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Anonymous

February 24, 2009

5’7″.
Size 3.
125 pounds.
16 years old.
That was then..

Size 11.
145 pounds.
17 years old.
This is now..

My life changed when the pregnancy tests [all 5 of them] came back positive. I was 16 years old, a junior in high school, an athlete. I loved my body.

People said I was too young to be a mother. I was told that I was a slut [even though I had only been with one guy.] I was told that I was just another typical teen mother who would make my mom raise my kid. According to them, I was selfish..

My daughter was born on January 12, 2009. She had to be delivered with forceps. I had an episiotomy, hemorrhaged, and lost so much blood that my doctor ordered one of the nurses to find out my blood type in case I was to need a transfusion. Thankfully, I didn’t.

My breasts, stomach, butt and thighs are no longer what they used to be. I have stretch marks on my breasts, butt, and thighs.

I gained 50 pounds. When I delivered, I weighed 175 pounds.
Breastfeeding has helped me to lose 30 pounds in three weeks. Now, I’m stuck at 145 pounds.

But you know what? Even though my stomach is much looser, my legs are much thicker, my boobs are much bigger, and I have stretch marks, I know I’m beautiful. I’m happy with my body.

My body is beautiful because I’m a mother. No one can take that away. So go ahead, call me fat – I don’t care. I’m happy and I’m beautiful, regardless of what people say….

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7 Responses to “Anonymous”

  1. Andrea Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 9:04 am

    You have an impressive self esteem for a 17 year old woman!! That is great, it has taken me years of hard work to have the kind of confidence you do. It makes me so happy to hear you say that you are happy and beautiful regardless of what people say….I hope my two young daughters are as strong as you when they are teens. Take care and keep it up!!!!!

  2. Cherish Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 10:36 am

    You have such a great outlook! I was 17 when I become pregnant with my first and I heard all of the names and remarks. I became a mother young but it didnt stop me from obtaining my goals and fighting those stereotypes. You are beautiful and strong and no one can take that away from you.

  3. Angele Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 7:01 pm

    Omg.. I just cried reading your post!! I commend you for being such an inspiration to teen mothers.. wait .. scratch that.. to MOTHERS! Your outlook is amazing and I hope to one day have the self esteem you have! Congrats on your baby and keep your head up! :)
    Thank you

  4. Marshmallow Says:
    March 15th, 2009 at 7:51 pm

    wow. that’s good to hear. i hope you raise this kid as strong as you. good luck! take care! God bless :)

  5. Kristin Says:
    April 7th, 2009 at 8:04 am

    you kick ass. I hope I am as confident as you when I a mom. Congrats on Baby!

  6. Christina Says:
    May 12th, 2009 at 11:25 am

    You made me cry, too. I’m a 21-year-old mother, and I wish I had your confidence. Your last paragraph is amazing. Thank you.

  7. Bianca Says:
    October 21st, 2010 at 6:17 pm

    You were not a slut!!!
    I was 18 when I got married, planned for a baby and had her at 19 and still got called a teen mom and got that stigma attached to me, but whatever we have what is most important in life so all those people can go to hell lol.

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