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Ashamed of my body, love the outcome! (Tiffany)

January 23, 2013

Although I’ve always been a little on the thick side, I never imagined myself being the size I am now and being so ashamed of myself! My partner is very supportive and says she loves my body either way, I’m just very unhappy in it! I gained 60+ pounds while pregnant and now my stomach hangs! I just feel so disgusting! How can I lose this baby weight?

19/1 child/ 3 months old/ 3 months postpartum/natural birth
First one is pre pregnancy, last two is 3 months postpartum. Final picture is my beautiful babyboy

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14 Responses to “Ashamed of my body, love the outcome! (Tiffany)”

  1. Jeremy Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 7:42 am

    I think you look awesome! You have a child and you should be very proud of your body, no matter what!

  2. angela Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 8:46 am

    He is such a cutie! Honestly, I can relate. The only thing I ever did that helped me lose weight fast and keep it off was to start juicing. I started out with just one green drink a day, with a little beet. I did not ever go hard core, but it really naturally curbed my appetite. I lost 12 lbs in my first 2 weeks, and felt fantastic, which allowed me to keep going, start exercising, and lose 20 lbs. Now that I’m pregnant again, my stomach will not accept the juice but I still eat healthy while I miss how great I felt. My everyday juice was kale, carrot, beet. Very simple and pretty cheap. I wish you great luck in your journey. Be patient, it took 9 months to put it on…

  3. Cecily Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 8:52 am

    I gained 58lbs with my first, and I was so miserable and embarrassed. My hubby was great about it tho, and the weight finally came off, but it did take me two years. Just give it time, try to watch your food intake. I got serious about counting calories with my second child, and I only gained 25lbs. I lost almost all of it immediately after birth. Weightloss is hard, but you can do it! Best of wishes on your journey!

  4. Christina Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 9:18 am

    Hi Tiffany, firstly i want to tell you that your body is amazing. It has just formed, nurtured and given birth to another life. I think that’s pretty miraculous! And he is a cutie by the way :-) My own beautiful boy is 16 months and I was not a confident skinny minny before I had him but I think I’m healthier and happier now than I’ve ever been. I started walking when he was about 3 months old and it did me the world of good. I got out of the house and got myself and db some fresh air and he would often have a good long nap in the pram while I walked. That helped him get his days and nights the right way round too which meant I got more sleep and even when I didn’t, the walking helped energis me and I started to feel better

  5. Christina Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 9:38 am

    Stupid phone cut me off mid flow! I was going to say that I also started to lose weight in the process but I felt so much stronger and more confident in myself and as a new mother that the weight wasn’t almost relevant to me and considering I have spent most of my life obsessed with it that was a real revelation. Being a mother was just more important than obsessing about my appearance any more. Which is not to say I’ve let myself go – I can squeeze my belly roll into skinny jeans now, 2 whole dress sizes smaller than pre-pregnancy,but more importantly I can run after my toddler without breaking a sweat and have lots of fun in the park with him without caring if my lipstick is on straight or my hair is a mess because he brushed it for me before we came out. I eat more than before but much healthier because I don’t eat anything I wouldn’t give my baby – weaning him made me effectively go on a diet without even thinking about it and I’d always been resistant to them before. My skin and hair are better because if all the fruit and Veg we’re eating and I just generally feel fitter than ever before. You can do this too! Stop concentrating on what you perceive to be your ugly bits – which by the way I can tell you they are not – and get on with being a good mummy – you’ll find that everything else will fall into place naturally. You have a beautiful baby and a healthy strong body to protect and raise him with – what could be more beautiful or wonderful than that? Enjoy it, you are blessed xxxx

  6. Roxy Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 10:03 am

    Tiffany,

    Your child is lovely & so are you. I gave birth to my son when I was 20 (I am now 25), I gained 45 lbs and went from a size 10 to a size 16. I would take 2 15 min walks a day, after 5 yrs I am down to a size 12, everything takes time. Don’t push yourself too hard or beat yourself up, you could hurt yourself & you’ll only feel worse. Hold your head up high, keep your patience and remember you are beautiful.

  7. Michaela Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 10:44 am

    -don’t stop breastfeeding is my best tip. give breastfeeding at least 6 months -after that your body will be using up fat reserves to keep feeding the baby, and you will shed your weight so fast from then on!!

