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Amanda

June 25, 2009

hello there. my name is amanda,i’m 23 years old. i thought i would send a quick note to go with the photos! my daughter is now 15 months old, she weighed 10 pds 9 oz ( healthy baby) i gained 70pds with her, i went up to 212 pds. i didnt have 1 strech mark till the last month of my pregnancy! i had a c-section after 27 hours of labour! so now after all the stretch marks, weight gain, and c-section, i now have skin the feels empty ( if that makes any sence) and it droops over top of my cesarian and i have a pooch :( i hate it.. so here’s some photos of before pregnancy, 12 weeks after haing my daughter to right to the date of today! so roughly 15 months after having amilya! i tried sending the pics other ways but my computer has a block on it for some reason! do wut u like with my pictures!

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19 Responses to “Amanda”

  1. Kris Says:
    June 27th, 2009 at 10:33 am

    Hey hunnie, i just wanted to let you know that you are very beautiful inside and out, i am glad you posted your pictures here.

  2. amanda Says:
    June 27th, 2009 at 8:12 pm

    THANK U KRIS! i’m still in pain just looken at those photos, i do a ton of martial arts and cardio kickoxing but yet.. nothin is working, i want a tummy tuck soo bad but i’m only 24 and i want more children! i’m scared to ever be with another man again! cuz in todays society everyone is so fixed on image and well pretty much the fake world we call celeberties.. i once did have gorgious skin and body now it’s all gone!! AND ITS WORTH EVERY LAST STRETCHMARK! i got such a perect gift after all my perfect child of mine amilya.

  3. Heather Says:
    June 28th, 2009 at 8:00 am

    I had a big baby, too. I have 3 children … the smallest was 9 lb 3 oz and the biggest was 10 lb 14 oz and I carried him all out front. I went over 200 pounds, but stopped weighing myself the last month because at one point my doctor’s nurse thought the scale was broken! My stomach was beautiful before my pregnancies, and I have debated plastic surgery for years, but haven’t done it yet. After I had the baby, my stomach looked like I had quadruplets and the muscle was split. But over the years it actually got better. The skin didn’t heal completely, but it did shrink back a lot. I am proud of my body, stretch marks and all. I have just focused on losing weight and defining my muscles. Now when I look in the mirror, I can look past the skin problems to see the body that I have sculpted over the years (I highly recommend pilates).

    You are beautiful! Any man who doesn’t see that isn’t worthy of being in your life or more importantly, your daughter’s!! There are men who realize the blessing of a stretch mark. My husband is one of them, so I know this statement is true. Just focus on enjoying your beautiful daughter, and the rest will be all good. ;-)

  4. amanda Says:
    June 30th, 2009 at 7:21 am

    thank u so much heather! u put it to true meanings,. i really enjoy having this sight more then anything! cuz there was times i never left the house cuz i felt like everyone was staring at me cuz ,, i had a droppy belly, and i was reall round in the front , i have huge brest too, now i was a b36 now i’m a 38 DD and i never breast fed! i had never had the oppertunity to, i had complications.. thanks again!

  5. Becky Says:
    July 1st, 2009 at 1:51 pm

    Hello Amanda! I just wanted to say that you are beautiful and I am so happy you shared your pictures with us! I have not got up the courage to share mine yet. I gained 78lbs during my pregnancy and had a c-section, i still have about 60lbs of my pregnancy weight, and I have that pooch that you are talking about and tons of stretch marks, i really dislike all of that as well. Love my baby boy so much and planning to try for another one, hopefully after the next one i will get ambitious and try to lose the weight. some days i can embrace myself for who i am now, but other days i dwell on who i used to be and what my body used to look like. i yearn for my old body back, but i know it will never be the same. i know i could look better than i do now, but i try to accept myself for who i am.

  6. amanda Says:
    July 2nd, 2009 at 2:37 pm

    i guarantee ur such a beautiful woman!!!! please post ur pictures on here, and thank u so much for the compliments

  7. Krystal Says:
    July 3rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm

    I don’t usually comment on any entries but I just have to comment yours. I know exactly how you feel! I gave birth to a 10lb 6oz baby by C Section after 32 hours of labor so I know how that makes you feel. I swear I will NEVER have another kid again because Im so scared to go through birth and screwing my body up even more. I know that sounds sad, but it’s the truth. If I were to get pregnant again I think I would be devastated. Anyhow, I gained 60 something lbs during my pregnancy and weighed 196 the day before I gave birth. I am now 10 months pp and weigh 155lbs but I still struggle daily. I can’t even look at my pre pregnancy body pictures without getting angry or crying… :o( I wish we didn’t have to feel the way we do. I know that one day we will both be 70 years old and really regret not liking our body’s how they are now even!! Anyhow Im here if you wanna talk. Here is a link to my post at 4 months pp.

    http://theshapeofamother.com/blog/1st-baby-4-months-ago-and-my-body-is-ruined-anonymous/

    Kthompk924@yahoo.com

  8. amanda Says:
    July 6th, 2009 at 10:17 pm

    , wow u just about summed that one up!! i feel exactly the way u do with everything! i’m very bad for looking over and over again at my old post pardome photos, i get real mad, and frusterated ! cuz yes i can lose the weight! but it’s the stretched out skin, and the stupid c-section marks!, like i havent been with a man in 9 months cuz, he decided to have an affair on me while i was prego , he was turned off of my pregnant body!!! so now this just makes it even harder, cuz a man that had given my life to for 9 years of my life, and might i add that i just turned 24, didnt find me attractive how could any other man!! it hurts alot!

