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(Anonymous)

March 22, 2012

Okay girls I am 25 years old 5’4 and 165 wretched pounds. I have had two beautiful daughters one will be 4 in Aug and the other is 6 months. They are my life along with my amazing husband. He makes it a point to tell me how beautiful I look everyday although I beg to differ. I am a wreck after having my babies. I am 45lbs overweight and that isn’t even back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I have joined myfitnesspal.com, my local gym and do tae-bo, yoga some days at home. I do my best to control my eating and keep my work outs regular, but my stomach is a disaster zone. It is deflated like a balloon and my incision is crooked and the stretch marks are like a road map of the trials I have endured. I am learning a difficult lesson about self appreciation and love. I have been almost depressed over my current appearance and finally took a step back and realized I NEED to be positive. I need to love myself before I can fix myself and I need to give it my everything and not give up due to lack of results as I did after my first pregnancy. I want to believe my husband when he tells me I am beautiful but I do not feel that way, so this is my goal to learn how to accept a compliment instead of shunning it or having some lame comeback like yeah…right…to learn to say thank you and to love who I am no matter what I look like because I can control most of that. We are all beautiful and having beared children is an amazing gift and Bonnie is right this is exactly what a real WOMAN’S body looks like not air brushed and photoshoped, real women with real success stories and amazing triumphs over person struggles…this is us.

The first pic is of my at my baby shower…the second two are my body right now….the third/fourth is my body with clothes on now and me with my babies.

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5 Responses to “(Anonymous)”

  1. ayla Says:
    March 22nd, 2012 at 7:49 pm

    you are NOT 45 pounds overwieght. normal weight (depending on body type) for someone who is 5’4″ is 114 (bare minimum) to 138. I am 5’4″ too….and besides that your body doesnt look all that bad. looks like ou just need to tone up your stomach muscles and work on your obleques :) not bad for having a baby 6 months ago. Dont be too hard on yourself. :)

  2. Jessica Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 7:28 am

    I totally agree with you on learning to love yourself and accept yourself- before you can fix anything. How you feel about yourself comes from the inside and not how others perceive you. You look beautiful and know that your husband and family feel the same way! By the way you look totally hot sitting on that car!

  3. TC Says:
    March 23rd, 2012 at 1:29 pm

    You are so pretty…who sees you naked?? like..2 people?? Get healthy and happy with YOU~~ by the way..yeah…my body looks pretty much like yours and my 10 year younger husband thinks I am HOT

  4. Lama Says:
    March 24th, 2012 at 1:30 am

    Wow, you are very pretty, your husband is right! :)My stomach is also always inflated (4 months pp). I read that this is due to the fact that our transverse abdominis muscles (the deepest layer of the muscles that pulls our stomach inward)gets stretched and weakened during pregnancy, and it takes at least 9 months or longer for them to contract back together. There are some special exercises that target these particular muscles (just doing “abs” does not help to flatten the stomach)and helps to condition them faster (can be found on youtube.com). (I might sound lecturing, but I am really just happy to share information I found recently).I also think that our stomachs look ballooned because we have to eat more when breastfeeding. As for your weight,it looks just right. I cannot find “extra 45 pounds” – you must have been really skinny before! :) Anyway, some women do gain weight during breastfeeding, but then shed it after they wean the baby. I also think you look hot on the last picture! :) Good luck and congratulations on your two cuties! :)

  5. Tenille Says:
    April 1st, 2012 at 9:21 pm

    I think you look great, I am 5 mths pp and I have a long way to go. I think you are so lucky to have such a loving husband who tells you that you are beautiful. Mine tells me not to buy too many clothes this size because I still need to lose the weight, or takes away food like chips if he sees me eating it.

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