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16 married, 17 first baby (Ashley)

November 7, 2008

first 0f all i l000ve this site!! i finally feel lyke im n0t al0ne!0kayy i g0t married @16..yeah i kn0w its y0ung but i l00ve him&& we were like why wait lets jus d0 it!2m0nths later i g0t pregnant for the first time! i gained 62lbs..i was skinny my wh0le life s0 i just keep eating! i th0ught the weight w0uld just fall 0ff 0f me..but b0y was i wr0ng! && stretch marks..man their everyyywhere!!! i g0t them 0n my b00bs,arms.belly and legs..like i said everyyywhere!!0n Jan 30 2008 i had my baby girl named bailey nic0le r0bles! shes my w0rld i didnt kn0w you c0uld l0ve s0me0ne s0 much! i w0uld d0 anything f0r her shes my heart my everything! she makes me soo happy! i love her soo much! but after i gave birth i l00ked @my b0dy && i hated it! i cryed so much to my husband he made me feel better at that time but then i w0uld jus g0t back & l00k at myself again and then i w0uld cry s0me m0re! my baby is n0w 81/2m0nths && i still hate my belly! it saggs theres stretch marks everywhere! i hate g0ing t0 sch00l and seeing all th0se skinny girls and it makes me wanna cry cuz im fat and l00k nasty! i wish i was like th0se girls that have babys and it d0nt even l00k like it…but thats just n0t me! i try t0 w0rk 0ut but its hard trying t0 find time t0 d0 it..g0ing t0 sch00l,taking care 0f my daughter& at 0ne p0int i did have a j0b..but 0ne day i h0pe i get my 0ld b0dy back..cuz i d0nt like this 0ne! but i l00ve my daughter…i jus l00k @her and think it was all w0rth it!! :]












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16 Responses to “16 married, 17 first baby (Ashley)”

  1. Louise Says:
    November 7th, 2008 at 11:36 am

    You are not fat and you are not ugly. I think you look great. Besides our bodies change as we age.At least you have something good to show for it.

  2. Ashley Says:
    November 7th, 2008 at 12:16 pm

    I think you look fantastic! You’re still very thin and your tummy is flat, mine has a big saggy flap that I’m praying is going to go away! And I’m only 20 so I’m a young mommy too. And by the way, those aren’t stretch marks, they’re battle scars. =] You did a fantastic thing growing and nurturing an entire person for 9 months, congratulate yourself, don’t condemn yourself, hunn!

  3. MilkMama Says:
    November 7th, 2008 at 1:12 pm

    That was kind of hard to read with the insertion of zeros where the o’s belonged.

    I love your photographs. You are beautiful and your pregnancy photos are gorgeous. Your little girl is so adorable!!!

    I just have one thing to say. There’s a big difference between you and the girls at school. YOU are a woman now. You gave birth. You’re not a girl any more. THEY are girls. Their bodies are still screaming, “I’m a girl.” And yours is now a woman’s body. That’s the major difference. And YOU should not be so hard on yourself. You have lost A LOT of weight and you look fabulous. Remember that. Remember it always. NEVER put yourself down, or your body down. YOU are a mother now. And most importantly, you are a mother to a GIRL. She will look up to you and mirror all that you say about yourself. If you say, “I’m ugly, fat, etc., etc,” Then she will grow up believing that that is exactly what she is. Children love their parents, idolize them, believe they are perfect and beautiful. If you say you are ugly, then turn around and say she is beautiful, then she’ll think, “What’s wrong with me? I think my mother is beautiful, but she says she’s ugly, then she says I’m beautiful… I must be ugly.” See where I’m going with this?

    I’m 24, I have a daughter of my own, almost 2. Every day, I look in the mirror, naked or just pulling up my shirt and I think, “I’m beautiful. I’m sexy.” Not to be vain, but to remind myself that I am a beautiful human being. And to top it off, I’m made in the image of God, and so are you. God is beautiful, so that must mean that I am beautiful, too, right? When we put down our own self images, then we’re putting down His image, His creation.

    I hope you update us in a year or so. It gets better all the time. Even two years after having my daughter, my body is still changing.

  4. Lela Says:
    November 7th, 2008 at 2:38 pm

    Your pictures are lovely but your paragraphs were SOOOO hard to read!

