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25 And I Hate My Body (Anonymous)

October 28, 2013

I have been feeling so depressed. I’m 25 and I hate my body. I’ve had one child. She just turned 4. I just thought after 4 years I would look better and I don’t. I have exercised and watched what I eat and I’m down to 139 lbs but I don’t look it. All of the weight was lost everywhere BUT my midsection. It makes me feel deformed or something! And the awful stretch marks just make it even worse. My husband tells me that I shouldn’t wear a bikini because other people may make fun of me (but he says he doesn’t mind me in a bikini). That makes me feel even worse and obviously he does mind or he wouldn’t say that. Am I the only woman with such an out of proportion body?

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18 Responses to “25 And I Hate My Body (Anonymous)”

  1. Anysia Says:
    October 28th, 2013 at 11:00 am

    You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself, you have fantastic breasts and a wonderful hourglass shape! However, if you’re frustrated, you might try weight lifting. It will work wonders to boost your metabolism, and improve your confidence. I started lifting weights several months ago to burn off the last of my post-pregnancy tummy fat and have been very pleased with the results. If you aren’t happy with your body you can always change it, you’ve already done a lot of the work! I’m three and a half years out from my pregnancy and about your age, believe me, the Bikini intimidates most of us.

  2. Sara Says:
    October 28th, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Out of proportion? Are you joking? Don’t you see the beautiful hourglass shape you have? I know so many women who would love to have the gorgeous shape you have. I have the same one. I have a little belly. Guess what? I’m hot. That’s right. I am sexy and so are you! Clothes that are the right size will look good on you because you have such a great shape to begin with. You have great breasts too. Your husband is being rude. Wear the damn bikini anyway. If he’s embarassed then that’s his problem. Not yours. You need to explain to him that you need support from him, not thinly veiled insults. Keep working out for the energy and the heart health you get out of it but don’t worry about the rest. You’re hot, honey! I showed my husband your pics and he said the same thing!

  3. Lee Says:
    October 28th, 2013 at 9:07 pm

    To me this is easy. Your breasts are amazing! That’s all most men care about anyway I promise you. I’m 28 and my body was ruined after my kids. My breasts are a mess!! I had perfect perky boobies and now..saggy stretched mark things. You look good, especially your chest! Be proud of those and give yourself a break. :)

  4. bywalec1 Says:
    October 29th, 2013 at 3:49 am

    Your body are WONDERFUL! :) You are beautyfull, real young woman!

  5. Molly Says:
    October 29th, 2013 at 9:09 am

    You don’t look out of proportion at all to me – you look voluptuous, with curves I’d LOVE to have! After my daughter was born I also started carrying more weight in my mid-section, but unlike you I don’t have lovely breasts and hips to balance it out. I honestly think you look beautiful, and that you should wear anything you want to the beach. If you’re comfortable in a bikini, then rock one! Your confidence will make you sexy. And if you’re not comfortable in a bikini, there are some gorgeous 1-pieces out there :)

  6. MHD Says:
    October 29th, 2013 at 6:56 pm

    Oh my goodness, you are NOT out of proportion! You have curves in all the right places! My tummy and hips/bum look very similar to yours. I started doing yoga and I have gained tone and definition and it’s helped a lot. I dunno if I look so much better though, as I FEEL a lot better about my body. And that’s what really matters. If you feel comfortable enough to wear a bikini, then do it! If you don’t, that’s perfectly ok too. There are lots of pretty, sexy one-pieces and tankinis out there too. Anyway, I think you look beautiful and you should be proud to show off your body.

  7. Stacy Says:
    October 30th, 2013 at 12:49 am

    You are so damn beautiful it is just too much for me to even respond to your words in your post. I just do not for the life of me see what you see.

  8. Paul Says:
    October 30th, 2013 at 8:20 am

    I am very sorry to hear that your husband is not supportive of you. As a man, please understand that you are beautiful and your body is extremely attractive. Your curves are that of a woman, and any man that fixates on perceived imperfections is entirely missing the boat.
    My wife has given birth to our 2 beautiful children and while that experience has changed some aspects of her physicality, those changes make her more attractive to me.
    I realize men and women are different and that your self-esteem is low (the lack of support from your husband, no doubt contributing to that), I want you to know that I, along with the majority of real men, find your body to be beautiful. I know this may sound somewhat inappropriate coming from a man, but your breasts are perfection, and the rest of your curves are sexy. Never be ashamed. Perhaps society’s “ideals” have blurred the lines, but you are a woman. Hold your head proud, and if your man can’t see that – it’s his loss.

