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7 months pp. A crazy new life. (Anonymous)

January 18, 2009

I was surprised to find that my story was a lot more common than I thought. I first found out I was pregnant as a senior in high school. My boyfriend (who is now my husband) reacted differently than most young men would have in his situation. He told me that whatever I chose to do, he would support. The though of abortion crossed my mind for a brief moment but I knew that I was in love with the baby that was already growing in me. As the months went by I got bigger and bigger. No thanks to my steady diet of anything greasy. =)I saw the pregancy as the only time in my life when i could indulge. Because I never did before. Pre pregnancy i weighed 125 pounds 5’7″. I fit nicely into a size two and would freak out if my weight approached the dreaded 130. At the end of my pregnancy i weighed 175 pounds. I used coco butter religiously but I still got stretch marks all over my sides, underneath the belly button, and thighs. Following the birth of my son I fell into post partum depression. At the time I did not know that I was actually depressed. I felt guilty for my thoughts and actions and the only person who experienced my bad attitude was my husband. I would snap on him because I was so unhappy with the way I looked. It was hard to accept that my body was “ruined” ( or so I thought). I would blame him for getting me pregnant and blame him for the way I looked. I found this website browsing the web one night depressed and feeling hopeless about the state of my body. I couldnt believe that the stretchmarks that I got would stay on me forever, in fact I refused to believe it. I spent countless hours looking for the “miracle creams” and hundreds of dollars. I looked into plastic surgery and laser treatemts. Every time that I would feel sad and hopeless my husband would tell me that I was beautiful and that he was so lucky to be with me. Around the 4th month after having my baby my depressing got out of control. I refused to stay home alone with the baby and I would often hand him off to whoever was around so that I could “live my own life” I am now 7 months post partum and I have a new outlook on life. I went back to work which made a huge difference. Talking about how I felt with my mom and close friends helped me get my problems and anger out. I now weight 140 pounds and have about 10 more to drop. Its definatelly been a wild ride. I love my son more than anything. But being a teen mom is hard. I missed out on my high school graduation and prom. Those precious moments that I have with him however cannot be described. I couldnt have done all that I have without the love and support from my husband, my parents and my friends. I hope that my post will be able to give hope to someone. Anything is possible in life. I feel like this whole experience has completely changed my life around and for the better. I now have a purpose in life and that is my beautiful son and amazing husband. <3



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10 Responses to “7 months pp. A crazy new life. (Anonymous)”

  1. Jackie Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 9:09 am

    your body looks like mine. :) i have stretch marks on my sides and thighs too. the cocoa butter didn’t seem to help. hehe. you’re beautiful!

  2. Berni Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 10:34 am

    Hi, You look REALLY good. I am envious of you. I understand where your coming from, I’m 19 (had my son at 18). You look so slim! I’m about the same height as you and weigh less then you do, but you look smaller then me! All the best for the future :)

  3. Angele Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 11:44 am

    Omg.. Your body is rocking!! Seriously hun! Good for you!! I would pay to look like you!! I will be getting a tummy tuck and I would LOVE to have my results look like you now!
    Be proud! :)

  4. Megan Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 1:24 pm

    Your belly is so beautiful… you look fantastic. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Your stretch marks will fade – I have the same kind on my hips (and I haven’t even been pregnant before!) Mine came when I gained a lot of weight, and now that I’m coming back down to my normal weight, they’re fading. I think your husband is right, you’re beautiful.

  5. Allison Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    Oh honey. You look amazing! I would kill for a cute little tummy like that, and I haven’t even had kids yet. Try and stay positive. I can tell from your posting that you are smart and capable. You are beautiful and a great mother. Good luck.

  6. Jill Says:
    January 18th, 2009 at 5:14 pm

    sounds a lot like how I’ve felt. you look incredible though!! the best thing about our new bodies is that we have more curves..who wants to be with a rail? you look beautiful!

  7. Samantha Says:
    January 19th, 2009 at 8:44 am

    I must say you look just like me!..I got stretch marks in the same places…it is not so bad..could be way worse.

  8. mrs. petunia Says:
    January 21st, 2009 at 8:25 pm

    Thank you! Your honesty about your depression and the difficulties of being a teen mother was very brave and, I’m sure, very helpful to many of us reading these posts. BTW, really truly and sincerely, you look quite beautiful.

  9. rose Says:
    February 2nd, 2009 at 11:59 pm

    omg im so jealous… you dont look like youve carried a child at all. you look great!

  10. Keegan Says:
    June 28th, 2010 at 10:52 pm

    your stretch marks on the sides are identical to mine, but I haven’t had any children! lol I am now 22 weeks none yet but I’m preparing for them…

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