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I Love My Body…With Clothes ON! (Anonymous)

May 23, 2011

I found out I was pregnant with my first child when I was 19 years old. I was extremely excited but of course I was scared about what was to come. I was actually anxious to start to show…that didn’t happen until I was 6 months. Then I exploded like a hot air balloon. In the back of my head I always knew that I would get stretch marks, gain a lot of weight and look a hot mess because it was genetic. Both my mom and sisters gained a lot of weight…and “gave birth” via C-Section! :-(

I was 135lbs pre-pregnancy. When I gave birth to my child I weighed in at 209lbs at the hospital…74lbs. I am only 5’4″ so that looked disgusting. I had to have a C-Section because I had “Failure To Progress” which I think is a load of BS since neither I nor the baby was in any kind of danger. I think my doctor just wanted to go home. I digress. I breast fed for 9 months with baby #1. I only got back down to 175lbs. Then got preggers with baby #2 when baby #1 was 13 months. I had immense stretch marks already but there was no reason to do anything about them since I was already preggers again.

After baby #2 I hated my body. I was fat and stratted up (straie for stretch marks – you know – instead of tatted up?! Yeah Im corney). I had stretch marks everywhere except my feet, head, arms and hands. Literally. I was so depressed. I did go on WW and I lost 50 pounds and got all the way back down to 135lbs! But then me and their father split and I gained a lot back keeping me at 155lbs for two years but then I became ill a few months ago and am now at 144lbs.

The pictures below show my tummy…which I want a Tummy Tuck because doctors said that is the ONLY way to get rid of all the excess skin and stretch marks. I have a six back under the loose skin. I’ve always been muscular. I’ve tried to show you guys as close as possible the ones on my thighs, but, and sides.

To me there is nothing special about stretch marks. Getting rid of them does NOT mean that I resent my children…that’s the dumbest thing I have ever heard. I deserve to be happy with my body regardless of having children…

* Age: 25
* Number of pregnancies and births: 2 Pregnancies, 2 Births
* The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 5 and 3: 3 years PP.

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14 Responses to “I Love My Body…With Clothes ON! (Anonymous)”

  1. amber Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 8:19 am

    you and i are similar… i say the same thing. with clothes on… SEXY with clothes of… saggy :D

    you look great!!

    – posted blessed and tortured

  2. kasey Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 10:21 am

    I love your thighs!
    My older sister said it takes 7 years to recover from just one child. I don’t think anyone ever really recovers. Embrace your body. You are so sexy!

  3. Bryana Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 11:08 am

    I think you look absolutely awesome!
    We all have our insecurities and have our own way of dealing with them. If that means a tummy tuck for you, than so be it. I myself could not imagine going through something so drastic but if it works for you than best of luck! :)
    But for the record, your body looks amazing; stretch marks and saggy skin included!

  4. steph Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 1:45 pm

    i agree! the stretch marks are my problem, they have nothing to do with how i feel about my kid. i’d love to get rid of them+the extra tummy skin and droopy boobs. finally, someone who speaks the truth!! :)

  5. Mary V Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 3:07 pm

    Look at your curves! Hottie, you are def fit :)

  6. Marz Says:
    May 23rd, 2011 at 4:03 pm

    Tiny waist, big butt– work it, you’re one hot momma!

  7. Angele Says:
    May 24th, 2011 at 7:33 am

    First I have to say you look amazing!!! I have had a tummy tuck and it did not get rid of my stretch marks, it did however remove the excess skin. Looks to me like you have an umbilical hernia; so please be careful if you do sit ups! You are one fit mama!! You should be proud!

  8. Kayla Says:
    May 29th, 2011 at 3:22 pm

    You look great! Awesome curves and you are very toned! I can barely see your stretch marks! Read my post “we create beauty, we are beauty” and rethink that tummy tuck! Your a beautiful mama!

  9. lizz Says:
    May 30th, 2011 at 3:49 am

    you have the best boobs! i’m pretty jealous of them!

  10. Kate Says:
    June 1st, 2011 at 5:58 am

    I wouldnt mind having your body one bit…my husband is a butt man and yours is great! You look very fit and you can only see the stretchmarks from like 2 inches away. The skin is what it is, i have it too even though im thin. I toy with the idea of surgery, (want boobs more than a tuck) somedays i think i will not be happy without it and some days im ashamed of myself that i would actually consider doing something that could rob me of my health and make me unavailable to my family just to look better. But its not to look better, its to FEEL better and you deserve to. If you think it will make you happy then go for it..I agree with you about the stretchmarks, im not a fan of “wearing them with pride” i just hate them….NOT my child. Maybe i can accept them someday and even grow to love them and see them as reminders of my daughter and not scars.

  11. Jena Says:
    June 2nd, 2011 at 12:38 pm

    I want your tiny waist and round bum!

  12. Jill Says:
    June 11th, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    Your body looks great. But I have to point out something. You said “Both my mom and sisters gained a lot of weight…and “gave birth” via C-Section!”

    I don’t think you should put the words “gave birth” in quotation marks, as though they aren’t as good as a vaginal delivery. Birth is birth.

    I’ve had 2 c-sections. The first time my son was in danger – I SAW his heartrate drop – and the second time I chose one so that I could deliver at a small, peaceful hospital close to home.

    I carried those children in my body, loved them from the minute I knew I was pregnant, and every night I hold them close to my skin. I nuzzled my nose in the folds of their tiny newborn bodies and inhaled their sweet scent. I stroke their hair, I tickle their tummies.

    My heart beat with theirs, my body fed them and kept them safe, and just because they didn’t come from me vaginally doesn’t mean my birth experience is ANY less significant or meaningul than someone whose babies were born vaginally.

    Your mother and sisters are moms, just the same as anyone else who’s carried a child in their womb and then had the baby exit their body in any manner.

    Stop looking down on your c-section as a second rate birth. Birth comes in many shapes and forms and is beautiful no matter how it happens.

  13. ashley Says:
    June 30th, 2011 at 10:20 am

    You’re in great shape! I can tell you have a six pack :)

    I’ve been there with the excessive weight gain during pregnancy and the “failure to progress” c section. I definitely felt cheated out of the birth experience I was planing on and that’s hard, really hard. And it’s definitely different when you feel like it was probably unnecessary, like it was done to you, if sure if I had felt like it was a true emergency and needed to save me and/or baby then I wouldn’t have resented it so much and felt cheated so much, just grateful… but that’s not how it happened, and not how I felt.

    The good news though, I had a VBAC 7 months ago with baby #2! It was awesome :) I definitely recommend finding a Dr. or midwife that will let you try a VBAC and truly support you having one (if you have another baby that is).

  14. Candi Says:
    November 8th, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Our belly button is similar and I can only WISH for a butt like yours! I think you look great!

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