old, my husbands company got sold and he was laid off. Three weeks before he was laid off I found out I was pregnant again, even though I was on birth control. My family wanted me to get an abortion since I was in my senior year of college and he had lost his job. I made the appointment but couldn’t go through with it. I have always felt that God has a plan, and he never gives me anything I can not get through. Even though I went through alot. We ended up moving from NC, to NJ where he finally got a job. He moved 2 months before I did, because I had to finish up my last semester in college. I was so stressed out, caring for a baby, being pregnant, finishing up school, applying for grad schools, having to pack our whole house, and move us alone. It was a lot. When I got to NJ, I didn’t know anyone. It was Dec 1st and freezing. I quickly joined a gym, as I have always loved to work out. With my son I gained 30 pounds. My delivery was pretty funny. I actually kicked the doctor out of the room b/c he wanted to give me a C-section for his own selfish will. I had a baby 11 months prior I knew what I was doing. I’m not sure if anyone else has exspeanced NJ doctors, but they are not the brightest of the bunch. The doctors did not listen to me when I said I needed to push, they told me it was two soon and they just checked me I was only 5 CM and that he wasn’t ready yet. I yelled at the nurse and told her he was coming, she tried to prove me wrong by checking to tell me I was still only 5 cm, and his head was crowning. She told me not to push, b/c the doctor was getting an OR. When your baby is right at the end you can not, not push, it is physcially impossible. He was out two seconds later, I pulled him out and held him right away. He screamed and latched on to feed before he was even cleaned off. He was my baby boy.

After I had my son I was ready to get back in the gym, with my daughter I was able to work out 2 days after she was born, but I felt so sick and run down with an almost 1 year old, and a newborn. IT took about 2 weeks before I got back into the gym. I did and still do work out 2 hours a day, 6 to seven days a week. It is Me time. With two babies, two step children, a house, husband, and grad school, I need me time, or I will explode… I’m only 24, that is a lot to take on. My sisters have been angry with me for working out, they don’t understand the good feelings that I get from working out. I don’t drink, I don’t go out, I don’t party, or do anything that my friends my age do. Yet they think it would be more exseptable to drink everyday then to go to the gym. NOw I don’t workout for the satisfactory of looking good, I just really enjoy working out. It makes me feel great, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I lost all my baby weight after about 3 months. Went back to a size zero, and started to look like my old self again. However, my boobs have dropped, they use to be “porn star” like according to my husband and they now look like tear drops. My stomach skin will never go away, when I bend over it makes a gross feeling flap. I have stretch marks on my stomach, which I have grown to love because they are my daughter, when she gets older I can tell her that they are for her. I hate that my body will never be the same. I know I look good for having two babies back to back, but i’m so use to a different body.

Two pics are me 40 weeks pregnant with my son
One pic is from when I was 6 months PP

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5 Responses to “Irish twins and a body that will never be the same (Anonymous)”

  1. alexis Says:
    December 15th, 2011 at 9:05 am

    I know people might give you trouble for working out 2 hours a day, but I just want to let you know that I support you. Everyone is different and everyone parents differently and everyone needs different things out of life. There is a very strong sentiment in American parenting, still, that mothers should be the 24/7 body guard for their child. I know so many mothers who never leave their child’s side but don’t really give much to their children. They treat them like little tasks to be dealt with. Honestly, I was that kind of mom the first time around. I didn’t even leave when a babysitter came to give me a break. But one day it clicked that I wasn’t giving a whole lot to my son besides a warm body – that I still had an identity. And I had a whole family that wanted to care for him and bond with him. Now that he is in daycare while I finish professional school and work, his caretakers gush about how he is their favorite. One told me it was because it was clear that he was “liked” at home and not just an obligation, that he felt a lot of love from a lot of people and was willing to accept it from them too. She said that whenever anyone (me, my husband or his grandmas) pick him up from daycare they are always so impressed that we are “excited” to see him and there is always a fun reunion.

    I guess I am trying to say, you do what is right for you. Your job is to look out for your child’s well-being and that doesn’t necessarily mean being the only caretaker all day. Two hours is not a lot for someone who enjoys training – so many mom’s go to lunch and shop for that long. I know the gym is one of the places I am most comfortable and I have taken my alone time there more often than not.

    It sounds like you have a lot of great support and a big, warm family for your LO’s :)

  2. Amy Says:
    December 15th, 2011 at 9:21 pm

    You look great :-)

  3. Monica Says:
    December 19th, 2011 at 1:37 pm

    I totally understand your feelings, and you DID go through a lot. Give yourself tons of credit if no one else will. And working out and having you time is totally acceptable given the fact that you must remain healthy physically AND mentally/emotionally in order to take on the responsibilities that you have. We women are so hard on ourselves. Having children wreaks havoc on our pre-pregnancy bodies, and if our God-given task is to be a mother it’s a sacrifice we have to make, understanding that our sacrifice has a living, breathing purpose. of course it’s hard with the media, but NONE of us can take our bodies with us when we go. Congratulations on all of your hard work!

  4. Marz Says:
    December 26th, 2011 at 11:49 am

    Oh. Wow. I think I would have murdered that doctor.

  5. Chelsea Says:
    January 26th, 2012 at 11:54 am

    You are amazing! You have been through so much.and you are doing a great thing working out. Iys not about the working out its just about doing something for yourself each day that makes you happy. You are making yourself happy,and healthy for yourself anf your family so dont let anyone,make you feel bad or guilty for that. I agree with you that working out is better than drinking or goin out. You look great! I dont see what you are talking about. I wish i looked as good as you after having both my kids. Give yourself some credit for all that you have accomplished :)

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