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I almost want to cry (Anonymous)

August 10, 2007

Thank god for your website! I live in a european country that almost condones [condemns?] big women after having babies, simply by the advertising and the way in which the locals here are built. I’m not from here and find it hard to adjust physically. I’ve had two kids only 18mths apart and am yet to recover physically! Am currently 4mths post-partum. Still breastfeeding and craving dark chocolate madly! try to exercise when I can (when being the operative word as I have very little time for myself!) and eat as healthy as I can. But…. still bigger than I ever use to be, hubby not so celebratory of my body. Doesnt really say much and when I cover myself up and apologise (cause my tummy sticks out or whatever) he just says “its ok”….?! hes a local so use to slim women! so sad. desperate and alone.






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21 Responses to “I almost want to cry (Anonymous)”

  1. Traci Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 10:20 am

    I think you look amazing! I have only had one baby and now 15 months later Im JUST getting my body back! Its an extremely hard job for a lot of woman and you’re definately not alone! I have uploaded my story and pictures and hopefully they will show on the website soon so you should have a look at me! I admire your courage and forget about what everyone else thinks. You carried and raised two amazing children and that’s increadible! Honestly, you’re beautiful!

  2. Corrie Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 10:43 am

    You look just like me…but double the breasts!

    Your body is beautiful. Wear it with pride and keep your head up. Don’t let other’s superficiality get you down!

  3. Anonymous Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 11:16 am

    Trust me that you are NOT alone!!! You are a beautiful woman! You are perfect and loved! I wish I could hug you. I wish I could encourage you. You deserve to feel beautiful! Because YOU ARE!

  4. charlene Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 11:31 am

    your post makes me wanna cry…and give you a hug. i think you look great and you brought 2 children into this world, which is a beautiful thing. your husband should be more supportive of you! i wish i could “have a talk” with him! You should be told everyday how beautiful you are and you should believe it. Don’t worry about it, you’ll get your shape back, just keep workin’. Good luck momma and don’t forget how beautiful you are to your kiddos and all of us.

  5. marjorie Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 12:39 pm

    You are definitely not alone!Looking through this website will show you that your body is very much like the rest of us. Do you think you could get your husband or a friend to watch the children sometimes so that you can get out and exercise a bit? Simply taking a walk each day can be very beneficial, physically and mentally.

  6. Christa Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 12:58 pm

    You look great for just a few months post-partum…try not to be so hard on yourself. don’t depend on society or even your husband to make you feel attractive, because you will probably be disappointed. instead, believe it yourself and others will see it too.

  7. Miranda Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 3:39 pm

    you look just like me! Its okay, mama! You are beautiful.

  8. michele Says:
    August 10th, 2007 at 4:18 pm

    do you live in france???
    you are beautiful!

    i lived there for a few years and had a baby there and looked much different then the woman there did after birth.

    my american body was inflated and still is. i had 2 babies 20 months apart and i too am having a hard time getting back to my size 8 figure.

    no delisions of granduer here, i just want to be healthy!

    just remember! youa re BEAUTIFUL!

  9. Eddie Says:
    August 11th, 2007 at 9:56 pm

    Sweetie, as a guy, I can say that you are absolutely beautiful. And you do not have anything to be ashamed of, your body is gorgeous; if I was your husband, I would be proud of you and very supportive. Motherhood is a wonderful, beautiful thing and that should be more important than what your body looks like. So, just remember that the changes in your body were so worth it, when you look at your children. They are what is important :)

  10. Chloe Says:
    August 12th, 2007 at 6:27 pm

    Hello – you are just beautiful and thankyou for posting these pics. I think you look fantastic. I know it’s hard not to panic about your body with so much outside pressure but do what makes you happy. It’s your body, all yours and do what you want with it.

    Congralutations on the babies too =)

  11. Leslie Says:
    August 12th, 2007 at 10:40 pm

    Your beautiful and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!!

  12. Deb Says:
    August 15th, 2007 at 7:32 am

    DON’T APOLOGIZE!! Wear that body proud! You are 4 months PP, and it looks to me that you are right where you are supposed to be in terms of weight. It took me about 6 months to even see a difference, and about a year to get to my desired weight- and I only had 1 kid. Tell your husband to go scratch his balls. Husbands- God bless them. They are so incredibly beautiful, but sometimes they just don’t get it. They’re not women. Be patient and knowledgable- never apologize.

