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Hating My Body Update (Anonymous)

April 25, 2013

Previous post here.

So its been almost 2 years and I STILL hate my body. Especially my breasts. I know your body is supposed to change after kids, I get that your tummy gets loose and you breasts droop a little. What I did NOT expect was my breasts to have crater size stretch marks, especially since my body didn’t change one bit after my first child. As a woman its incredibly depressing to have your most womanly feature destroyed. I know it bothers my husband, hes always been a boob guy and mine were perfect even after our first child so I’m sure he didnt expect them to look like they do now. They are so saggy and one nipple points down, the other straight ahead. Does anyone else have a boob issue since having kids? I cant be the only one…

What I want is honesty. No really. I want everyone to tell me if I should consider surgery to try and fix these things or maybe they don’t look as bad as I think they do (fat chance of that, no pun intended).

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24 Responses to “Hating My Body Update (Anonymous)”

  1. Megan Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 7:24 am

    I would trade you boobs! I would rather have stretch marks than have dinner plate size nipples like I do now. Your nipples are so little and perky. And your breasts are full and round…the way big boobs are supposed to look. Mine are so saggy and droopy.

    Basically, your breasts beat mine in every way.

  2. Krista Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 8:27 am

    I know exactly how you feel. After two kids, one of my boobs is smaller than the other, by probably a whole cup size. The smaller boob nipple points down and the other boob points forward. I am looking into eventually getting breast implants to correct it. I try to get over it but it’s not working. I don’t mind their softness and that they sag a little more than before. But I absolutely hate that one of them fits in my bras while the other doesn’t. (I hate to complain about that knowing of women with mastectomies, and as much as I remind myself of their circumstances, I still just can’t get over it)

    Regarding the stretch marks, if you go on myitworks.com they have a cream that helps to reduce the appearance of stretchmarks. There is also a lazer treatment that can reduce the appearance of stretchmarks.

    I suggest these things only because you seem like you only want to fix it, and not to accept it. Also because I know that no matter how much we tell you you’re beautiful, it won’t matter (from experience). However, consider the risks of surgery and if they are worth it. Has your husband been supportive? Maybe the changes you see don’t even bother him. I would first try with the creams to see if minimizing the stretch marks helps you to feel better before considering surgery, because honestly, your boobs are beautiful. I would take them over mine in a minute!

  3. Natalie Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 8:32 am

    I think your boobs look great, they have volume and substance to them. I’m 11 mo PP and my biggest postpartum issue is my boobs. I worked my butt off to tone my tummy/thighs/butt, and I am very very happy with the results. There’s nothing I can do for my boobs. They are covered in faded stretch marks which does not bother me one bit. What bothers me is that I wear 32D but as soon as I take off my bra they droop so bad! They are so jello-e (push up bras look awful on me) that I feel my ribs if i wear to poke at them. With all that being said I don’t let this issue overwhelm my life. My husband does not mind them, he married ME, and there’s so much more to me than imperfect breasts.

  4. Costa Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 9:03 am

    I dont think they are bad at all. Yes those stretch marks look a little bit werid and i am sure they are feel funny. but to be honest your brests look good. They aint saggy at all. and they are still pretty full. Good bra and maybe a good moisturiaser and/or bio oil for scars will do the trick? Ask your doctor for advise they are stuff out there to help reduce visibility of stratch marks!

  5. Sara Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 10:28 am

    Have you asked your husband if it bothers him? The answer might surprise you. If it does bother him, well, too bad for him. You must not predicate a decision about plastic surgery on whether or not the state of your breasts bothers your husband’s aesthetic sensibilities. If you have not asked him how he feels about your postpartum body then ask him now. Some support from him might go a long way right now. Tell him that too! They aren’t as bad as you think by the way! They look like mine. I have had one nipple droopier than the other since I got breasts! Do I hate it enough to go under the knife? Nope. That’s what bras are for! If the stretchmarks bother you a lot then see a dermatologist so that he/she can go through your options.

  6. Tabby Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 12:02 pm

    I honestly don’t think you look bad at all. I have tons of ‘stretchies’ and a lot are NOT from being pregnant but simply from growing really fast when I was a teen. I have them on my thighs and I have a few on my boobs which have also been there since my teen years. They have never once detracted from a man finding me attractive. I’m sure your husband thinks you are beautiful. I think it bothers you more than him! And listen, he is gonna change too. When he gets older he will lose his hair and probably grow a belly. We all change as we get older. My opinion is NO you do not need surgery!

