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Engaged, Lost and Saggy… (Autumn)

November 24, 2009

Hi My name is autumn I am 19 and a mom of a 8 month old son, I also among those of you is a teen mom, I found out I was 2 months Pregnant on my 18th birthday and Had my son a couple months shy of my 19th birthday, I am engaged to my sons father but I still HATE my stomach I feel like he dont want me anymore and im just there because of my strechmarks and my stomach and other areas, I had to have a emergency c-section so I have a scar thats Ugly, I Hate the way I feel and I wanted to post this and see what your comments on my stomach, is it like yours? am I the only one that stomach looks like mine? My strechmarks have faded some they were bad, I gained 75 pounds when I was pregnant, and he weighted 9.5, I went from a size 1 to a size 7 can someone help me? How can I loose it? Is there any hope for me?

I am 19 yr of age
1st pregnancy and 1st child
and my son is 8 months old as of now.

The first picture is before I had My son
The second is when I was 9 months pregnant
and the Last ones are 8 months after haveing him

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21 Responses to “Engaged, Lost and Saggy… (Autumn)”

  1. dee Says:
    November 24th, 2009 at 1:37 pm

    Hey girlie, I am sorry to hear you feel that way about your stomach, I unlike you never had that problem as my belly is flat as a bored after just having my 2nd son, however I can feel your pain as you are only 19, Iam 31. Ok so your stomach doesnt exactly like a models but so what, you have a gorgeous face from what I see in the pics and winter is coming so you will be able to camoflage the belly with large shirts and sweaters. And in the meantime you can work on diet and situps, and be ready for next summer. Granted the belly wont entirely go way but so what, you dont look that bad and if you bf dont like you cause of that, then screw him. You can alwasy wear t shirts to bed and while having fun with him if that happens. You are only 19!!! Dont be so hard on yourself, you are gorgeous and so what if you stomach isnt flat, you had a baby not that long ago, i dont know what to say that will make you feel better right away, al i know is time will help…but yes I can unerstand how at 19 you would feel like you do, have you ever thought about saving money for a tummy tuck, like if you saved until 22 you would have lots?

    hey if your interested enough go to http://www.realself.com

    its a website of plastic surgery and they have a tummy tuck section, check it out, it may give you hope…

    but alas you are still very gorgeous.

  2. TrueMother Says:
    November 24th, 2009 at 5:44 pm

    yes! your stomach is normal. My stomach hangs exactly like yours does.It literally overlaps my pants line, as if I were wearing a belt..but I’m not…it just looks like that. You have such natural beauty thought. Don’t worry..but I know how you feel. I always feel like my boyfriend doesn’t “want” me because of my body. I hate seeing other skinny girls who haven’t had children…or moms who “snapped right back”…it is hard…but it is part of being a mom. This is a topic that is finally becoming talked about in society and sites this like are wonderful. Hang in there, and hopefully you will find acceptance in your own way..as we all hope for ourselves.

  3. TrueMother Says:
    November 24th, 2009 at 5:46 pm

    I forgot to mention. I also went from a size 0 to a size 7. Don’t let numbers fool you..our bones and hips change also. So that size 7 could be bones..not other stuff. I get worried over sizes all the time. Worry more about being healthy instead of what you used to look like. Just like your life changed, your body reflects that change.

  4. shannon Says:
    November 24th, 2009 at 7:28 pm

    I feel you…I am only 23…I have had 2 cesareans, one 3 years ago, and one 7 months ago…your belly IS normal. And, you do not need a tummy tuck…it will get better…I am upset someone would suggest that…

  5. Amy Says:
    November 25th, 2009 at 1:24 am

    Hi- your stomach looks like many other women’s stomachs who have had children. You ask whether there is anything you can do to improve it’s appearance at the end of your post. From what I can see, i think toning like pilates and general fitness like walking everyday (walking up hills is even better) would tighten everything up. You should contact a maternity physio who can give you advice about what exercises would be best for you- my personal opinion is that transverse abdominal exercises are great for post-pregnancy women. I gained a lot of weight too, it is not easy to loose, but it can be done! best of luck

  6. Rach Says:
    November 25th, 2009 at 4:28 am

    Hi there…
    I know exactly how you feel, after I had my daughter by emergency C section I was mortified not only by the scar but by the way my tummy looked. Over time the scar & stretchmarks fade. Time also helps…takes time for your stomach to go down too. Your tummy may never lok the way it did before just have to make the best of what you have now and bear the stretchmarks with pride and think these are my battle scars I am a mother and I’m proud.
    My tummy didn’t look so nearly as good as yours at only 8 months after giving birth so I think you look fantastic! x

