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Hating My Body (Anonymous)

August 19, 2011

2 Births
6 weeks Postpartum

Hey everyone. First of all let me just say I LOVE this website. It helps to see everyone else is struggling with their body image and acceptance just like I am.

I have had 2 awesome kids. I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and now a 6 week old son. I got ZERO stretch marks with my first pregnancy and with my second ugh!!! I got them in the worst possible place, the ones on my sides I couldn’t care less about, those are never seen and they are expected where they are. The ones on my chest are terrible, they are deep and none of my clothes will work anymore because of how high up they are on my chest. I have a hard time being intimate with my husband and although he wont admit it, I think it bothers him. I had the perfect perky C size breast before my daughter and they were just lovely. I never could have imagined the pancake stretch mark things I have now. I am thinking about a breast lift or augmentation… or both!? I also am considering laser treatment on my stretch marks but right now I am now well so it would be really hard. I am happy about my stomach size though, especially since I am unable to exercise due to a autoimmune disorder I have which causes me to be almost completely bedridden most of the time. I think that’s why I obsess about my body, I am so un-happy about my life. I have to have help with my kids because I cannot take care of them by myself. There is no treatment for what I have either so I am stuck feeling/living this way for God knows how long. Both of my kids were unplanned and we were using birth control as well. I am SO happy I have them though, they truly keep me going and get me through each day. I just wish I could keep the body I had before with the kids I have now… that’s life though.

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17 Responses to “Hating My Body (Anonymous)”

  1. mjs Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 7:30 am

    your stomach looks amazing!!my boob marks are on the outside not inside but there still there:( you look great congrats on you family!!

  2. shannon Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 11:03 am

    I think you look absolutely amazing! Are you sure you just had a baby 6 weeks ago?!?!?! I have stretch marks on my breasts as well (2 kids, pumped 3 months for the 1st and breastfed 22 months for the 2nd). They fade A LOT. Do not worry about them. If your husband minds them then he is crazy! You look phenomenal.

  3. Dee Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 12:33 pm

    Your stomach really does look fabulous. I had perfect perky C’s before my daughter, too. They’re still pretty perky, but now they’re A’s. Sometimes I feel like less of a woman because they’re so small; like I’ve lost some of my sex appeal, but we have to accept and love what we can’t change.

    The stretchmarks will definitely fade and after they turn white, try not to let them bother you because most people won’t even notice them. I’m sure your man doesn’t mind. I thought mine did at first, too, but if he truly loves you, he’ll see right past them and only see the beautiful woman that carried his children. :)

  4. Elissa Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 7:04 pm

    Giiiirrrrllll….When I was 16 I woke up one day and went from a B cup to a D cup and guess what!??? I had stretch marks that looked exactly like that…THEY WILL GO AWAY DRASTICALLY! I’m going to be REALLY honest with you and tell you…MEN DONT CARE…THEY DONT…and I am going to flatter myself for a minute when I say I had those kind of marks, they turned white after a few months and guess what men always talked about what a nice rack I had…Go to victoria secret and buy a nice push up bra…and I know I know women think pushup bras are going to make them bigger…NO THEY PUSH YOU UP…Keep it on during those moments with your husband if you don’t feel so sexy…Trust me he isn’t thinking about the little red marks on your skin that CLEARLY are not that bad and WILL fade…FOR crying out loud you get your milk in after a few days and you’re only 6 weeks post partum…Take it from me…Act sexy and you will be sexy…When you put some clothes on and get ready when you have the time one day…Look at your husband while you’re walking off and say, “OH man I’m so hot!” Giggle and wink at him…I don’t know why but men think it’s sexy and cute and they want to play…Don’t be so hard on yourself…I’m pregnant second time around and the pink stretch marks are back but I know after dealing with them since I was 13 they WILL fade and men don’t give a rip!

  5. Elissa Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 7:09 pm

    Oh and PS…my butt and thighs do the same thing your body does…and they are nearly invisible after a few weeks and almost completely white after a few months…GIve it about three…Exfoliate in the shower every night and soak your skin in a thick creamy lotion that has shea butter in it…I use Oil of Olay with Shea butter for body was and a loufa…Every day in the shower over my entire body…and Burts Bee body butter…I could show you pictures of my skin and you wouldn’t be able to tell because when I do that with my skin it heals 2 times as quickly as it normally would.