  9. K Says:
    October 30th, 2013 at 9:46 pm

    You have awesome boobs! Know that. Sorry you’re going through this. If it helps, I am going through the same thing. 33 Yrs old with 1 child, 3 years old, I am the same weight as you, I am 5 feet 1 inch, my stomach is disgusting to me. I cry several times a day, when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Mostly I try to avoid the mirror. I used to have a nice body, it’s ruined, I hate it. It is so depressing. Worst thing is, I eat healthy. :-( Hang in there

  10. Nikita Says:
    November 1st, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    Hi. Your belly looks like mine. It was not until I had my fourth child this year that a physical therapist told me about how our abs split when we are growing babies. The abs do not grow back together sometimes without help. This condition is called diastasis recti. She gave me a list of exercises to do everyday and I see improvement already. Research it and see if it applies to you. Other than that, we all take different times to recover from pregnancy and delivery. When I am on a weight loss journey, I lose weight in my legs first and belly last! It does not matter how many crunches I did. So I am accepting that and challenging myself to staying committed to loosing weight in a healthy way. My encouragement to you as a fellow Mom fighting every day to overcome where I think I should be and where I actually is that: look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful. You may not believe it but say it anyway. You define your own beauty. It took me some time to believe myself, but now that I do there is no turning back! So even though I was a trim 179 lbs (after losing almost 30 lbs) before my last pregnancy and I am 205 lbs, I still consider beautiful as I am right now! Please find a support group to help you with your healthy weight loss journey. Sometimes it helps to be accountable to someone who knows where you are and where you want to be. Be of good cheer Mommy. It will come. May GOD bless you. Nikita

  11. Anonymous Says:
    November 6th, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    You are truly beautiful! Focus on being healthy and happiness with your body will follow.

  12. Lisa Says:
    November 7th, 2013 at 6:15 pm

    You look great. I’m 24 and just had my first daughter. I would love to look like you!

  13. Krystal Says:
    November 9th, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    I think you look beautiful. Your boobs are so perky and your stomach is well-defined! You should be proud of how you look. I would be!

  14. Justine Says:
    November 12th, 2013 at 6:54 am

    I’m 23 and identify as bisexual. I think you are very attractive. you have a beautiful waist and gorgeous breasts. The fact that you are a mother makes you more attractive. Wear the bikini and take a sarong in case. Enjoy the fresh air, enjoy your baby and don’t focus so much on what you look like. I haven’t had a child and my body looks quite similar to yours.

  15. Chuck Says:
    November 15th, 2013 at 1:36 pm

    First I want to say how beautiful and sexy you look. As to what your husband said, I can’t say your wrong bit will say that sometimes men are trying to help and instead they manage to swollow their own foot. ;-) . It’s possible that he has no problem with you in a bikini and even likes what he sees but knows that there are those out there that are jerks and is trying to protect you from them, since he knows you are bothered by the way your tummy looks. I truly hope this helps. I would feel truly homered to have a wife that looks like you.

  16. rachel Says:
    November 21st, 2013 at 2:55 am

    Youll be ok. Exercice. You just need to tone

  17. Erin Says:
    January 3rd, 2014 at 10:13 pm

    Oh my god seriously?! You body is like the ideal pin up! Your husband should be begging to see you in a bikini. Honestly, I’m body jealous!

    -mom of twins

  18. Vera Findlay Says:
    March 17th, 2014 at 4:35 pm

    Dear anonymous, you look fabulous,stop watching tv and reading garbage mags that affect your self esteem ladies im the mum of 3 daughters 39, 35,31.and my experience is that you have body image problems (my eldest had it really badly starting as a teenager regardless of upbringing), it means that you look in the mirror look like M.Munro BUT SEE frankenstine, take a look at any man you know he can look like frankenstine but SEES Cary Grant(OR George Clooney), you are all beautiful, just wear the bikini, if you want to, stop beating yourselves and love yourselves more, it does take work as we are brought up to feel second rate , fight it , its the way women are and have been controlled forever, end the control.

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