  7. Brittany Says:
    November 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am

    Hi. I had to comment. I am 24 and have two kids- 3 1/2 via c-section, and 21 months via VBAC. I got absolutely huge with both of my pregnancies and now I am very stretched out. HOWEVER, I can tell you that your belly IS normal, not excessively saggy like mine is and it DOES get better. A tummy tuck is SO NOT necessary and shame on dee for saying so (plus rubbing in that her tummy is flat as a “bored”). Besides that, I don’t think it’s possible to carry another child after having a tummy tuck. You’re young and may want more someday. You never know.

    Getting back in shape after having a baby is hard but with work, can be done. Don’t worry, it WILL get better.
    I have improved my belly with exercise and better diet/nutrition and it looked pretty bad next to yours. Trust me.
    Good luck. Don’t let anything get you down. Congratulations on your precious child and on motherhood.

  8. Becc Says:
    November 28th, 2009 at 4:26 pm

    hey, i do feel for you, I am 24 and after having a very active second child in my belly, and a emergancy c-section, I was left with a very very flabby, and disgusting belly, as the months went on, my belly started to improve and became like yours is now, but then it has just stopped, and it looks like it isn’t going anywhere. My doctor says that after a active baby in my belly and a c-section, it can be hard to lose the “baby apron”, I was so upset!!! But now I look at it as my love scars. it is who I am now and my husband loves me no matter what. So I suggest, stay active, enjoy life, don’t crash diet cause It wont do anything, buy a good pair of suck em undies and forget about it. You are a beautiful young women, don’t let a belly get you down all your life! i regret all the time i wallowed over my tummy!!! at the end of the day, your body is doing a amazing job keeping you alive and letting you carry life, I say a few bits and pieces out of place are acceptable

    stay postive

  9. Sarah Says:
    November 29th, 2009 at 1:13 am

    You look fantastic. Do you have hope yet? Of course. I lost weight up until my daughter was a year and a half. Did you know that it takes 2-3 years for your body to heal after childbirth? It’s true. And my body compared to when I was only 8 months postpartum? I am 8 pounds lighter, a pant size smaller, a shirt size smaller, and two bra sizes smaller. Don’t worry about that last part… the bra thing… I’ve always had small breasts. And I actually REALLY like my AAs! :)

  10. rosie Says:
    November 29th, 2009 at 1:36 pm

    My tummy was identical to that i had my first son at 20 and he was 9lb 7oz my second was 8lb 9oz and delivered by c-section i thought i was stuck with the tummy for life but 2 and a half years later it is so much better and all i have been doing is lots of walking with the buggy, Dee what an incensitive woman you are, and so what if you have a flat tummy, go gloat somewhere else

  11. Ashley Says:
    November 30th, 2009 at 1:57 am

    Hello, I am 20 but I got pregnant with my son at 18. I was a measly size 3 weighed 125 lbs before him. Well He was a 10lb baby. I have stretch marks gallore and saggy extra skin from getting so big. Trust me, once you start loosing the weight it is less noticeable. You are beautiful don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! It took me for my husband to be deployed, then him come home on his 2 weeks leave to realize that if someone loves you enough he won’t care about those stretch marks. My husband actually thinks they are awesome because I gave him the best gift he could ever have. Our little boy!! Yes I lost all my weight (then I got pregnant on his leave LOL) the skin does go down, mine hasnt gone away 100 percent but its alot better than what it was.

  12. Jessikah Says:
    November 30th, 2009 at 2:40 pm

    Heyy! My tummy looks almost exactly like yours and I feel totally okay with it! I have CRAZY stretch marks ALL the way around my body though :P I`m just turned 17 and JUST had my son 3 weeks ago. I gained 40 pounds and my boy was 9 pounds 5 ounces. I`m sure all my weight will come off, just like i`m sure yours will too! and if it doesn`tand you`re feeling bad about yourself, just look over at the beautiful baby you have now. As they always say, ITS SOOO WORTH IT. <3 Good luck, and don`t listen to the tummy tuck idea darlin`, that fat JUST COMES RIGHT BACK.