  8. Laura Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    I feel you girl! I gained 70 lbs. Right now I’m 8 months PP and have lost 50 of those pounds.
    It takes time and it’s not easy. Watch what you eat and try to exercise at least 3 times a week. I count calories using an app on my phone. I also try to eat fresh foods, like fruits, veggies, meats, whole grain bread, etc. It’s a lifestyle adjustment but if you’re dedicated you can make it work. Goodluck!

  9. Sara Says:
    January 23rd, 2013 at 6:20 pm

    First things first. Get some clothes that you can feel good in. The first step to getting your body back the way you want is feeling good about yourself now. You’re only 3 months pp! Your body is still recovering. My little one just turned 1 a week ago and I am only starting to feel normal now. I still have some weight to lose but I feel like me again. I had some people in my life trying to tell me that it’s vanity to worry about your pp body and if you do then you’re just ungrateful because you don’t appreciate the blessing that is your baby! I call bulls**t on that one. So, because I have two children I shouldn’t want to look good in my own eyes!? So very much changes when we have a child. Our entire mandate in life is forever altered. Our priorities shift, our house is tailored to our child, our sleep patterns change drastically! I remember after my first, wanting only to look in the mirror and see myself. A self that I recognized. And when I didn’t I was devastated and lost. It’s not vanity, it’s survival to want one thing to stay the same in all the upheaval. My babies were worth all of the changes to my life and my body but I won’t lie and say that there weren’t some rough days trying to accept all the changes. I am looking to be fit and healthy. Eat good food and start with some walking. One day at a time.

  10. Michele Says:
    January 24th, 2013 at 7:02 am

    I am three months postpartum as well with my third child, I have lost all of my baby weight and I am toning up very well at this point. I also breastfeed. I did this all through working out 3-4 times a week. I have my husband keep the baby or I schedule the workouts around his nap times and I get on it. I was so depressed at first because the weight wasnt budging this time around, I have gotten older and it seems as if I just wasn’t snapping back right away. What worked for me was to start walking and then I started jogging (all after six weeks visit), then I incorporated kickboxing and now weights. You are so very young and at three months postpartum you should be ready to start working out. If you are unhappy with yourself, that is the best thing to do, start walking and then maybe interval training/weight lifting. You will see great results in about two months. You only have one body and it’s the only body we have, so be as good to it as you can. The best thing you can do for you and your little one is to exercise, it helps with the blues and it also helps with being fit and energetic because it is soooo hard caring for these little ones. You can do it. Good luck!!!

  11. Chels Says:
    January 30th, 2013 at 8:56 pm

    I frequent SOAM, and I must say, of all the baby pictures I have seen on this site, your son’s definitely left an impression…he is so freakin adorable!! Well done lady!
    And sweetie, you are so beautiful! The weight will fall off in no time. After my son, I started to eat clean, healthy foods, started walking every day, and before I knew, I was back to my old self. Remember, it did take you 9 months to put it all on :) So please don’t be hard on yourself. And I know that is easier said than done, as I was once in your position ;) You’re only 3 months postpartum, give it time.
    Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that too :))

  12. eschelle Says:
    February 1st, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    I know how you feel babe, I was 115 before kids… ended out at 200. Depressing even with a really supportive “hubby”. I still have yet to loose all of mine too and my youngest is 3…. I haven’t gained at all since but I certainly haven’t gone down much… it sucks…

  13. katie Says:
    February 6th, 2013 at 9:53 am

    Um two months??!! you have miles to go and its just gonna get better every day!! No one should be allowed to even look in mirrors until 6 months, and you will still see TONS of improvement up to a year or more. My kids are 2.5yrs and 2 months.

  14. Danutaelectra Says:
    May 6th, 2014 at 11:39 pm

    Buy yourself beautiful underwear that feels supportive and comfortable. Buy yourself beautiful clothes that flatter you and make you feel elegant. Eat lovely food. Feed your beautiful child. Smile often. In the end we are all old, all wrinkly, all changed by age and experience. By the time you reach your fifties, the women you know are beautiful are the ones who are comfortable in their own skins and have developed their own distinctive style.

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