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(Anonymous)

April 15, 2008

Hello, I want to THANK YOU for your blog, I actually stumbled across it when I was researching what the heck these bumps on my nipples were! I seriously thought I was the only one that had this tummy! Although I have yet to see a tummy as bad as mine (I still have a few months of posts to read through). I am the proud mother of 3. Before my first I was a tiny 100 pound teen. Baby #1 was born when I was 17 and weighed 8 pounds 15 ounces Baby #2 was born when I was 19 and weighed 9 pounds 8 ounces Baby #3 was born when I was 21 and weighed 8 pounds 13 ounces While I was pregnant with Baby One I noticed a bump next to my belly button and was told it was a umbilical hernia. I still have it and it doesn’t hurt me, it’s just ugly. My belly button never went back in but it’s all hidden by the large amount of extra skin I have. After my third was born I consulted my doctor about my tummy and was told that my stomach muscles tore in half and were on repairable with surgery (abdominoplasty/tummy tuck). I hope to someday have that fixed but that also means no more babies so I am waiting until we decide what we want to do for our family. I get very depressed about my body and cry often when I see myself in the mirror, I can’t even change in front of my husband because I don’t want him to see…. I would never change a thing because being a mother to these beautiful children is more important. Thanks for taking the time to read my story, your site is helping me heal and I hope I can get over this and someday be more comfortable in front of my husband. Photo one show how the extra skin lays when I am laying down. Photo two shows my “belly button” and the hernia above it. Photo three is a front on view of my tummy when I am standing.





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14 Responses to “(Anonymous)”

  1. Nikki Says:
    April 15th, 2008 at 1:50 pm

    Awww, honey you sound like you have such a great personality and attitude. Things will get better for ya, but I also understand where you’re coming from. You’re beautiful and I think you have gorgeous skin, that was the first thing that caught my eye.

  2. Elliottsmom Says:
    April 15th, 2008 at 5:55 pm

    At least you don’t have stretch marks like mine. :(

  3. Rachel Says:
    April 15th, 2008 at 7:55 pm

    I think it’s great that despite wanting to do the plastic surgery you are more than willing to wait. Vanity is not as important as family for you which, sadly, seems to not be the case these days…

    I think you have a very nice mommy body. If you don’t mind me asking, what did you find the bumps on your nipples were?

  4. Anonymous Says:
    April 16th, 2008 at 8:55 am

    Hello, I am the poster & I was surprised to see this here today! Thanks Nikki for your kind comment.

    I also wanted to say I made a mistake in the typing, that last picture is me sitting, not standing.

    Thanks again for this great blog, I was just telling someone about it…

  5. bonnie Says:
    April 16th, 2008 at 9:12 am

    I’m no doctor, of course, but I have the same bumps on my areolas (I think that’s what you mean?) and I have been told by more than one health care professional that they are called Montgomery’s glands and are totally normal. :)

  6. Sarah Says:
    April 16th, 2008 at 2:56 pm

    Wow! Beautiful and touching photos!!! Thank you so much for sharing! (My boobs do the same thing when I lay down! That’s what happens when you go from nearly A to C to an A again lol… I still like my boobs!)

  7. intensity_too Says:
    April 16th, 2008 at 9:44 pm

    I love the way your belly looks when you are lying down. I’m not exactly sure why, but I think it is really cool.

  8. Anonymous Says:
    April 17th, 2008 at 2:29 pm

    All the women here are the best, thanks so much for your nice comments.

    Rachel, bonnie’s reply was correct…at least from what I’ve read, it’s “Montgomery Glands”. I had never even heard of them before!

    Oh & I wanted to say to Elliottsmom, My whole stomach area is stretch marks but for some reason they blurred out when the picture was taken?? But they ARE there! I have them on my boobs (they have faded some), my BUTT big time, my thighs, tummy & even a few small ones on my calves. When I was pregnant my belly was weird & shiny and had a see-thru look to it (but it wasn’t see-thru of course). Just kinda ugly and the veins bulged out…yucky. I NEVER thought of taking a picture, I kinda wish I did though because it’s hard to explain how it looked.

  9. Messa Says:
    April 17th, 2008 at 5:44 pm

    The bumps on your breasts are most likely Montgomery Glands…they are just little glands that keep your nipples moist & healthy. They’re really neat becasue they actually omit a scent that only your baby can smell. ((I just think that is so cool!)) A LOT of new moms have them – some fade and some don’t. :) hope that helps!
    you look great btw for only 9 weeks pptm!!

  10. tracy Says:
    April 23rd, 2008 at 7:08 am

    you know, when your out in public and you see all these beautiful people or beautiful bodies..you never think what hang-ups THEY might have.. i just think..”wow..they look so great” and you know what?? you all are those beaitiful people..i constantly compare my bod to others.. i think i always have..its just something you do..but i never really knew that so many others out there do it too.. or have those same hang ups.. idk..i am so thankful for my 2 13yr olds, 15yr old and 16 yr old..but i have to say, i never felt proud of what pregnancy did to my body..i know i went thru all the young mommy years not caring so much about it or maybe just not even thinking about it(who had time) because i was a mother who loved her babies more than anything in the world and they loved me and my husband loved me and thats all that mattered..but NOW..i really wish i had the confidence to be proud and love it..but i just dont.i think if anyone ever saw my belly omg..i’m tearing up just thinking of it.maybe if i keep reading and seeing all of you REAL women out there..i’ll get to that point. peace

  11. Mel Says:
    April 29th, 2008 at 5:39 pm

    My stomach looks so much like yours when I lay down. All that extra skin just folds. My tummy was also see-thru lol not literally, but you would see the veins, red stretch marks and it was really shiny. I had a c-section so my extra skin just hangs over it. My belly botton sticks out completely. U look amazing and you’re beautiful. Its been over a year for me and I still look the same.
    I know exactly how you feel and how depressing it can be.
    Ciao

  12. Amanda Says:
    April 30th, 2008 at 9:44 am

    I just wanted to tell you that our tummys look the same. And while I hate mine, seeing it on someone else it’s beautiful, and by you posting, I really feel comfort, knowing I’m not alone.I too have the hernia issue, and it can’t be fixed until we are done with our family. The only difference is mine is painful at times. But we are waiting to add one more baby to our 2 already, and then I will probably have the surgery. Good luck! You are beautiful!!!

  13. shannon Says:
    January 1st, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    I have the same thing! But i had twins… I’m done now (3 kids :) So hopefully I will get mine fixed soon… I just wish it was covered by insurance!!

  14. Lorrie Says:
    June 24th, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    When I first saw your picture, I thought that somehow I had gotten a picture of myself on the net. I have been known to stand up and take pics of how my mommy body looks, just so that I can see what he sees. Sometimes I think I should go for surgery, but it seems like such a waste of time and money. I mean, I AM a mom and there is no denying it. I am 33 and I kind of feel like belly shirts and bikinis are over with for me.

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