The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother The Shape of a Mother

« | Home | »

Happier Now (K’s Mom)

August 30, 2010

I used to be self conscious. I always thought that being skinny was the most important thing in the world. When I was younger, I only weight between 114 to 120 pounds. I was even asked to model before because I was tall and skinny. As I got older, I found it harder and harder to maintain my weight. I cried whenever someone remarked that I have gained weight, even if it was minimal. I even went as far as to confine myself to eating salads and chicken breasts just to stay skinny.

When I got pregnant, I started to gain weight fast! I reached 190 lbs in my 9th month. After giving birth in 2008, my weight went down to about 170 lbs, until it reached 160 lbs…where it stayed.

When I got back to work from maternity leave, people would keep telling me that I’m fat, that I should lose weight. It made me cry at times, but eventually, I have learned to love my body and love the situation that I am in. Imagine, I don’t have to control what I eat anymore! I could eat whatever I wanted without having to care about how I looked. The bonus is that my husband now loves me more than ever, and my daughter adores me. What is important to me now is what my husband and my daughter think of me. I don’t care what other people think. If I ever decide to work out again and lose weight, it will be at my own terms and I will do it for myself, not because other people think I should.

Attached are photos of me before pregnancy, during pregnancy, and after giving birth

~Age: 28
~Number of pregnancies and births: 1, 1 birth via c-section
~The age of your children, or how far postpartum you are: 1 year 9 months

Post to Twitter Post to Facebook

10 Responses to “Happier Now (K’s Mom)”

  1. suzanne the shortcake Says:
    August 30th, 2010 at 8:54 am

    ummmm, your co-workers are assholes. you look *fine* and you have a great attitude!

  2. Shannon Says:
    August 30th, 2010 at 11:50 am

    I think you look great…and confidence makes you look even better!!!

  3. Susy Says:
    August 30th, 2010 at 11:59 am

    I can’t believe people have the nerve. You look great!

  4. Sarah P. Says:
    August 30th, 2010 at 2:15 pm

    I’d complain to your boss. Your coworkers shouldn’t be making comments about your body – GOOD OR BAD. It’s inappropriate AND THEY ARE WRONG! You look amazing and more women need to have your attitude in life. Happiness doesn’t come from looking like you peeled yourself out of Self Magazine. It comes from loving yourself – just the way you love yourself! Congrats, mama! Keep up the great work and the awesome attitude! :D

  5. DL Says:
    August 31st, 2010 at 5:50 am

    I have had the same issues at work ppl love to comment on the way I look I guess we are just that special lol I swear something must be taped to my forehead sayin what do you think. u look great keep the positive attitude they feed off negativity.

  6. Sarah Says:
    September 1st, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    All three of those bodies look great!

  7. Carolyn Says:
    September 2nd, 2010 at 11:15 pm

    Wow your attitude is amazing. I would have broken down to hear things said like that. I don’t think a woman’s weight should ever be commented on, whether it’s about being “too fat” or “too skinny.”

  8. Mary Says:
    September 22nd, 2010 at 5:02 pm

    I agree with Sarah P..those comments are inappropiate and should be reported it makes for a hostile work place. but other than that right on and you go Girl!!!

  9. K's Mom Says:
    October 18th, 2010 at 12:33 am

    thank you so much everyone! You are all amazing!!! I love you

  10. Marz Says:
    November 3rd, 2010 at 10:43 pm

    I’m with Sarah and Mary on this one. One person being insensitive is one thing (some people are just jerks *shrug*), but to have numerous people commenting on your weight? That’s the biggest load of BS I’ve ever heard. Before AND after you were pregnant– just absurd. You probably won’t report it, even though you’re entitled to, but at least let the people saying those things to you know that you think their comments are inappropriate! It’s disgusting what people are capable of getting away with….
    I’ve been battling an eating disorder for over a decade, and one day I finally had enough. Some drunk guy called me a fat@$$ and I got so mad I grabbed his ear (almost ripped it off, in fact) and yelled right in his face, “WHAT did you say to me?!” I don’t recommend getting violent :P But if you don’t say “I don’t really appreciae those kinds of comments” the first time someone says something, then it all bottles up and you go totally ape $h*t like I did

Comments


Support This Site