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Depressed Over Saggy Breasts (Anonymous)

May 3, 2013

Kids-2 one is 4 one is a year

After my first son they went back to a more perkier state after a year and a half, I was 21. Now with my second baby, I’m still breastfeeding and hoping that’s what’s weighing down and sagging my breasts. I feel so ugly and unattractive and am actually crying over them. I hate having sex with my husband, don’t want him touching them bc the feel so formless, shapeless and wrinkly and disgusting. I feel gross. My skin has thinned, my veins popping out and my skin wrinkly and saggy. I just want to know if I have hope, will they go back again? Will they ever firm, I’m only 22, lift weights, take my vitamins and take care of my skin. I just want to be sexy for myself again…..I have thought about getting a part time to pay for implants….or should I give it time bc I’m still breastfeeding. When I bend over the just hang like skinflaps and I feel so un femminine. I can’t believe I’m actually crying as I write this. My husband thinks I have mental issues and am fine, but if I don’t feel that way, I am not. I know I’m not mentally ill….I just want firmer skin on my breasts. I can’t even talk to him about this and I feel like the only mom with this problem…..I want to fix it so bad, will it ever get better, can someone give me hope? Will he thinning skin firm again? Will my breasts lift back a tad bit again after the glands loose the heavyness? My breasts have no density and I feel so envious of those moms who have firm full breasts………..ughhh I feel doomed and depressed.

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12 Responses to “Depressed Over Saggy Breasts (Anonymous)”

  1. kerry Says:
    May 3rd, 2013 at 9:55 am

    Girl if your boobs are saggy I don’t even want to know what you’d call mine! Lol I think your breasts look perky and full. You have a very nice bosom!

  2. liah Says:
    May 3rd, 2013 at 2:34 pm

    girl, im 21 and i promise you your breasts are perky compared to mine. i got fitted for a bra a few months after having my son and breastfeeding him and my cup size ended up being a EE! and i’m skinny. i still breastfeed him and he’s 18 months now so they may be even saggier than before. i feel your pain. i can’t ever feel confident being naked because of my breasts.

  3. mrspetunia Says:
    May 3rd, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    You probably won’t believe this but your breasts look perfectly fine. It’s funny how something can cause us so much pain and torture and yet be utterly ridiculous to someone else. I look at your breasts and think, “You’re crying over those?” I don’t mean to be insensitive or minimize your suffering. I just want you to know that from most people’s perspective there is nothing wrong with your breasts. Also the nice thing about boobs is that, with the right bra, nobody’s got to know what the girls look like (even though they really do look fine).

  4. Hannah Says:
    May 4th, 2013 at 3:24 pm

    Definitely make sure you wear the right size of bra, but like the previous posters have said, they look fine! I am happy with mine overall, but when I bend over bra less, they look floppy like you describe. If they weren’t, they’d have to be made of silicone!

  5. Sarah Says:
    May 4th, 2013 at 8:00 pm

    Your breasts look really perky to me! Nobody’s breasts stay perky when one bends down! Thank goodness we moms don’t walk around with our waists bent all day long, right? :)

  6. shannon Says:
    May 5th, 2013 at 9:49 am

    I feel very confident in saying that all moms that lean forward have breasts that do what yours do in the 3rd picture (I know mine certainly do!). My husband is quite fond of my boobs. After I read your post I said to him “Do my saggy breasts bother you?”, his response was “No, they excite me”.

  7. Jamie Says:
    May 5th, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    Your breasts don’t look saggy to me, either! I’m breastfeeding, too, and I like how mine look when full.. but when they’ve been emptied, there’s a lot of flap to em. Its just a part of motherhood! Mine actually looked like yours BEFORE I had a baby. So that should give reference to how perky they seem to the rest of us!

  8. Karolina Says:
    May 6th, 2013 at 8:26 am

    I understand your pain. Sometimes we hate our bodies so much that we cry over them and feel as if we were hopeless. But I think you shouldn’t feel like that. Your breasts are fine. We are overwhelmed with pictures of perfect women in the media and we wish we were like them. But you are real:) And your breasts are a part of you as a woman and mother. Don’t hate yourself.

  9. Sarah Says:
    May 6th, 2013 at 6:36 pm

    I have never been pregnant and have breasts that are traditionally “perky,” and mine hang like if I bend over. It’s just what natural breast tissue does! Your breasts are nice and womanly. I agree with the above posters–not “saggy” at all.

  10. Erin Says:
    May 7th, 2013 at 11:53 am

    Your breasts look so much like mine. Maybe yours are a little bit fuller but the aerola, the shape and way they sit are so much like mine! I too have been hating on myself, but I don’t think we should. Your boobs are normal. Yes, they probably have changed a lot but that is something that happens with pregnancy. Try not to be to hard on yourself. You are beautiful.

  11. Harriet Says:
    May 22nd, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    Your boobs look fine they look very similar to mine except mine may be a tad smaller but hold the same shape as yours. At first I did feel the same as you, but after my partner complimenting me and lots of time examining them in front of the mirror I came to like them. Go out and buy yourself some pretty bras and matching undies then check yourself out in the mirror =D you look great.

  12. Mette Says:
    June 7th, 2013 at 12:14 am

    I was always the short and chubby girl with short hair – not attractive, but I had huge boobs from early on. Short legs, yes, but a nice set of congos. Loved them, they were a huge part of my body image and my sexuality.

    At 22 I gave birth to my first child and I gained a lot of weight afterwards and my boobs were now even bigger but also not perky anymore.

    Then I lost 50 lbs in a year, I was still breastfeeding and my body looked really nice – slimmer and with big boobs.

    I finally quit breastfeeding after 18 months, and I had to take pills to make the milk go away and on the third day of taking the pills I vividly remember undressing that night, removing my huge bf-bra and looking at myself in the mirror with horror.

    What I saw was a slim (had never been before) girl (yay) but with no boobs..gone were my full breasts and left behind were short socks with a coin at the bottom. No fill, just sagging, flat, wrinkled small breasts with a huge nipple near the bottom. Think old lady in “something about Mary”.
    I was 23 and my whole identity was gone in a flash, or so I felt. I litterally cried myself to sleep. And the next day I bought a padded bra. And as I kept losing weight and started looking great I started to appreciate my small look, I felt I could wear so many things without looking like I was throwing my breasts in other people’s faces.

    I definitely looked better dressed, but when I started dating after my divorce (still early twenties) I pretended I was fine with my body, wore sexy underwear and radiated confidence and I have never had a man complain ever.

    Now I am 36, I have a second child and I am married again (10 years). I have mega boobs again, since I am now 40 lbs overweight…they shrink and grow according to my weight. I am about to embark on a weight loss journey mostly for my health and well being physically and I know they will shrink again, but I will not hate myself or be embarressed or depressed about something that is beyond my control. And your breasts looks nice and perky…a great handful…:)


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