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Anonymous

July 29, 2009

Hello, I am a 24 year old single mother. I found out I was pregnant with my daughter right after my 22nd birthday and gave birth Christmas day 2007. My daughter was small only weighing 6 pounds 15 ounces and 19 1/4 inches long. Though you couldn’t tell with the 80 pounds I gained. When I found out I was pregnant and told her father he was totally against me having her, he pushed abortion and when I refused he started dating someone else. All this extra stress didn’t seem to help with my extreme weight gain. I have always struggled with my weight and been heavy my whole life, when I had finally lost weight. At the time I got pregnant I was 158 pounds which wasn’t bad for my 5’8” frame. I always figured i would lose 20 or 30 pounds from giving birth, I came home 10 pounds lighter. I didn’t get many stretch marks, but I hate the way my body looks now. I now weight 193 and it is extremely hard to lose weight. Its hard to come to terms with my self and I have little to no self confidence. My daughter is now 19 months old and is my life, I wouldn’t change anything and she is the best choice I have ever made. I just feel so disgusted by myself, I feel unlovable at times. I found this site about a year back and it does make me feel better and I feel the support. The pictures are of me 19monts pp.

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14 Responses to “Anonymous”

  1. Lela Says:
    July 29th, 2009 at 9:47 am

    You should not hate your body! You have a great curvy shape and should not be so hard on yourself.

  2. B.C. Says:
    July 29th, 2009 at 3:09 pm

    I agree with Lela, you have a wonderful curvey shape. Many women would love to have your curves! You are a brave woman and you made the honorable choice to carry your daughter. You are lovable, keep reminding yourself of that. If you tell yourself you’re not lovable (which is self abuse) then you run the risk of allowing abusive people into your life which isn’t good for you and certainly not good for your daughter. You deserve to have a beautiful life!

  3. Krystal Says:
    July 29th, 2009 at 8:46 pm

    Wow, your 193lbs!!?? Im 5’8 and weigh 155 and am 10mo pp and I think I look like you do. I can’t beleieve you are really 193… you don’t look like you weigh that much, really.

  4. Sarah Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 12:44 am

    I honestly don’t know why you hate your body because you are truly very beautiful! You’re not only beautiful on the outside, but on the inside you are a strong and beautiful woman. Isn’t that the part that people should see after all? You are blessed to have a body that you can walk with, breathe with on your own, eat with on your own, go to the bathroom on your own, etc… You are a mother and a strong woman. Be proud of who you are and hold your head high. Some day your daughter will look to you to see what is true womanhood and true beauty. She will, by default, believe that you are that perfect example. So be proud! =)

  5. 14 Weeks Pregnant Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 5:38 am

    You look wonderful, don’t forget men love curves. Be proud of yourself, you did a great thing. I hope you find real love soon!

  6. Shannon Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 6:03 am

    I know how it is to feel disgusting. I am 23, and have had 2 boys both by cesarean…the youngest is almost 4 months old, and the oldest would have been 3 in September (you can find my post under “5 weeks pp” in child loss). I think you look amazing though! Sometimes I look at my body and I hate it…then I think “how could I hate this body? It gave me Connor and Liam.”…you really do look great. Any guy that would not want you is a shallow boy, and we deserve men!

  7. Angèle Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 6:15 am

    Damn girl! You are HOT!!

  8. h Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 7:42 am

    The pics were not what I was expecting from what I read. Especailly the bit about being heavy your whole life. You don’t look like that at all to me! You are perfectly in proportion!

  9. Sarah Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 8:55 am

    I think you look great! You’ve got a great booty! Most men love a curvier shape! We are the same height and I have been stuck at 185 for the past year! lol! I know the feeling. Don’t give up!!

  10. Will Says:
    July 30th, 2009 at 10:33 am

    I agree with the comments above. You should be very happy with your body. You look great. And like Sarah said men love curvier shapes. I think you look fantastic. Also, congratulations on your little one.

  11. Liz Says:
    July 31st, 2009 at 9:06 pm

    You look gorgeous! Not to be too frank, but you have a great butt! I know what it’s like to be hard on yourself, to constantly compare yourself to others, but don’t. You can never be “them.” We only have one life to live. Make the most of it, and take time to make the most of what you have because you’re so incredibly gorgeous.

    I hope one day you see what everyone else sees.

  12. Nicole Says:
    August 1st, 2009 at 1:47 pm

    Thank you everyone so much for all of your positive feed back. I was having a bad day today and saw all the post and it really put a smile on my face! Thank you so much!

  13. Lo Says:
    October 15th, 2009 at 9:04 pm

    You´ve got curves women would kill for! Beautiful body, don´t be ashamed of it! Extremely gorgeous! Don´t feel down, i don´t think you need to lose a pound!

  14. L. Says:
    March 11th, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    You look amazing! I would kill for a booty like yours! My rear is as flat as a pancake. lol

    All it is is confidence. Really.

    Start researching ways to make yourself feel glam (and I’m not talking about surgery or anything like that) and you’ll feel like a yummy mummy in no time! Take some time out for yourself, go for a walk, buy some sexy knickers, anything to make yourself feel great in your skin and you’ll start to feel better about your body.

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