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Anon

October 9, 2006

Hi,
I know my story is totally different than all your guys. I was 19 and working full time doing anything and everything that a person who was pregnant should not be doing. The only difference is that I DID NOT KNOW that I was pregnant. Hard to believe but… honestly totally true. I didnt know I was pregnant until August 3 2004 I woke up on the Friday and had my period (I had my period my whole pregnancy ontime and regular) and I was crampy of course. took some tylenol cramps went away then by Monday the cramps were getting really bad again so took some more tylenol went to bed woke up at 3 that morning had a bath because the cramps were HORRIBLE didnt work tried to go back to bed wasnt happening I was scheduled to work lucky for me parent owned business told my dad ya I might be a little late wasnt feeling good anyways cramps were getting worse had know idea what was going on told my mom we need to go to the hospital right Now!!! Went to the hospital got there around 8 sat in Emerg for 2 hours the doctor comes is and says your pregnant and you might be in labour but you knew you were pregnant (DR. was an ASS!!) any was had an ultrasound yup pregnant and in labour OMG!!! I was crying and FREAKING out my mom and my one sister were with my they call my other sister she comes over my grandma and my aunt who was visiting comes to the hospital to see how I was feeling so they are all in the delivery room and 2 hours later I have a son 7lbs 10oz. this story is hard to believe I know but true. Anyways Reid is now 2 and healthy as a horse has been sick once his whole life and is very intelligent so I couldnt have asked for anything better, I am the luckiest person to have him, I thank god every day that he is happy and healthy. I am so thankful that his father who has been my boyfriend for 6yrs now is awesome and everyone is so supportive. Just wanted to post my story and I love reading all the other stories around although I “missed” being pregnant I wouldnt change the outcome for the world.

Thank you to everyone who writes in this site its wonderful..
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16 Responses to “Anon”

  1. Anonymous Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 7:51 am

    So, I’ve heard of this happening before but I’m not sure how it actually happens. Are you obese and didn’t gain any weight and that’s why you didn’t know? You never had a pregnant belly? I’m sorry, I’m just trying to understand.

  2. Keri Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 10:08 am

    I’m struggling to understand as well because how can a person miss the feeling of a baby moving inside, etc.???

  3. Anonymous Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 12:16 pm

    My sister did not know she was pregnant until she was 7 months along. She was 22 years old and had always had irregular periods, which continued during her pregnancy. She is average weight for her height but she is very tall (5’11) so she did not really show until late into the pregnancy. She had gained some weight but not enough to make her think twice about it, and she said when she felt movement she thought her stomach was upset which was not uncommon for her. I would have had a hard time believing how someone could not know until I went through that experience with her, and now I understand.

  4. Niki Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 12:32 pm

    I can actually shed some light on this. I am NOT the original poster, so therefore I am simply telling what happend to me. My story sounds implausible but here’s how it goes: Right before I turned 30, in March of 2003, I gotpregnant while on the Pill. I had been on the Pill since I was 18 with no complications, and even while pregnant I continued to get a period, and therefore did not know I was pregnant. It seems impossible, I know, especially after having another child I know how pregnancy takes over a woman’s body, but the baby had many birth defects that affected my level of amniotic fluid–basically I had none. Much of what distends a woman’s belly in those early months is fluid, and since I had none, I had a basically flat stomach. At about what I now know was 20 weeks gestation, my baby died. I felt some strange symptoms and went to the doctor, who never suspected a pregnancy but instead was going to send me for tests for a pituitary tumor, because I had had many issues with endometriosis and ovarian cysts in the past and she thought I had a hormonal imbalance caused by the tumor. I was telling my friend about it and she said that her mother had just commented on how pretty I was looking lately, and wondered if I could be pregnant. I took a test which came back positive, and the next day my husband and I went to see the doctor. By examination she thought I was 3 months pregnant. I said, That’s impossible, “I just got my period last Friday”. She then did an ultrasound and it showed that the baby was at the size of a 20 week-old fetus, but was dead. I had to have labor induced and deliver my baby. NJ law says that any fetus after 19 weeks requires a Certificate of Fetal Death to be filed, so I had to name the baby, and I also had to make some kind of burial arrangements. So my story is different from the original poster’s because she had a wonderful happy ending. I am so glad for her, truly.

