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Body So Young (Anonymous)

January 2, 2008

I fell pregnant at 15. It was a mistake, I was fully capable knowning what I was doing. I mean it wasnt a big choice that was completely decided upon either, but a mistake isnt even an option. To me no child should ever be considered a mistake. I had no complications through out my pregnancy, but I was hungry, 24/7 causing me to go from about 135 lbs to 217 incredible lbs. ALOT! Even though everyone told me theres no way you could have weighed that much, I did. And I gained it everywhere, from my butt to my thighs to my stomach, to my arms. Which resulted in stretch marks EVERYWHERE! I am not talking about just a couple on my stomach, and thighs. I am talking about, all over my arms, ones that wrap from the front of my stomach to the back to my butt, and all down the inside of my legs, to my calves, on my hips. EVERYWHERE! Being so young, and still am, I feel so bad about myself. I love my baby girl more than words could ever describe and would take all the stretch marks in the world for her, but its so hard to see my young body just completely go. I do have a wonderful boyfriend, who I completely love and adore, been together for a couple of years now, and his family adores me as well, he tells me all the time I am beautiful, and that the stretch marks fade, and the extra weight can come off so easily, but to me that seems impossible. Although my baby girl is just a month old, it still seems hard to even think about the possibility of ever looking somewhat good again. But finding this site has changed my whole outlook on things, and how mothers really do look. And how real mothers dont go back to wear a size 2 the day they come home from delivery, and look fabulous, like celebrities. My first pictures is somewhere in late pregnancy. Second is at the hospital. The rest are of my stretch marks. And one of my baby.










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12 Responses to “Body So Young (Anonymous)”

  1. tanya Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 5:12 am

    Your little girl is beautiful. I just had my second baby ( a girl) in November; what blessings we have.

    You are beautiful. I know you don’t see that now, but someday you will realize. I had my first at 18 and that changed my whole outlook on my body. I was depressed for years afterwards and I put myself and my loved ones through hell because of it. In the end though I realized that my body did something amazing and it did.

    Instead of focusing on the negative, try focusing your enegery towards something positive; such as your new daughter; but also towards a hobby or an activity you like to do. This is a perfect time to explore you inner self and to find that hidden passion and strength. Trust me though you are beautiful and you have accomplishment a miracle. Bless you and yours!!

  2. Melissa Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 6:06 am

    Your daughter is SOOOOO beautiful!!! And so are you :) Your body nourished and protected that beautiful little one for 9 months, and I’d say by the picture it did it’s job VERY well. So yes you got stretch marks and stretch marks do suck, but as MANY of the women here know, that’s pretty normal ;)…I too have stretch marks but only got them on my stomach and yes, I HATE them, but…I love my 3 1/2 year old son SO much, I usually look past my marks…You will do wonderfully…your marks will fade, and the baby days go SO quickly, you might even find yourself looking at your tummy to remember the wonderful time that was your pregnancy :) Your boyfriend sounds like the perfect man that everyone longs for. One that accepts the new changes in you for the positive :) Good luck with your sweet little peanut, and you don’t need luck with your marks or acceptance because I know you will do fantastic with it all :)

  3. mari Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 11:24 am

    you are so beautiful and so is your precious baby. I do understand how disheartening it can feel when you see the changes your body goes through after you have a baby. I, too, struggle with insecurities about my stretch marks which are all over my butt, calf, inner, outer thighs, breasts,etc. the list could go on. :) but really, they will fade with time and i realized something. That the lines on our bodies we have from bearing our children are simply the lines of a love letter to our child.
    when we see those traces of lines we can know that they are there because of love and nothing else.

  4. Tanya Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 12:01 pm

    Hey there…congratulations on your baby girl!

    I, too, went from 135 lbs. to about 220 lbs. It was EXHAUSTING carrying around the extra weight!

    I gained mine in my belly, butt, legs, a bit in the arms, and face. I lucked out not to get any stretchmarks on my arms, but my butt, thighs, and belly are all marked.

    I’ve lost about 45 lbs…another 45 to go! lol My son is almost 2.5 years old now, so it’s been a long time.

    At least I now feel more comfortable in my new body, and it’s due mainly to belly dancing. If you can manage it, I strongly suggest getting into belly dance. It’s amazing how much it helps! :)

  5. Sarah Says:
    January 3rd, 2008 at 1:34 pm

    First of all, thank you for choosing life. As a Christian I believe, like you, no child is a mistake. Everyone is meant to be here. You look beautiful. Yes, your body will never be the body of a 15 year old girl’s. Yes, your body now belongs to a woman and a mother. But you will find the strength to “meet in the middle” and learn to love your body and appreciate it for creating such a beautiful child! Congratulations!

  6. Helen Says:
    January 4th, 2008 at 9:31 am

    You’re lovely, inside and out. The stretchmarks do fade alot over time, if that helps- mine were bright purple, and now, barely visible! You’re amazingly strong and your family is lucky to have you!

  7. Drea Says:
    January 4th, 2008 at 5:28 pm

    Hey. I have to imagine thats hard being so young. I had my 1st child at 21. Which to me was young 2…

    Just remember that these bodies are temporary… and one day we will have a new body in heaven.

    Look at that precious baby and remember it was well worth the marks.

    Hang in there!

  8. kasondra Says:
    January 14th, 2008 at 1:25 am

    i want you to know that you are a beautiful person and you have a adorable little baby that is worth all the “issues” your body has had to endure. i too like most mothers am covered with stretch marks and being 24 i am pretty disappointed to have them so early in life…but they are all worth it. so what if i put on 110 pounds…my son is worth each and every mark and each and every pound…and so is your precious little girl. you are both beautiful and i know that soon enough you will see what we see!! =) take care of yourself and your little angel.

  9. Raven Says:
    January 14th, 2008 at 1:41 pm

    I have stretchmarks all over too! Your the closest girl who resembles me that Ive ever seen. My calves, thighs, and stomach are COVERED in stretchmarks!
    But your so beautiful and only one month PP so things can only get better!

  10. Anna Says:
    January 27th, 2008 at 12:42 pm

    I just wanted to let you know that I have just gone through almost the exact same thing. I had a baby 6 months ago.I got pregnant at 19. I was 125 lbs..and i went to 225-230. My body looks exactly like yours. I got so jelous when I was pregnant when I was reading about girls who only gained 25-40 lbs and only got a few strecth marks. I thought I was a freak or something. I hid the entire time I was pregnant becuase I was ashamed and didn’t want to run into anyone I knew before. So yer post made me feel so much better to know I am not alone. Yer a very brave girl and you made an amazing decision to go ahead and have that baby knowing everythign you were given up. Your an amazing mom and a gift to this world. I am so proud that there are women like you and on this website..it brings alot of hope into life. Thanks so much for your post.

  11. Some Amelia Says:
    January 31st, 2008 at 1:34 am

    What a beautiful girl you have! She is so perfect.

  12. CC Says:
    April 14th, 2008 at 12:57 am

    I don’t usually post but I just have to say I also suffer from all the stretch marks you described. I am in my early twenties and just gave birth to triplets. It has taken a HUGE toll on my self esteem as well (no more skirts or bathing suits for me). Thank you for sharing your story and pictures it lets me know I’m not alone.

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