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Cognitive Dissonance (Eden)

age 33
one birth, 32 months ago

I love this photo because it’s a hot girl in a bikini and also shows my loose belly skin.

I’m surprised by how unselfconscious I feel about that part of me – I’m more inclined to touch it absentmindedly and enjoy how soft it is than to lament how it looks.

There’s nothing contradictory about how good I look and that I look like my body grew a baby.


in Belly, First Pregnancy, Mom over 30, Positive Body Image/Words of Enouragement, Postpartum, Reader's Favorite, Submissions

10 comments… add one

  • KatieM Thursday, December 23, 2010, 2:03 pm

    I love it :D I am learning to see that I look good even if I wear some signs of motherhood.

  • Ana Thursday, December 23, 2010, 2:08 pm

    You do look fabulous!!!!

  • iris Thursday, December 23, 2010, 5:19 pm

    I absolutely love your last sentence. And I agree, you look beautiful!

  • Sarah P. Thursday, December 23, 2010, 5:25 pm

    You are DEFINITELY a hot girl in a bikini! You seem to be a strong woman! I love your confidence! :)

  • Milk Chocolate Midwife Thursday, December 23, 2010, 8:06 pm

    Love it. I wish more women had your confidence. That last sentence? YES! You. Totally. Rock.

  • Kerry Saturday, December 25, 2010, 8:42 pm

    I love this post! I feel the same way about myself and my silky belly skin. I often find myself fondly rubbing my stomach and am never too shy to show it off!

  • alyssa Monday, December 27, 2010, 4:43 pm

    The simplicity of your final statement is the essence of SOAM and the inner peace that I strive for. I love seeing photos of mothers like you who not only say they’ve achieved that peace, but whose very being radiates self-love.

  • Katie Sunday, January 2, 2011, 3:06 pm

    I cannot tell you how much I LOVE your last statement! it gave me chills when I read it, and totally made me take my head out of my ass, thank you!

    I gave birth to twins 8 months ago (8.8lbs and 8.15lbs) so yeah….my body stretched! I worked really hard at taking care of myself and staying positive, I promised myself that I would totally rock whatever stretch marks I got.

    Amazingly, I ended up with very few marks and am really pleased with where my body is today but I had been a little worried about wearing bikini’s….would other people be grossed out? Would my husband be proud of me? Silly me – I am SO proud of myself, my body and my babies and hell yes I’ll be back in my bikinis!

  • L Wednesday, February 2, 2011, 9:14 pm

    woohoo! you look hot! love brown bathing suits. I dont even own a two peice anymore.

  • J Tuesday, August 20, 2013, 11:26 pm

    I love this. I have a 33 month old wild boy and I look quite a bit like this. Really good, but with a tummy that looks like it carried a giant baby (loose muscle I guess). My partner begs me to wear a bikini but I am so weird about it that I mostly refuse to wear a bathing suit at all. It thrills me to see you owning it!

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