  5. Shealene Says:
    November 8th, 2008 at 1:45 am

    You’re beautiful and so is your daughter!!! And by the way, my husband and I were 17 & 19 when we got married and we’ve been married for over 3 years now and still very in love (we were together for 2 years before that). Being young doesn’t mean you can’t make it work, so don’t let anyone discourage you. And as time goes by, your skin will tighten up some, you look good I think! Oh and awesome job staying in school too!!!

  6. Makayla Says:
    November 8th, 2008 at 7:04 pm

    Don’t worry hunny. I was 17 when I got prego. I had my baby right after I turned 18. Now Im 19. My daughter is 17mo..You have plenty of time to shape it up. And believe me the saggy skin and streach marks improve with time. It only been 8mo so you have SO much time to lose it. Your husband loves you and what your body gave him so just remember that when you get sad.

  7. Chuck Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 12:15 am

    Your stretch marks will fade. I can’t even see my wife’s anymore. Give it time and enjoy your life, don’t worry about the little things.

  8. AsHleY r0bLeS Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 12:57 pm

    thank you all for all your kind words..they make me so happy reading them!:]
    –yeah my husband & i were 2gether for 3yrs before we got married and we been married going on 2yrs!
    –i do go back to school.as you can tell im a senior!!yahhh my last yr. i cant wait till im done with school..but i really do want to go to collage,but we jus have to wait & see if we have the money!
    –but again thank you all for all your kindness and time to write me and make me feel better THANK YOU!!

  9. Tamara Says:
    November 11th, 2008 at 8:30 pm

    WOW!!!! our stories are EXACT!!! no lie!!! I too had my son at 19…btw ur freakn gorgeous girl! but anyway i was very skinny and loved everything about my body….after having my son i too ended up getting saggy belly skin and stretch marks LITERALLY from me boobs to my ankles!!! im a 11 months pp and still look at myself over and over and just can get over do i really look like this?? do i really have these scars covering my body? and then i see young moms who have kids who are in bikinis the next day!!! it drives me insane so insane to the point i just had to stop looking at girls…wishing i had their flat flawless stomach and legs and realize i am beautiful and i have a beautiful healthy baby!! and with time sweety it does get better! the weight eventually melts away, the saggy skin eventually smooths out a bit and the stretch marks fade!! i feel ya girly i know what ur going through…im on here too!! feel free to check out my story its under 19 and insecure (Tamara)

  10. liv Says:
    November 14th, 2008 at 11:39 am

    Ok let me just say that even though i am a complete stranger to you…lol you are such a beautiful person and youve lost more than enough weight you look great…..i was having trouble accepting my body after my first pregnancy and now im pegnant again and im so afraid that my body will look even worse but im trying not to think about that and just think of how we are strong women thats why god gave the birth experience to us….men are weenies and if they were the ones that gave birth we wouldnt have any babies but you still look beautiful and i hope after my second baby i will look as beautiful as you do…P.S. I love you and bailey and i miss you gorgeous…take care

  11. liv Says:
    November 15th, 2008 at 10:09 am

    Girlfriend you look amazing…better than most people that dont even have kids and your daughter is gorgeous maybe your daughter and mine can be bestfriends mine is named alana shes always talkin about some girl named bailey so maybe shes talkin bout your daughter…but your a sexy mother so dont feel bad about your body and one day we will actually workout together!!!!!!!!!!

  12. Jaclyn Says:
    November 15th, 2008 at 8:27 pm

    You and your baby are beautiful. You have come a long way, and it is obvious how hard you have worked to drop the weight.

  13. Ashley Says:
    November 18th, 2008 at 3:50 pm

    You look great!!! I also got married at 16 and had our daughter at 17..5 years later a 4 year old and an 8 month old. I gained 100 lbs with both of them but being so young we jump back :) I hope you well and prove everyone wrong that even thought we married young IT DOES WORK OUT:)!!

  14. SAMERA Says:
    December 7th, 2008 at 1:01 pm

    OMG ur tummy looks exactly like mine !

  15. ashley Says:
    August 12th, 2009 at 2:05 pm

    you my belly twin, same name and all, your gorgeous though!

  16. Mel Says:
    October 21st, 2009 at 10:17 pm

    That is identical to my belly, the marks fade promise!

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