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18 Months After CS and a Beautiful Girl… (Anonymous)

December 10, 2008

This is my body now. I hate it. After my CS i was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Polycystic ovarie syndrom. Because of the Polyblabla its hard to lose weight, since everything you eat gains on the stomach. I was a size 36(european sizes.. small/medium) the day i had my girl, and the day after i was a size 46. I got a beautiful daughter and a body i hate, that is not mine, but her mothers. I feel so disgraced that she has to live with a mother like me, what will she think? Why me, why did i have to get diseases like that, making me invalid at 25… I try so hard to accept my body, and when i see all the skinny, beautiful women here i tend to get happy but also sad; you all look great!!! Luckily my husband loves me and my body, so i cope “fine” with it, but its a war inside.





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10 Responses to “18 Months After CS and a Beautiful Girl… (Anonymous)”

  1. SAMERA Says:
    December 11th, 2008 at 2:44 am

    Hi I read what you wrote about your self and it upset me because i dont see anything wrong with your body your womenly don’t be so down on your self! Believe me you got a lucky escape I put on alot of weight and got stretch marks all over my tummy and now I have loose skin and its all wrinkly I am down to 130 lbs but people cannot see under my shirt I am sooo embarrased of anyone seeing it I would die I just cant wait until I can afford a tummy tuck! I would love to have your tummy so young looking honestly you have nothing to be ashamed of and your Daughter is lucky to have you!

  2. Andy Says:
    December 11th, 2008 at 3:19 am

    You look wonderful to me. I think you are silly to think those things when you are actually very hot.

  3. Julie Says:
    December 11th, 2008 at 12:30 pm

    OMG, you look just like me. Im only 8 months pp, but I feel the same. You look beautiful, love yourself, and know that your daughter thinks you are beautiful no matter what you look like..

  4. Cassidy, mom of 1 Says:
    December 12th, 2008 at 9:09 pm

    I think you look beautiful! Your breasts are similar to mine. I struggled with liking them at first, but I see the beauty in them more and more each day.

  5. Cierra Says:
    December 13th, 2008 at 11:35 am

    quite honestly you look fantastic. I’d be lying if I said I understood what you’re going through. But try and appreciate yourself. I gained 90 during my pregnancy and lost 55lbs over the past 8 months but my tummy looks like complete crap.

    Its all wrinkly and hangs to my knee caps!

    You look fabulous!
    <3

  6. Submitter Says:
    December 17th, 2008 at 8:26 am

    Hello! Thank you all for your comments, it really helped me alot!! It was a big step for me to submit these photoes but now with your comments i understand, my husband is right: i dont look bad. Its just in my head. I’m actually abit ok with my boobs, i “like” them” – its just hard to handle a new body, but its my body, and i am the mother of the best daugther in the world – so that should count for something!!
    Thank you for all your dear comments! It made my day :-)

  7. Anna Says:
    December 21st, 2008 at 2:05 am

    I’m with the first comment.. I miss having filled out skin so bad…

  8. Jeff Says:
    December 21st, 2008 at 10:36 pm

    From a husband of a wife with similiar PP body issuses, the love your husband has for your body is not conditional. YOU are the one he loves, your body has created his child (the one person in the world he loves nearly as much as you) and communicates your love to him. There is nothing this side of heaven more beutiful than that.

  9. Jessie Says:
    January 26th, 2009 at 5:37 pm

    I know how hard it can to live with fibromyalgia and PCOS. I am 26 now and am 16 wks pregnant with my first baby. I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia at 17 yrs old. And although had PCOS issues since I was 14 wasn’t diagnosed until about 20.
    I am totally shocked (still) to even be pregnant because for years many dr;s said that if I ever got pregnant it would prob be after a lot of hard work trying and i still might not happen. I started taking metformin for the PCOS and within 6 mo TADAH ur pregnant!! WHAT>?!?! anyways. so now im on this journey with these “WONDERFUL” conditions and being pregnant. I weighed at the very most 275 and only 5’6”. a few years ago, I’d gotten down to 230, and at 8 weeks when i found out the news i was already 236. I havent been under 200 since 2001. And it doesn’t look like I will be any time soon. :( But in July I will have a glorious baby and can blame my previous lot of stretch marks on being pregnant not because i had PCOS, fibromyalgia and severe depression! At least ill say they are from being pregnant to anyone in the future that doesnt know better! Blessings too you. And keep looking at the positive things. Congrats on your new baby.. we almost have the same boobs..lol!

  10. laura giffard Says:
    March 27th, 2009 at 4:18 am

    honey, you feel the same as me im 25 and through pregnancys gained weight i went from an 8 to an 18 now, im still over 60lbs heavier than i was before i had kids, my belly is so much worse than yours it hangs over so bad i cant see my pubs and have to lift it to wash under it.

    After my last pregnancy, i was so low i wanted to die. At my 12 week scan the lady doing it laid into me about how fat my middle was she couldnt find my baby and told me to pull it out of the way. On the day of my csection they had to lift my tummy and tie it up out of the way to perform a csection (ive had three kids)

    Im only a size fourteen everywhere but due to my middle i have to wear a uk size 18 to fit round the bulge.

    Id give my back teeth to look like you honey, but doesnt matter how much people tell you you look great if you dont feel it yourself no one can make you feel good about yourself

    ive sobed to my doctor about how disgusting i feel about my middle, bare in mind they have it on record that before i had kids i was anorexic for years. my doctors advice diet and take these i was prescribed prozac

    This site has helped me after spending many hours siftng through the skinny mums complaining which makes me laugh finding you whos story is same as mine yet has a body a million times better than mine yet still hates it.

    you look amazing i know so many women that would give there back teeth including myself to look like you. rather than focusing on what you dont have look at what you do have. a gorgeous daughter you would do anything for, a partner that loves you (it is true though if you cant love yourself youll never believe anyone else can)

    rather than focusin on what you cat control or change focus on what you can like giving your daughter the best childhood you can. showing her you can love yourself and your body for the way it is asno ones perfect

    celebrities really piss me of as they fail to mention they have a csection, lipo and a tummy tuck all at the same time, a hairdresser and make up artist in the hospital wth them which is why they look so skinny and good when they leave the hospital following the birth of their child. they have a nanny to take care of the baby, a personnal dietician and cook to ensure they eat the foods that aid weight loss and a whole team of personal trainers to get the weight of. if they werent celebs and didnt have all the money they wouldnt look like that

    ut due to magazines and tv it puts unfair pressure and strain on us normal mums to reach an unrealistic goal, or to except our bodies for the way they are

    i think ive gone on enough now, love you for you inside not the external as its not that imprtant i promise you thats what im learning to do now x

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