  13. Liz Says:
    December 1st, 2009 at 1:18 am

    Your stomach will get better with time and exercise. Honestly, I wish Dee never posted what she said about advising you to get a tummy tuck; I think you’re too young. Plus, like Brittany said, it could hinder your chances of carrying another baby…

    The best things you can do are find the parts of your body that you love and focus on them while you’re waiting for your stomach to get to a state to where you’re comfortable with it, exercise, eat well, and relax. You’re a gorgeous woman.

    Dee, I have to address your comment. Though I respect the fact that you are free to write and speak your mind as you wish, I think your comments are completely insensitive and snarky. Advising someone to go to bed with a shirt on, camouflaging one’s body with winter clothing, and getting a tummy tuck are shameful at best and do nothing to help heal one’s low self-esteem much less appreciate their body. Please be mindful of what you write.

  14. autumn Says:
    December 1st, 2009 at 6:57 am

    Thanks everyone for commenting on my post, This site has really helped me out, My son is now 9 months old and I am so proud of him, Sure my stomach may gross me out and Im not the size 1-3 I use to be, But what can I say my ass and hips got big, So it might not be the post parturm belly lol, I appericate all your comments including DEE’S because that shows me that if she can post something as insencitive as that, that shes either Insucre and trying to make herself feel better by putting someone else down or shes got her nose to high in the air and thinks her shit dont stinck, So thank you everyone, Im starting to accpet it, It takes time, Exspectaly now its Winter and I cant do everything I could in the Summer, Too Cold and Snowy, lol

  15. Christina Says:
    December 6th, 2009 at 10:51 am

    Mine does the same thing. =( *hugs*

  16. shannon Says:
    December 7th, 2009 at 3:18 pm

    Try the “Jillian Michaels 30 day shred” dvd!! It is great…I have had 2 cesareans (the most recent one almost 8 months ago), I have been doing the dvd a week now and lost 5 pounds…and it is only 20 minutes! Just get some 3 pound weights!

  17. Kimm Says:
    December 15th, 2009 at 10:15 am

    Hey darlin, I’m 8 weeks PP tomorrow- I have the EXACT same belly. i gained 79 pounds.. I’m 19 years old also, & she weighed 8’4. After looking at this website (which is great BTW!) I feel alot better and know I’m not alone in being dissapointed in my new body. Just keep active, jog, walk & whatever else burns the fat right off.. That’s what I’m doing!! & If it makes you feel better, I was a size 5 in juniors before I got preggo, and Now I can’t even fit into a size 17 in juniors, been wearing sweat pants since I was 6 months pregnant!!

  18. shannon Says:
    December 15th, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    Your stomach is normal. Try jumping jacks, running in place while watching tv (sounds stupid, but it works) and basically anything that gets your heartrate up and it will boost your metabolism. Cut out all soda and “whites” (sugar and white flour) for 2 weeks and see what changes take place. My stomach looks like that if I have too much sugar or eat fried food (I live in the South, so go figure), or quit my cardio. It surely does not mean that you need a “tummy tuck.”
    How rude of Dee!

  19. Ashley Says:
    December 30th, 2009 at 8:47 pm

    Your stomach totally looks exactly like mine. My son is 8months old right now and my stomach is pretty much stuck in this state. Thank you for posting this! It was very brave and really helpful. So… thanks!!

  20. sabrina Says:
    April 29th, 2010 at 10:21 pm

    I just love how some of you say well unlike you my belly is flat as a (bored) board! Also her stomach will not always look like that! She just had a baby and need some positive views cause most and let me say ALL guys dont know shit about this! I would like to say no dont wear a shirt to bed because he loves you and your amazing! So annoyed at this moment! I had to write!

  21. Steph Says:
    July 26th, 2010 at 2:17 pm

    I just found this website a few days ago, i love the fact that their are so many different bodies posted and other women who look better than me/worse off than me, every women is different. I just read the first comment written to you (or just the top of the comment list) and wanted to say screw you “Dee” why did you even post anything, nothing was helpful, and you should use spell check before posting, you sound ignorant. I just had a beautiful baby girl June 22 of this year (about a month ago) and my stomach has gotten about 80% better than it was right after i gave birth, i now have to work for my stomach, but i sort have new that getting into this. I was 209 when i delivered and now i’m 177, i would love to be 130… i have a ways to go but getting to see the before and after pics will be interesting… The truth is, if you want to look better you have to work for, i have to work for it (theirs nothing wrong with that), i’m not one of the lucky ones who just “Bounced back” and ITS OK! your beautiful!!

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