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5 months PP and doing ok (Amy)

March 4, 2010

Age: 21
Number of Pregnancies: 1
Number of Children: 1
PP: 5 months

Hi my name is Amy and I am 21 years old. Here’s my story. I have been married to my husband for about a year and a half now and we are very happy together. He shops and does the cooking, he is just great! We decided to try for a baby straight after getting married and fell pregnant after a few months of trying. I started my pregnancy at 43kgs (about 95 lbs) and ended up putting on 11kgs (24 lbs). I had a very easy pregnancy with no morning sickness or anything. After only 5 hours of labor, I gave birth to my beautiful son naturally using only the gas for pain relief. By the time I got to the hospital I was too far gone for anything else! He weighed 6 lbs. 12 oz. I only got a couple of grazes, no tears and only a couple of small stretch marks around my belly button, but lots on my boobs. So overall I was really lucky. I lost my pregnancy weight in a couple of months. I breastfed only for 5 weeks but I think that helped my stomach go down quite significantly in the beginning.

I exercised a lot before I fell pregnant and all the way through my pregnancy everyday. 5 weeks after giving birth I started exercising again, but I must say now that I am working on a casual basis I haven’t been doing much at all. I also have found that my knees have gotten very weak so it has made it quite hard to get into shape. I have always had a very healthy diet and ate just the same through my pregnancy. I have struggled with body issues forever but never so much as I am now. I feel so unattractive. My boobs are so small and saggy I hate my husband seeing them. I know he loves me but I also know that we need to be attracted to one another to have a good relationship and I just don’t see how he could find me attractive now.

I have already had a consultation for a breast lift and augmentation but I will be waiting until I have another baby first. I am so scared of what I will look like after another baby but I don’t want to be selfish and not have any more just because I am worried about my body. Having a baby has been the most wonderful experience of my life. My hubby really wants another one too and I would hate to disappoint him.

The pics are of me at 36 wks and me 4 months pp. I don’t have any more recent but I look about the same!

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16 Responses to “5 months PP and doing ok (Amy)”

  1. Hannah Says:
    March 4th, 2010 at 2:56 pm

    hey! we look about the same!
    hope everything is going good for you girl.

  2. Shanyn Says:
    March 4th, 2010 at 4:25 pm

    What a lovely maternity photo of you! I love pregnant bellies…

    You’re beautiful and remember to trust the man you married…don’t make the “attraction” decision for him. I did that to my husband and it was really hard on our marriage…I’ve learned to just trust that he loves me no matter my size, shape or stretch mark status. :)

    And remember to be sweet to yourself!

  3. kat Says:
    March 4th, 2010 at 4:49 pm

    you look fabulous!

  4. Judith Says:
    March 4th, 2010 at 6:58 pm

    I think your body is lovely – your boobs only look saggy and small to you because they are softer than the pre-mum you, but you are a real woman with real breasts – don’t spoil them with surgery. They and you, are beautiful. Learn to love your body.

  5. Tabi Says:
    March 4th, 2010 at 7:55 pm

    I love the pregnant picture, it’s really beautiful! You look sexy :)

  6. terri c Says:
    March 5th, 2010 at 1:21 am

    I think you look fabulous and I wish for you that you can trust your husband’s attraction to you. Hang in there!

  7. Sarah Says:
    March 5th, 2010 at 3:13 am

    You are beautiful and have such a perfect body! You really don’t need a breast augmentation, but if you choose to do that, I hope you have a safe and quick recovery.

  8. Mike Says:
    March 6th, 2010 at 11:34 am

    Actually you have very nice proportions. Your breasts don’t look very saggy at all. They are just right for your figure. Most normal men like well proportioned woman. Woman who get plasic surgey look like plastic dolls and are not very attractive to the eye. They lose the natural shape of a woman’s body.

  9. tanya Says:
    March 6th, 2010 at 12:46 pm

    hey girl you look beautiful.. like i did at 5 months postpartum.. i thought i looked bad too at that time. give yourself another 5 months.. your body will continue to tighten up even your breasts. mine did. and i thought there was no hope :)

  10. Adrian Says:
    March 8th, 2010 at 11:01 am

    Please don’t take this the wrong way – and I know how easy it is to get things out of proportion – but I couldn’t help feeling a bit cross to read your post. It must have made exasperating reading for all the ladies that would be thrilled to have a figure as slim and as toned-looking as yours! My first reaction was that you must have posted some photos of yourself BEFORE pregnancy for comparison! Apeaking as a guy, I implore you to not assume that your husband feels the same as you. It would be a very sad reflection on men if he was thinking: “Her breasts are a bit smaller, so I find her less attractive.” I’m 99.9% certain that he considers himself extremely lucky to have a wife with such a great figure! Because guys like breasts, there’s an assumption that most guys like them to be a large as possible – which is simply NOT TRUE. I was curious myself and I’ve looked at forum threads elsewhere that confirm that all sizes are popular. If I was your husband, I’d consider their size and shape perfect and would hate the idea of you having needless surgery; in fact it would upset me immensely. And although I wouldn’t care if they were small, I’d say that yours could better be described as ‘medium’. So please try and view yourself differently by seeing what others are seeing – because you are fortunate to look so good.

  11. chelsea Says:
    March 9th, 2010 at 4:22 am

    I have always been a slim women and even after my daughter was born I bounced right back into my skinny jeans which made me feel fortunate, but same as you I was not happy with my breasts. I was an “a” cup befor I got pregnant and went to a “c” cup during pregnancy. After breast feeding they just fell and became hollow. I made a terrible mistake of getting breast augmentation. I only went as large as they were during my pregnancy and I regret it. My doctor did a great job and they really do look natural under my clothes but their hard and at times like playing on the floor with my daughter can hurt. I wish I had loved myself enough at that time to understand how truly beautiful I was. You look amazing and I’m sure your husband would agree. There are a lot of women who haven’t had children that would love to have your body. Please reconsider surgery and stay with your natural beauty.. best wishes to you and your family.

  12. elvira Says:
    March 9th, 2010 at 6:39 am

    this where i thank you guys for feedback indeed!
    adrian nailed it – you look great and i am sure you partner thinks so too
    and i love it that he pointed out to have faith in your husband’s attraction to you and your natural shape
    its fantastic for only 5 mnths pp – think we need to learn to love our bodies and find them attractive and then your partner will too.
    great work this site is a total eye opener for all of us i am sure.
    lets enjoy our bodies – all of us!

  13. Amy Says:
    March 9th, 2010 at 6:48 pm

    My post came on this site a week ago and I want to thank everyone for their comments. It has made me realise that I had such a warped image of myself. I must admit some of the comments were hard to read but they have all helped me immensely. For the first time ever I love my body. This site has been a real blessing for me. I now do not ever want to get implants and my husband is very happy with my decision. He has seen this post and the comments and he is very grateful to everyone for finally helping me to see what he sees. We are currently trying for baby number 2 and we can’t wait to expand our beautiful family and spend the rest of lives together…happy.

  14. camille Says:
    March 11th, 2010 at 9:10 pm

    You look so good. Please don’t get a boob job. It is so invasive and painful sounding. I think you look really great, if you are that worried about your boobs try doing pec excersizes to build the muscles underneath…..

  15. emma Says:
    March 16th, 2010 at 3:42 am

    wow! you look amazing! i wish my body would look like yours after having a baby:) i pray that you wont need the surgery cos u certainley dont my love your beautiful the way u are!

  16. Adrian Says:
    March 16th, 2010 at 7:37 am

    Amy – I’m so glad you posted back with such great news. It’s inspirational to see this site having such a positive effect!

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