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First Time Mommy (Mrs. Roussell)

January 18, 2013

Age: 23
Number of Children:1 4wks Pp

Im so glad I found this website!! I was 124lb 5″1 before I got pregnant..I loved my body and so did my husband which why I got pregnant lol…I was 160lbs and gave birth at 39wks.. Only one of my friends (age 23) has kids (2 girls) and only one immediate family members has 1 son, so I looked at them to see what my body would look like after having my son..my friend and I was pregnant at the same time.. we were 3 months apart.. 2 weeks after she had her daughter she looked like a freaking model!!!!! Big booty, nice boobs and a FLAT tummy!!! My family member is 3 yrs pp so I looked at her body since we are related I assumed my body would look similar after I had my son WRONG!! She looked like a thicker Model!!! Im so insecure about my body.. I wear big shirts and sweats around the house and refuse to let my husband touch my stomach no mater how many times he calls me beautiful or sexy I just dont see it…and the media doesn’t help..I see moms on tv and they look great example Heidi klum (i swear that women is a pure freak of nature lol) but needless to say seeing the images on this website has bought my self confidence from a 1 to a strong 2.5 lol but I so happy this website exist for moms to share :-)

1st picture: before pregnancy
2nd 9 months pregnant
3rd 3 weeks pp
4th and 5th 4 weeks pp.

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14 Responses to “First Time Mommy (Mrs. Roussell)”

  1. Natalie Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 8:35 am

    Girl… you are FIVE weeks PP. Ever heard of fourth trimester? I don’t know of anybody who doesn’t look pregnant at 4 weeks PP. Have you seen your model friend naked? Maybe she was wearing a belly binder and that is why she had FLAT belly. You have some un-realistic expectation of your body. I was 114 lbs, 5’6″ and gave birth at 165 lbs. Took me 6 months to get to 120 lbs, and nope my belly is not FLAT. that’s the only area where fat remained, I don’t mind it, and my hubby is blind when it comes to a little bit of fat because he loves me for me. Screw the media for it’s unrealistic presentation of mothers. As for your husband, I’m 100% sure he is honest with you, please don’t hurt his feelings by not believing him. You got married and promised to love each other for better and for worse. I see the post-pregnancy body as a TEMPORARY “for worse” part. Hope that makes sense. Give your self a few months, throw in some exercise and you will get to the place where you are happy with your body. {{HUGS}}

  2. Stacia Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 8:57 am

    Give it time, you are only 4 wks pp. no matter what anyone else looks like after having kids, they still have insecurities about themselves too! I work with a girl who just had her second baby 3 months ago, not to mention her two arent even 2 years apart. She looks like she never even had kids even the day she gave birth with her second you would have thought she adopted these girls! But she tells me all the time that she wishes her body was different and how she feels she is flabby and her stretch marks are awful. But looking at her, makes me jealous because my stomach still sticks out and i am 19 months pp. seeing how she is insecure about herself at times, made me realize, thick or thin we all wish something could be done to “better” our appearance. Celebrities dont help, but they also have millions to spend on treatments and personal trainers and chefs. Which makes it all that more unrealistic. You and every other woman on here are the definition of a beautiful woman! Your husband is a lucky man to have you!

  3. Michele Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 10:02 am

    Hi there – I am also African American. I have three kids, my youngest is 10 weeks. I had a very nice body flat tummy, big booty firm and nice before and after each pregnancy, this last time I am actually having to WORK FOR IT! Lol! but I am doing it, I went from a 37 inch waist at 5 weeks pp to a 32 1/2 inch waist now and I am aiming for a size 29-30 waist which I am perfectly comfortable with, but once again, I am working for it. You look really good and I am sure your belly has gone down more, at 14 weeks pp, you can exercise. Why don’t you work out during the week? I am doing kickboxing, walking/running on treadmill and weighlifting to tone my back fat, lift my booty up nice and crunches, pilates to flatten my midsection. You can send me your email address if you want and we can talk. I will be more than happy to help you out. I am waiting until next month to post my story for other moms and hopefully be an inspiration, I have gone through the periods of am I going to be sexy again for my husband and why isn’t the weight coming off fast enough (it seems harder with breastfeeding but it’s finally coming off), and why do I have a butt that is sagging now and a few stretch marks which I never had before. I would just stare in the mirror several times a day, but now? Girl I see so much progress, stomach is getting flat, booty is lifting up very nice and round, the back fat and bra bulge is melting away. I am almost back in my size 6. It is hard work, but you can do this!!!!! Get inspired to reclaim your body. You are still very beautiful, you just have to be willing to put the work in and you can do it! Of course your husband loves you for who you are, but it never hurts to work out and get firm and toned for yourself and your man….. Be encouraged!