  5. Anonymous Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 2:24 pm

    I am also confused. Could you feel the baby move when you were pregnant but you just thought it was something else? I am glad you’re both well and happy and that your little son was a wonderful surprise for you!

  6. Kelly Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 4:57 pm

    I know some women who know they are pregnant and still dont feel baby moving. One of the women I know had TWINS and didnt feel ANYTHING at all with them

  7. Niki Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 5:10 pm

    As for my situation, I did not feel my baby move because she COULDN’T move–with no amniotic fluid she was basically compressed by the uterine walls. Also, they estimate that she died at 20 weeks gestation, which is just about the point in my subsequent pregnancy when I began to feel the baby move. So, the first baby never really got to that stage.

  8. Anonymous Says:
    October 10th, 2006 at 5:47 pm

    My mother did not know she was pregnant with me until she was in labor and even then it was quite some time before she knew that what she was experiencing was labor. I know most people don’t understand how it could happen, but it does.

  9. Anonymous Says:
    October 12th, 2006 at 5:07 am

    I have one friend whose mother didn’t know she was pregnant with him until she was in labor(she continued to get periods and he was born very prematurely and wasn’t expected to survive). Another friend of mine gave birth just this year, and she also had continued her periods through pregnancy and didn’t find out until around 4 months that she was indeed pregnant. It’s so bizarre and rare, but definitely does happen!To the poster: thanks for sharing your amazing story! I’m so glad your son is healthy and you have lots of support. =)

  10. Anonymous Says:
    October 12th, 2006 at 2:16 pm

    I don’t doubt that it’s possible for a woman not to know depending on her size, where the placenta is positioned, etc. However, during the end of pregnancy, how is it possible not to feel the baby’s movement and kicks? I’m truly curious about this.

  11. Anonymous Says:
    October 13th, 2006 at 1:36 pm

    To all the women who have commmented thank you for your comments but actually I did not feel the baby kick because of the way he was in my stomach kind of under my ribs any movement I would have felt would have been passed off as a twitch or a gas pain so my doctor tells me, and lastly I was heavy before I had my son not obese and because I gained the weight gradually didnt think anything of it I had been going through a stressful time and my eating habits just supported my weight gain and I never really gain alot of weight maybe 10lbs.To Nicki I am so sorry for your loss and wish you all the best!

  12. karrie Says:
    October 14th, 2006 at 5:10 am

    Crazy! I cannot imagine how terrified you must have been.We were in labor at the same time though. My water broke the morning of August3, 2004 but my son was not born until the following day.

  13. Kirsty Says:
    October 15th, 2006 at 9:46 am

    I know not one but two women who didn’t realise they were pregnant. Neither were young scared teenagers in denial, they were both college educated women who were pretty clued up about their bodies but both were having serious health issues at the time. I believe they’d been told that they might gain weight because of the treatments they were on, so neither of them was thinking ‘pregnancy’ when they did put on a few pounds. One woman realised at about 7 months when she noticed how hard her belly had become, the other didn’t know until 2 weeks before she went into labour! She’d been told in the past that she was probably infertile because of her health problems so she really wasn’t expecting to be pregnant. So it really does happen and woman aren’t being stupid if they don’t know. Some women just don’t get a lot of symptoms. Heck, I thought I had flu for the first three weeks of my pregnancy, it was only when it didn’t go away that I twigged.