  13. sash Says:
    August 15th, 2007 at 9:04 pm

    Just as I think how sad it is for you and your husband to feel that way, I scroll down to see what seems to be a mirror image of MY body!
    I hate society and the media for condemning our beautiful bodies because its not what they percieve as ‘beauty’.
    [hugs you tight]

    I think your beautiful.

  14. Terri Says:
    September 12th, 2007 at 7:51 am

    You made ME want to cry! You look just like me! Don’t feel alone! I am so glad I just found this site. Maybe I will get up the courage to share my pics as well. Thank you for sharing that your a real woman!

  15. mary racine Says:
    September 29th, 2007 at 11:45 pm

    For one, you are very brave to live with the women in Europe!! Confidence in yourself must have gotten you there, and that is what which will keep you there! yOU DID NOT HAVE THOSE BABYS BY YOURSELF, ask your man to help you make a half hour available daily by watching the kids, if he can’t or won’t, (get rid of him!! lol)kidding, ask a friend maybe? Somehow try to find the time to walk at least a half hour a day, if you can’t swing that, try 15 min. Grab a set of headphones & blast your fav. music, even if your weight is stubborn to come off, that’s o.k. it will and instead of being so hard on yourself, let yourself be proud!!!!!You are truly amazing, how else would you be able to nurse both your children AND your body at the same time? And think about it, it took 9 months to put the baby weight on, it won’t come off overnight!!

    I’m a good one to talk, I still have 3 1/2 months to go and I’m terrified of the weight! But I do feel SO much better about myself if I manage a bit of time to devote to my body(ie;a walk), The weight is coming and I’m putting up a bit of a fight, and it feels good!! Good luck and hold that head high!

  16. Kristy Says:
    December 14th, 2007 at 2:49 pm

    I think you look beautiful! I have always been slim and awkward looking with very small breasts, I would love to have curves like yours.

  17. L Says:
    January 16th, 2008 at 9:04 pm

    Don’t feel sad and don’t apologise. My body nearly looks like yours (minus the stretch mark from growing a baby fast)and I have never had a baby. I wish I could recieve the support you all give each other here for not looking like a supermodel. You all deserve a medal not just for being brave enough and possibly giving up your perfect bodies for your babies but for supporting each other when you feel you don’t look your best.

    I’m so jealous but in a way so glad I’ve found this site because although I havn’t had a baby at least I know there are other women out there who don’t think size zero is the only way to be.

    thankyou

  18. In Love With Life Says:
    March 7th, 2008 at 9:41 am

    Honey, honey! Like some of the others, I want to give you a great big hug!!! One would think that our significant others, above anyone, would appreciate and worship our bodies after growing their beautiful children. Perhaps your hubby is reacting that way because he “thinks” he is being supportive.
    You are beautiful and I wish you the best.

  19. julieanne Says:
    March 12th, 2008 at 9:15 am

    jump a ferry to ireland. im 25 weeks and counting. im hugh and so are many of the other women here preg or not. big is celebrated here. dont let it get you down you dont look big you look fabulous. i hope to your shape pp.

  20. Kayla Says:
    July 2nd, 2008 at 2:59 pm

    I think that you look amazing for just giving birth a few months ago when these pics were taken. I just read your update. Congrats on losing weight. I relate. I went from 130 to 197 lbs with my son. 14 months later, I have only lost about 34 lbs of that weight. The weight goes on so much easier than it comes off. I wish you the best of luck and think you look amazing. Enjoy your children! They are worth the changes.

  21. Prisca Says:
    July 14th, 2008 at 11:21 pm

    Hmmm – it seems to me that when women accept themselves, men (and society in general) accept them! Don’t apologise – but also don’t compare yourself to others. I lived in europe too – and found each woman different in shape….and in fact a lot of older women are very large. But I also found them accepting of different shapes and with a great deal more confidence than American women. Concentrate on the important stuff, eat well and exercise (you’ll have LOADS more energy!) and smile beautifully at your hubby!

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