  6. rachel g Says:
    August 19th, 2011 at 10:57 pm

    ahh, we have similar bodies! except you seem to have bigger boobs than me, but mine still was covered in stretch marks. :/ I also got them on my sides. And none on my belly.
    But honestly I think mine looked way worse than yours and at 4 months PP they have faded so much!

    You look great though! I am really jealous!

    Please rethink any kind of surgery…just wait it out a bit longer till the stretch marks fade. I believe that you won’t even remember they are there.

  7. linda Says:
    August 20th, 2011 at 12:35 pm

    you look great! the stretch marks will fade. w/ my 2 i also had really bad stretch marks on my chest but it has been close 2 four years since then & they red is all gone & w/ a good pushup bra you can’t even tell they are there & can wear low cut shirts! hopefully yours will do the same! :)

  8. DNP Says:
    August 20th, 2011 at 7:04 pm

    You’re body isn’t bad at all. You HAVE a waistline!
    Don’t stress it. You look FAB!

  9. Whitney Says:
    August 20th, 2011 at 7:36 pm

    Oh my goodness your stomach looks amazing! I am 25 years old, and I have a 5 week old little girl. I know exactly what you mean. I am hating my body right now. I used to have an amazing body with very little effort. But I gained nearly 70 pounds with my daughter.. she was unexpected, and I now am hating my body. I am really in shock about your stomach. I have TONS of stretch marks on my stomach and it is also what I hate the most. I have been using vitamin E on them and they are starting to blend in with my skin. I know I will always have them, but it has definitely reduced them a bit. So I am going to keep doing it, and hopefully surgery won’t be needed for me. You should really be happy at how wonderful your stomach looks. You really do not look like you have had a baby! Your husband does not mind.. that is what we think. I am going through the same thing with my guy. Lots of love for you and your family!

  10. Sarah P. Says:
    August 21st, 2011 at 3:55 pm

    When saw your pictures, then read your post, I said to myself, “Oh! She’s only six weeks postpartum!” Trust me: those stretch marks will fade and will hardly be noticeable. In the meantime, have you seen those Cami Bras? They come up a little higher and can disguise what you don’t like until they fade. I think you look great, though! And you have a seriously flat stomach for only six weeks out! I’m jealous!

  11. Ali Says:
    August 21st, 2011 at 6:56 pm

    Thank you for yor post. You look so amazing for having just had a baby! I TOO have the boob marks- all over! And it does suck to have to worry about shirts cut too low or bathing suits…ack. I am just trying to roll with whatever styles I can or just bare it. I totally get it!!! It seems the focus is always on the belly marks but I am sure we are in good company. Try and relax and enjoy what is most important in life- your babies, your family, your friends, good health. HUGS

  12. Sammie Says:
    August 22nd, 2011 at 6:45 am

    The other girls are right. You look FANTASTIC. Those stretchmarks will fade down to nothing. You will barely notice them. That is EXACTLY how my bff’s looked (actually hers were a worse than that) and you can barely even tell now! 6 weeks is such a short amount of time, no need to panic honey. You look great :)

  13. Valeria Says:
    August 26th, 2011 at 3:23 pm

    Hi!
    I’m 26 year old, I don’t have kids but my body looks exactly like yours(in fact I have more stretch marks) I know that it is dificult to deal whit an “imperfect body” but you know what? we are not only a body, a pair of breasts, an ass, a perfect skin…. we are more than that; girl open your eyes!!!!!!!! and see who you really are and then you will see how beautiful you are.

    I apologize because of the writing, but English is not my native language I’m from mexico:)

  14. Toria Says:
    August 27th, 2011 at 3:40 pm

    6 Weeks pp?!Wow! You look great! I looked like a huge blob at 6 weeks pp.

  15. kc Says:
    September 6th, 2011 at 3:13 am

    Thanks everyone, so nice to hear positive comments. I am still really struggling with my breasts. Hoping they have something else in the next few years come out to help with that. I am going to post an up date with new pictures soon. Thanks again for ALL the comments!!! :-)

  16. Jolene Says:
    December 19th, 2011 at 1:28 am

    I just want to say I pray for such a nice abdomen after this second delivery and that you shouldn’t worry because those stretch marks FADE a lot!!!!! I had them on my breasts just like yours, or worse, and now I can only see them on my sides unless I look really closely. :)

  17. Shannon Says:
    April 21st, 2012 at 11:48 pm

    Lady. You look GREAT.

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