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Please tell me what I can read! I’ve had children I’ve got a mess of a stomach etc stretch marks loads of problems… 4 children were the ex husbands he told me after I had kids he missed my body from before I had children (I don’t know where to start), cheated on me. Divorced him. Was single for years . Met a guy thought he was nice almost two years ago now we have 1 son together now. And I found out he’s gone out where there’s skimpies, had porn and crap on Facebook, been liking porn on Instagram. I can’t breath! It matters to me I told him I’m not ok with it and he says it means nothing but it’s not ok, it makes me feel like I mean nothing and he didn’t love or want me.

I just feel like I could stop breathing and die I can’t take this…

What did I do I can’t do anything about my stretch marks

in Four or More Pregnancies, No Photos (Story Only), Postpartum, Question, Submissions
9 comments… add one
  • Beth Wednesday, February 24, 2016, 9:26 am

    I am sorry about what you are going through. I wish I had words of wisdom to make it right. But all I can think to say is you are justified in your pain, it is not right what these men are doing.

  • Kirsten Thursday, February 25, 2016, 8:45 pm

    Hon, your stomach and stretch marks have nothing to do with how you were treated. It has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. You are the same beautiful, vibrant woman you always were!

  • Lauren Thursday, February 25, 2016, 9:18 pm

    Sending hugs and light… There is nothing wrong with you. You did nothing wrong. You are are strong and powerful. You brought 5 children into this world, how amazing is that?! I’m sorry you are dealing with these men who don’t know how to appreciate the beauty of a body that has given so much for others.

  • Lynn Thursday, February 25, 2016, 9:20 pm

    Oh I am so sorry. Your body is not responsible for the choices of others. The porn watching doesn’t necessarily mean you are unloved. A good lover respects their lovers feelings about porn. But it is an addictive substance and as such using it is not necessarily connected to reason. Like any user, a porn watcher is selfish, but that is like I said at the beginning not about you. I will say that people can heal and change, I have seen relationships recover from this. I have seen even the deep hurt and betrayal that is felt in the heart of a post partum body, who’s lover has turned to porn, healed. Beauty can bloom again even after the devastation. But whatever he does. You are worthy. You are enough. You have no reason to be ashamed of your goddess body that has brought forth life and has been altered by it’s triumph. Please lift your head. May you rise from this like a phoenix. Blessings to you, love.

  • Irene Friday, February 26, 2016, 6:27 am

    Hi,

    I feel your pain, and I don’t really know how to comfort you when it comes to your stretch marks. You see, I’ve had mine since I was about 12, and when I was 19, after getting pcos, I was covered from back to ankles, literally. My arms, chest, hips, tummy, thighs, bum, calves.. I’ve tried it all; remedies, creams, trends, but then decided life was worth living, not just worrying about. I’ve been in relationships that were good and bad, and what I do know is that the bad ones had nothing to do with the way I looked. If you have a man that cheats, it’s only because he has issues, and it does not reflect on who you are as a person. My current relationship is beautiful, and this man, who is 8 years younger than me, loves every inch of my scarred body. He stays by my side, and gives me more love than I think I deserve. What I’m trying to say is that there is someone out there who will love you, see you for who you are, and stand by you when you can’t stand on your own. Value yourself and don’t waste time on the negative. Live your life and only share it with someone who’s worth it.

  • Janice roberts Friday, February 26, 2016, 7:22 pm

    The problem is not your stretch marks. I have had 8 children (7 earth, 1heaven) and I have more lumps and bumps than I thought I ever would. They are not something my husband complains about or dislikes, because they are a part of me. He loves me for me. Do not waste your energy trying to be someone you are not. Never be negative about your body because you created 5 beautiful children. Your body tells that story. And you need someone who appreciates and loves that story too.

    i hope you can find the strength to love yourself, because you are worth loving x

  • Stacy Friday, March 4, 2016, 8:27 am

    You must love yourself. Your body has done some incredible things and your new man’s porn activities are not reflective of you. Your past relationship does not represent your current relationship. Your man needs to understand your feelings and be mindful of how it makes you feel when you see him engaging in these things. Try not to let past experiences taint this newer relationship. I hope you can both come to common ground and you can love yourself. He needs to show you love in a way you understand it and you also need to love yourself to be your most attractive self in his eyes. Be strong. You are worthy of love.

  • Maja Saturday, June 11, 2016, 4:01 am

    Probably it’s not about you, a lot of people watch porn being in relationship and it doesn’t mean they don’t love their partners. I’m a woman, I have a partner and we both watch porn and love each other.

  • Brandi Shaw Sunday, March 18, 2018, 1:01 pm

    Glycolic acid. When it dries use a battery powered circular dry brush and coconut oil afterwards. Worked magic for my stretch marks.

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