  4. Michele Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 10:04 am

    OMG I just noticed you are not 14 weeks PP, you are only 4 weeks! Oh no sweetie, your belly will go down more and then by six weeks, just start exercising and you will get back down. You are pushing it and I know it’s because you are a first time mom, but this is normal, you will go down more as your uterus contracts and then you can start exercising, you are itty bitty, it won’t take you anything to snap back. Also, the darkness of your belly will lighten up over time. No worries!

  5. Betty Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 10:56 am

    Just be healthy, and give it time. You might look like a model again eventually, but even if you don’t, look at the wonderful creation your body produced, and give it thanks!

  6. Jessica Cobb (@DomesticPirate) Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 11:03 am

    You need to give your body TIME momma! It takes 18 MONTHS for your body to finish resetting after having a full term baby. For now just enjoy this early phase of being a mom, make healthy choices for your family, and when your OB gives the ‘Okay’ find a fitness routine that you enjoy.

  7. Caren Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    you Look amazing for being 4weeks pp i wish i look like that im 17 months pp and i still have a long way to go i went from preregnancy weigh 130lbs to now 180lbs i have to work hard to get to were i want my body to be but i know its not imposible just eat heathly and workout with our baby godd lucky

  8. Ashley Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 5:11 pm

    Give your body more time, A LOT more time! I looked “worse” at 8 weeks pp than you do at 4 weeks pp and I still got a flat tummy back :)

  9. Marielys Says:
    January 18th, 2013 at 10:23 pm

    Sweety, i am almost 100 sure you have diastis recti. Thats what it usualy looks like. I have it too. Its a condition where your muscles did not get back together after pregnancy. This happens in some women. It causes your organs to protrude which looks like your belly because there are no muclea holding them in. Email me so i can help you. DO NOT DO ANY CRUNCHES SIT UPS NOTHING THAT CONTRACTS YOUR ABS IT WILL MAKE YOUR BELLY WORSE. there is a way to check for it which i can email to you but it looks like you have it. Dont be discuraged it can go down if you avoid cruches and ect and do the tupler technique. youl have your bldy back in no time! But please do not ignore this bc it will cause back problems if left untreated. My email is mariysperez1940@yahoo.com :)

  10. Sarah Says:
    January 19th, 2013 at 4:47 pm

    There’s a lot to be said for really good supportive clothing! Have you ever seen celebrities showing their Spanx either by accident or on purpose? It’s because they know that supportive underwear does wonders. And as far as being only a month postpartum goes, you have lots of time! It takes a while. Your body takes 9 slow months to grow. You can’t expect it to look like your postpartum body immediately? It takes time. About a year. You look great. :) Keep eating healthy and taking care of your baby. Everything else will take care of itself. :)

  11. Stephanie Says:
    January 19th, 2013 at 7:46 pm

    You have gorgeous skin. By summer you’ll be wondering why you worried. Others may seem like they bounced back but if you lifted their (my) shirt you would see wrinkly loose skin. You won’t have that problem. Just enjoy that BEAUTIFUL little sweety of yours. I’m sure your hubby thinks your stunning anyway.

  12. middle age parents Says:
    January 20th, 2013 at 9:33 pm

    Oh, you don’t have to worry. That’s very normal especially for first time moms. You don’t need to push yourself. Just give your self more time and start exercising. In time, your body will go back to to its best shape.

  13. Johanna Says:
    January 21st, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    I think you look pretty amazing. See the positive things, not the negative. You dont even have stretchmarks. What helped my belly go back to flat was babywearing. Maybe you wanna consider that. I had a woven wrap and did a front wrap cross carry and at 3 month pp i was back to normal. Well, every woman is different. Give yourself time and let your husband love you :)

  14. Janessa Says:
    January 22nd, 2013 at 12:03 am

    It takes time! At least 1 year! May I suggest belly wrapping? There are inexpensive ones that you wear postpartum to help bring your uterus back in. I used it with my second pregnancy but I wish I had known my first pregnancy. Exfoliate and moisturize and you will be “model” ready by January 2014. Sounds far but not really… Just have to be patient and take care of yourself Nd your beautiful newborn :)

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