  7. Oz Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 12:47 pm

    I think your breasts look good, not really hanging or something.
    Of course you do what you want, when you think you yourself are going to feel more confident by.

  8. madderakka Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    I think your breasts look lovely, really. As for your husband, do you think you are just projecting your insecurities onto him- i.e., you feel insecure about how they look, so you are looking for signs that he’s not pleased with them?

    What do you think surgery would change? The stretch marks would still be there, though they may be a little less deep-looking since your breast would be more full. You would be trading that for a surgical scar, however. Do you know how your body responds to surgery? Having an auto-immune disorder could keep you from healing as quickly or send you into a flare.

    I have an auto-immune disorder, too. I have Sjogrens and I was wondering if that’s what you have since you said there was no treatment. I know how much it sucks to not be able to do things you used to be able to do. Hugs.

  9. Toni Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    Your breasts are beautiful! I have major boob envy!!

    Although I honestly don’t think they require surgery at all, if this is something that effects you enjoying life, then surgery is an option for you to consider. I would suggest to see a plastic surgeon for a consultation and discuss all of the pros and cons. For me personally, the cons outweigh the pros.
    I am 9months pp and still breast feeding. I had small perky breasts beforehand, and now I have one large, saggy breast, and one smaller perky breast. I would say there is an entire cup size difference. It bothers me sometimes… but I know that my husband still finds me sexually attractive. For stretch marks there are non-surgical options like IPL that you could look into.
    Just to reiterate, I think your breasts are perfect as they are.

  10. Erin Says:
    April 25th, 2013 at 8:49 pm

    This really hits home to me. My breasts are also my biggest issue after pregnancy. I just want to reach through the computer and give you a HUG! I know how you feel. I lost all the pregnancy weight and look fairly good. But my breast really changed. They are about the same bra size but a lot less full looking/feeling. I have really faded stretch marks on one part of them (it is hard to see if im standig up). If I lie dow though my breasts look so wierd. Like I have a lot of loose skin or wrinkles/stretch marks, something. I have never even seen boobs do that. And my aerolas are huge and kinda dark. UGH.
    Hang in there. Remember that we are more than a pair of breasts! Do what is going to make you happiest.

  11. Kari Says:
    April 26th, 2013 at 4:15 am

    I am looking at your pictures and you are beautiful….I am a mother of 4 and similar to you. My husband loves them….I don’t feel you need to change a thing…

  12. shannon Says:
    April 26th, 2013 at 6:27 am

    If your breasts are you biggest concern, you should stop now. They look normal to me. I have had 2 children as well (pregnant with #3, and I am 26), and I have stretch marks that go up high like yours. They do not bother me at all! When it comes down to it, breasts are for feeding our children. Are men attracted to them? Yes. Do we try to accentuate them? Yes. But the fact of the matter is, they are not for that at all. They are sacs of fat (sorry, but true).

    Anyway, I think you look amazing.

  13. Anonymous Says:
    April 26th, 2013 at 11:55 am

    I have major issues with my breasts too. I always had small boobs(I am 5’9″ and weigh under 120lbs) but never was bothered having small ones since they were cute and perky. After my daughter, they definitely aren’t perky.. I went from a 34A to a 36C while pregnant. Didn’t breast feed, let them dry up asap. Now, one is smaller than the other and they have light stretch marks. They are like bags of skin.. I hate them. My boyfriend doesn’t think they’re gross, which is weird to me. I don’t get how they can be seen as sexual anymore at any level to anyone. I’d love to get implants, but I scar so terribly(keloids) I’m too worried they’ll scar around the implant and be hard masses lol. So, I just accept them(kind of..)I know it sucks.. but not a whole lot you can do about it. I think implants would be good for you if you know you’ll feel more confident.

  14. Me Says:
    April 26th, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    WOW, thanks for ALL of your support. You have no idea how much it helps just to know you read my story and are supportive! I think it bothers my hubby although hes not stupid enough to tell me or he knows he’d never see me naked again. lol

  15. mrspetunia Says:
    April 26th, 2013 at 6:21 pm

    I think your breasts look sexy! They are fuller than mine ever were before kids! Perhaps they bother you so much because you had what you thought of as “perfect” breasts before your second kid. I never really had great breasts so the fact that mine got saggier didn’t really seem like a big deal to me. Oh, and I got stretch marks all over my breasts during puberty and only wore an A or small B cup. The stretch marks didn’t bother me either. If it’s any consolation, I saw in one of those tabloids that Halle Berry and Scarlett Johansson have stretch marks on their breasts too. They are still dead sexy, right?