  14. Moley Says:
    October 18th, 2006 at 2:37 am

    I also got pregnant while on the pill, and had no symptoms of any sort, I finally started getting morning sickness at over 3 months and took a test. I can easily see how someone that hasn’t been pregnant before doesn’t recognize the symptoms, espefcially if you’re not waiting to feel a baby move, you just figure it’s gas ;)

  15. Sarah Says:
    October 22nd, 2006 at 6:56 pm

    This is a wonderful thing for me to read… I too experienced something like this. I became pregnant while on the pill, and only found out I was pregnant due to a job-related physical and urinalysis. I had this physical in early Nov. I was unmarried (though in a serious relationship with my now-husband) and not sure if I wanted children at all, if ever. We figured I had just become pregnant, due to the fact that I had gotten my spotty and irregular periods. I made a doctor appointment that was scheduled for 12 weeks….early Feb. We decided not to tell our family and friends as we ourselves were adjusting to the idea of having a baby.. after all, we had time, right? Fast forward to January 28th. We had seen all of our extended family and friends through the holiday season, had gone to an extravagant New Years Eve bash, me in a size six gown, and still hadn’t told anyone our news. I woke up in the middle of the night with terrible period-like cramping and spotting. I thought I was having a miscarriage, so I immediately woke him up, saying something was wrong, we needed to go to the hospital, now. Once checked in to the ER, cramping still in full force, I told the nurse I was newly pregnant and had my first doctor’s appointment that very next week. They established the baby’s heartbeat and re-assured me that I had not miscarried. Because of my spotty periods, they were unsure of how far along I was exactly. I had an internal examination and at that time, they determined I was approximately 20 weeks along. 20 weeks! We were floored! They then dropped the bomb….. my water had broken, I was six centimeters dialated, and they were sending me to another hospital in the city that was better equipped to take care of a baby THAT premature. The nurse began to prepare us for the possibility that our baby wouldn’t make it. She told us babies that small don’t usually survive. They checked me again, and I was 8 centimeters dialated. I was progressing too quickly to be transferred to another hospital, so I was moved to a very LARGE room on the maternity ward, and soon an entire team of specialists and equipment were brought in from the other hospital. They had come to us. I then had my first, and only ultrasound of that pregnancy, a portable ultrasound used to make sure there was only one fetus to deliver. The picture was terrible, but the doctor announced “I think we have a full-term baby here” We were all shocked, and within minutes, I was feeling the undeniable urge to push. It took only 3 pushes, and our beautiful, healthy, baby boy was born. He was 7 lbs. 9 0z and 21 inches long. He has had every test imaginable and is in perfect health. He is now approaching 4 years old and is right on par with all of his developmental milestones. People ask all the time… “how could you not know???” I asked myself that. Initially, I became very depressed because of all of the uncertainty of whether he would be a healthy, happy child. I felt guilty that I hadn’t known the whole time, and I questioned my ability to be a good mother. I felt disconnected, at first, from this child that I had NOT expected so soon, (I had hardly begun to accept the fact I was pregnant.) My family and friends were all really supportive, I couldn’t have asked for a better response. It was REALLY hard to call our parents and tell them… Surprise! We had a baby on Tuesday! The Nurses that took care of me in the hospital were wonderful, non-judgemental, and comforting. They told us that this kind of thing happens alot more than one would think. I now believe stories like mine, and I sympathize with the mother. It is not an easy thing to go through, having a baby unexpectedly and dealing with the flood of emotions and skepticism that follow. I believe all babies are miracles, no matter how they come into the world. I still wish I could have experienced being pregnant with my son. It just wasn’t meant to happen that way…….You telling your story gives me more and more confidence to be proud of the way my child came into the world. It makes me focus less on defending the fact that I honestly did not know that I was 9 months pregnant. I wish you and your son all of the best!** Where there is great love, miracles are born**

  16. jessica Says:
    January 21st, 2007 at 5:38 pm

    I guess everyones pregnancy is different. I totally knew I was pregnant but I don’t doubt the ladies on this site

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