  9. Laura Says:
    July 7th, 2009 at 3:57 am

    Hi! Before my first child I was thin, and had a 23 inch waist & it was very defined. Now my stomach looks much like yours – well almost exactly & I didn’t have a c-section. My boobs got huge as well, and because of their size they are not perky like they once were either – I now wear a DD before I was a small C. Don’t worry about men not finding you attractive – oh believe me they do… There are good ones out there who are not superficial & can recognize beauty for what it truly is. :-)

  10. madelain Says:
    July 8th, 2009 at 2:33 am

    hey gals, I really feel crazy about this! I look the same.
    I also love dmy body.
    However I don’t think that wanting to have a flat stomack and having a lean body is such a bad thing! everyone says we must accept our new selves, and yes to a degree i agree with that. I however have no problem (and eventually i AM going to do this) with having a tummy tuck and breast lifts and implant after iv’e decided that i’ve had enough children. I don’t think that it is shallow to want to make youself happy again.

    There is only so much we can do to look good after having kids. But when the skin hangs after loosing the weight and the boobs are empty whoopy cusions, there’s nothing wrong with surgery for the last part. not all of us are genetically blessed like hidie klumb after three babies and can still walk the runway!

    thanks for all the stories! I feel worse after reading some of them, but glad to know i’m not the only one out there that suffers!

    xoxox

  11. amanda Says:
    July 9th, 2009 at 5:52 pm

    NO THANK ALL OF U… UR ALL AMAZING! <3

  12. rose Says:
    July 11th, 2009 at 2:48 pm

    OMG I have the exact same lift and hang!!! Thanks for sharing.

  13. Rachael Says:
    July 11th, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    WOW… your pictures could be of my stomach… I have 2 little boys, my youngest is 11 months old, and I have stretch marks and a hang over pooch exactly identical to yours… I know exactly how you feel!

  14. Jennifer Says:
    July 15th, 2009 at 12:25 pm

    Wow your belly looks just like mine!! I was so proud of my before picture!! My son was about the same weight of your daughter.

  15. Beth Says:
    July 15th, 2009 at 7:33 pm

    All I can say is thank God for you ladies. Can’t express enough how similar I feel. I have friends with apparently amazing genes who can fit into their well, jeans 1 month pp. Here I am 14 pp and want to cry everytime I look in the mirror. After a shower I just try not to look. It’s like someone has my body, but I feel skinny on the inside. I’m just now starting to make an effort to lose this weight. 50 more to go. If I ever do get down to 140 again, I’m going to buy myself a whole new wardrobe!

  16. amanda Says:
    July 19th, 2009 at 2:02 pm

    hey beth… i feel ya i’m the same way!! i wanna barf in my mouth when i see myself in te mirror. and the droopys skin everywhere. to say nothin of the pot holes in the back of my legs.. lol not cottage cheeese. lol. it’s so strange how deformed my body has come, like i HATE having big breast, and i HATE being the way i am. but the only thing i can do is work on it and take one step at a time. day by day. i lost 23 pounds, but for some reason i guess only by stress i’ve been slowly gaining my weight back…, idk. it drives me insaine. anyways, we’re all human beings and were all created differently, every shape form. i’ve learned that this is me, and this has happened, either except it and do wut u needs to be done to try and change it ( the weight) or dont. either way, its a done deal. and i know all us mothers sit there and say, look at what we got out of it!! a beautiful lil baby.., but yet we sit here day in and day out. depressed, on how we look and feel., and it just sucks, but so as life. we need to except it for wut it is. and if a man dun like it.. then tell em to BEAT IT… litterally!! :)

  17. 22 mommy to 3 Says:
    July 27th, 2009 at 12:16 pm

    I just want to say that you look great Amanda and I totally feel you. I had my 3rd little one 9 months ago and still weigh around 210 and am only 5 foot tall. I was overweight when I had my first only 3.5 years ago, but pregnancy changes a body no matter what the weight. All of mine were sections as well- but I have never labored. I just want to encourage all you mommies who are nervous about having another one only because you don’t want to go through labor/birth/section again. You can do it. Do your research on Labor, birth, coping measures, VBACs and cesareans. There’s lots of valuble information out there that not many doctors will give you. Also, not all men are looking for you to have a ‘perfect’ body. My hubby is about 6’2″ and weighs about 150 lbs and loves me just the way I am! Best wishes to you all!

  18. amanda Says:
    July 27th, 2009 at 6:12 pm

    thanks mommy to be

  19. clairestreet Says:
    November 20th, 2009 at 8:08 am

    i felt i had to comment on here, as i have never seen any pictures of anyone who went through same kind of birth as me. before pregnancy, i was slim with curves, i wasnt ever skinny but was confident with my body and happy to wear a bikini on holiday! and then i got pregnant with my first child, and i was a balloon. he stretched my skin so much the stretch marks were literally bleeding, i could walk more than a few steps at the end without being in pain! anyway, after having my labour induced when i was over my due date by 12 days and had many other medical complications, i struggled and struggled to bring him into the world for three days! on the fourth day, i pushed for 4 hours and he was totally stuck so was rushed to theatre for forceps (which failed) and then a c section. anyway, my ten pound baby boy was born! the first time i saw my stomach after the birth, i cried. i felt so devestated it stopped me even bonding with my son at first. i have tried ever since to lose the weight, and though it will go from other places my stomach still hangs down all wrinkled and numb. i will never wear a bikini again thats for sure! when my son was 10 months old, his father left us for another woamn who has since had a baby by him (her second child) and before i saw pictures of her i was convinced it was because of my body. well she is enormous so it obviously wasnt! anyway, have a lovely partner now and we are expecting a baby in april. but my bump isnt a normal shape this time, the top looks like a bump but the bottem, saggy area just seems to be sagging even more so my bumo looks so strange! i am petrified what i will look like after the next c section and would love any tips on how to tone up a stomach after c sections and big babies if anyone has any!! xxx

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