  16. Diana Says:
    April 28th, 2013 at 5:27 pm

    I think your chest looks wonderful. Take it from someone that is now completely flat. They are proportionate and full. You should be proud.

  17. Stephanie Says:
    April 29th, 2013 at 7:12 am

    Okay since it’s been two years I’m assuming you are not nursing. Which to me means your boobs are amazing. I can’t believe how full they look. They aren’t ‘banana’ boobs at all which is what happens to us little boob ladies. ;-) I’m sorry you aren’t getting confirmation from your husband, but in the world of real boobs yours are for sure top notch! I can see where the stretch marks would bother you but seriously, I don’t think that’s what anyone noticed first.

  18. Adrienne Says:
    April 30th, 2013 at 3:58 am

    Oh I know how you feel!! I have boughten about 6 bikini tops since having my baby and none seem to work cause my boobs literally fall out. Not because they are so big but because mine are so deflated and jello-e. I’m sticking to a really tight sports bra this summer and flaunting the rest of my body. I agree with everyone else and think your boobs are great and so full. You probably notice them so much cause when you look down you are looking right at your stretch marks but the pictures where you look at them head on, they look fantastic. I think you just need to get used to these new boobs and eventually you will see what the rest of us see. Don’t let this consume you, stay positive girl!!!

  19. Sarah Says:
    April 30th, 2013 at 10:00 am

    Your stretch marks are not the first thing I saw – maybe because mine have the same. What I saw first was the amazing shape of your breasts! They are full, feminine, attractive! Look past those things and embrace your beautiful body.

  20. Nicole Says:
    May 5th, 2013 at 9:30 pm

    My boobs basically look just like yours and I just found out I’m pregnant for the first time! That might disqualify me from commenting (I’m of course trying to find out what to expect). My boobs are big, but different sizes – ones a D the other a DD and I’ve had problems before with stretch marks, especially in my late teens when I first left home and gained 20 pounds only to drop the weight a year latter. I have one nipple that points straight and the other is split down the middle and points down. They sag already just because of their size. But you know what, I’ve never had a guy complain. I think your boobs have a great shape to them. Some of the others gave suggests for stretch marks. I know I applied vitamin E oil every night and eventually made mine go away, but you might have to be more creative. Good luck and I hope you don’t decide to get surgery.

  21. Me Says:
    May 6th, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    YOU GUYS ARE GREAT! I am the author of this post and I must say.. You all made me feel SO much better and more confident. I honestly thought y’all were going to be disgusted at looking at these pictures and just the fact that you were supportive helps in more ways than you know. Thank you ALL for you comments, I read them all (and will continue to) when I need a pick me up! Thanks everyone!!!

  22. amrie Says:
    June 4th, 2013 at 8:32 pm

    Your boobs look fine! Sure, you have some stretchmarks on one. But I hardly notice the nipple difference. Mine are way worse. Covered in deep stretchies, and the skin on them is so saggy I can lift the skin and wrap it around my breast. I usually only west sports bras since I can’t find a bra that works with all the flabbiness. :( seriously, no lies, your breasts are beautiful. But I understand being insecure about the deep stretchmarks. If you can afford it, then you can meet with a plastic surgeon and see what minimal process they recommend for your breast to make it more symmetrical with the other one. But I really don’t think its necessary.

  23. Denni Says:
    June 10th, 2013 at 3:48 am

    They look fine honey. It’s really not that bad.

    I’ve had stretchmarks since I was 10 on my breasts and hips because that’s when I started growing into adulthood – and my body thought it was necessary to do that within a period of a few months. Over time I tried a few things that I noticed help the skin to recover a bit. It’ll never look like before your pregnancy, of course.

    One option that worked for me is (non-hydrogenated), extra virgin cold pressed coconut oil – the purest you can find, food grade, non-descentesized – it’s one of the most skin friendly oils out there, and helps in restoring skin elasticity.

    Another option is to work out the pectorals, which will improve bloodflow and cause a bit of a lift.

    Both of these things wont remove the scars – scars are forever – but it’ll strengthen the skin around it and the muscle beneath it, so your breasts may be more perky again, which will thus improve how the scars look (less crater-y).

    So if anything, try some stuff like that, don’t go do surgery or something like that, it’s really not worth it. You’re still beautiful.

  24. Cat Says:
    August 2nd, 2013 at 3:04 pm

    Wow! Your body is beautiful, and your boobs are beautifull too, really! If I were you I wouldn’t consider surgery, ’cause they are very beautiful as they are right now.

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