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2 Children 13 months apart (Desiree)

January 15, 2010

Age: 20
2 pregnancies, 2 C- sections
Cesarean birth
14 month old daughter
17 day old son

I had my first child, a girl on 10- 17- 2008. It was a long labor, and after pushing for 2 hours and high blood pressure, with a fever of 103 they took me into the OR for an emergency C section. Where I lost more then half my bodies volumn in blood. My Dr said I was lucky, and she had no idea why that happened. After I noticed what that C section did to my body. And it hurt to look in the mirror.. but I also gained 50 lbs with that pregnancy. Stretch marks everywhere, and now an ugly scar, and saggy belly pouch. 160 lbs, I would give anything to be 115 lbs again, well thats how I felt then.

Over the next couple months I came to terms with my new body, and I was fine walking around my house shirtless. (I was breastfeeding)
But getting pregnant just 4 months post partum really killed me. I didnt lose much weight. And I came into the next pregnancy at 157 lbs. I gaiend 20 lbs with my son, born 11-29-09.

Now at 17 days post partum, I notice my belly pouch is a little bigger then it once was. I have no new stretch marks, but still have the old. I really hate my body. It makes me a little sad. But Im ok with it. I have two beautiful children who I would gladly give anything for, even my once beautiful body. But I have lost all of the weight I gained with my son. I still ahve over 40 lbs to lose, and Im kind of terrified I will never see myself as beautiful again.

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7 Responses to “2 Children 13 months apart (Desiree)”

  1. Mary Says:
    January 15th, 2010 at 11:41 am

    I felt just like you after my second (gained 70 with the first and 40 with the second). It takes more time and more work, but your body can get back. I cant believe your 17 days pp, I still looked way pregnant at a month pp! You can do it mama, you are beautiful!

  2. shannon Says:
    January 15th, 2010 at 4:31 pm

    I promise you that my stomach looked EXACTLY like that right after I had my second cesarean (I have also had two)…I am noe 9 months pp and I look soo much better. I still have the “apron” but now it is more like a ledge rather than an overhang! You can see a picture of me at 2.5 months pp (I have to do another update) under child loss “2.5 months pp, 2nd cesarean in 2.5 years”. It will get better. At 6 months pp I got down to 135 (I am 5’2″)…I am 9 months pp and stuck there. I have been doing Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred so that should help! It is a GREAT workout and only 20 minutes! It will get better…don’t worry! It will just be a lot of work :) Also…my kids are 2.5 years apart and I looked like you do with your kids only a year apart…so WAY TO GO YOU!!!!

  3. deedee Says:
    January 15th, 2010 at 5:23 pm

    wicked scar man!

    btw belly shirts arent even in style anymore, so who cares, get fit when you can and at least you already have a great butt!

  4. Sarah Says:
    January 15th, 2010 at 6:56 pm

    You came to the right place, my friend. You aren’t alone with your story. I encourage you to leaf through this site. Congratulations on your sweet babies!

  5. Me Says:
    January 16th, 2010 at 3:15 am

    Holy cow, I didn’t realize that you were only seventeen DAYS postpartum! I read “months”! You’re still healing. I think we all feel like that we’ve been hit by a truck after we’ve given birth–especially if we had more than one child in a very short period of time. There’s a previous post here by a woman named Val. Her story reminds me of yours. It’s about four or six posts back. She had two pregnancies back to back. I think her story will encourage you.

  6. Tricia Says:
    January 16th, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    Oh you can get back to where you were! I gained 60 with my first (and got back to 110) and then 40 with my 2nd (7.5 mo pp now) and am working on losing the weight again. It CAN be done. But at 17 days pp, you are right where you should be. Hang in there, as the months pass, it will get better. I second the recommendation of the 30 day shred! Its awesome! Congrats on your two babies and keep your chin up! you’ll get back to where you were!

  7. melanie Says:
    August 6th, 2010 at 8:52 am

    Hi all I’m 17 days pp and its c section no3 it was my 5th preg lost my 1st child difficult labour den 6months lata was preg insisted on a c section den 2years lata preg 3 miscaraige den preg no4 had a c setion baby passed away den was fell preg 6months lata had another c section baby is well I lost all the weight I put on for this preg and its 17dayspp but wen I look at my tummy I feel so sad da sag is so bad what can I do to help the apperance and don’t even talk about stretch marks I got stretch marks for africa like a map. Tnx in advance for any help

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